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It really is.
Don’t try if he did though… At least until your time in NC is over. Because at that time you’ll have a much more solid head on top of your shoulders.
He might be the one to call you back instead. But for now, you gotta put one step forward and put you first.
NC works because it forces you to focus on you alone. You will learn to detach yourself from him and realize that it’s you that should be the primary focus in your life.
Bear in mind, he probably blocked you as well because he’s feeling the same way too.
It’s probably best for the two of you.
Mike, methinks you should probably just wait for an answer. Expecting one so soon and considering how late it is, you might as well wait until morning.
@altea1234 Glad to hear it! I’m really pleased you’ve grown so much since I’ve last seen you on the forums (wow, it’s been that long? I’ve been just busy!). Keep an open mind and remember there’s all these opportunities for you to grasp for!
I concur with what LABound said said here.
Also, you really need to go see someone about those feelings of yours. It’s hard, I know, but you need to really step back and ask yourself a lot of questions.
Do some soul searching. Meditation, that kind of things.
All the while, you can do something that will make you happy… Maybe except sit on a couch and eat potato chips all day (but that’s ok too, but only once in a while.).
For me, not since the initial breakup. I find it easier if I don’t bring it up and I quickly change the topic if my friends do bring it up.
I find it easier to cope with if there was no mention of it at all. It hurts down inside, but I’m the sort of person who wouldn’t show their feelings on the outside. I don’t want to show my friends that I can cave and buckle…. I cry privately in the safe confines of my sanctuary.
@Celtj009
All you can do is control things you have for yourself. You can’t really worry about the things you don’t have control of.Just wait on it, is my best guess.
What Martin said.
Great job on that!
My ex is currently having issues and is contemplating suicide, so I have to limit my contact with him unless he comes running to me for help.
While I can’t think of what’s going on through your head or your hubby’s head, I can see why he said that though. While he’s deployed, I don’t think he wants you to worry about him being shot up while on routine patrols.
I have a lot of friends who are deployed and I can only imagine what they were going through at the time.
My friend did the same thing when I told her about the feelings I felt about my ex when we broke up… I doubt he cares. (My name is also easily googe-able too, so…)
I hardly think this would ever be the case. It’s why I decided to go with strange anime/weaboo names. My tip for you is to usually do the first initial and last. For example M. Hartmann
I wouldn’t pay any mind to it. Keep up your NC and if she does mention that you entered a relationship during this time, all you have to do is to be honest. Don’t sugar coat it.
It’s a risk we all have to take when we chose to do this.
When I was a needy person, trying to text my ex while he was busy, he wouldn’t reply back. I sorta half expected him to reply back, but he didn’t. It did hurt, and that started nurturing the negative feelings that made me put in this situation in the first place. He had to tell me again when we were both upset that it would be best to stop completely and it hurt a lot. I honestly do miss him and I missed doing stuff with him, but I can’t cling on to something that’s going to hurt both of us in the long run.
The time in NC is not only for you, but it’s also for your ex to spend the time to reflect on what happened. And now that I think about it, secretly hoping he’d like your status is also sort of looking for him out in the crowd. I think that would count as eye contact in real life. I think that should be considered breaking NC. You have to completely cut yourself from doing those behaviors otherwise you’re still stuck in that same rut.
It’s hard I know. Day 3 here and I don’t expect my ex to contact me. I don’t know how he’s going because he doesn’t post on FB very often or we don’t talk much.
There’s always hope if you believe, but like I’ve said so many times, you must also go through the acceptance phase that he’ll never come back.
It’s still too early for you, so my guess is to keep going at this strong. A week is not enough time.
Great that you’re keeping it that way!
I’m really tempted to get back to my ex, but I know better. I don’t know what else I can do if he DOES contact me though. So these posts here give me a good idea on how to act.
Congrats Krista! 😀 You’ve definitely given me hope for my situation as well! 😀 Good luck and have a good and long one!
Don’t do it. Your NC time is for you and yourself only. Don’t give him a sign that you remember him on his birthday. If it was closer to the end of your NC period, I’d say go for it, but this is too early.
My opinion though.
Yes, that’s what most people are afraid of when you’re ready to do reconciliation. I’m actually afraid of that myself… The fact he won’t give me a second chance. I really did screw up and it was my fault.
I guess when the time comes, I will have to man up and ask him directly. It’s the least I can do, because I live on a policy of living with honesty.
You should definitely think about it, and also try not to be super hasty about it. I think it would be best to actually spend more time discovering yourself. Go out with someone else, go with friends.
After all, you know yourself best!
But you also have to realize that coming back together may not be a reality if this is the case. You need to be ready for this kind of situation. Be wary and tread carefully!
