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Wow, I did the exact same thing after me and my ex broke up. I was needy and clingy. Do you live in London by any chance?
I think we should start a thread to encourage us all to meet up outside the board, we could all then go for drinks/night out etc!
Don’t take this the wrong way but I don’t want to say where i’m from. Trying to remain as anonymous as possible for obvious reasons!
What I will say though is that we don’t live close anyway, unfortunately! I respect the idea though 🙂
Haha, I think it’ll be best to stay that way. To stay anonymous. It’ll be weird and awkward to find your ex here too after all. o.o
Anyway, this is my first day of NC… My ex flat out told me he wanted us to be friends, but I noticed that I have been trying to be so needy for his attention that it would be best for met stop talking to him at all for the month. He told me a few months ago he is contemplating suicide, so this makes me afraid if I should ever break the NC rule to lend him an ear.
Also, weirdly, I somehow got myself into another relationship of the opposite gender, which I honestly don’t mind because he actually encouraged me to chase other relationships…. Though I feel bad though; I haven’t looked at anyone else since I made a mistake a few months ago (Spur of the moment) and he had forgiven me since then. I don’t post about it on Facebook; that leaves a bad taste in my mouth.
I am also studying for my finals right now, so it is helping me distract myself from him at all.
I still really want him back in my life, but it really hurts to know that I’ve been cast aside and can’t do jack didily about it.
Im doing my NC for 5 days. Sometimes i feel ok and sometimes i feel miserable and sick because i missed him so much. He doesnt text me at all during NC or find me anyways. I believed he is very happy with his relationship now. Thats why he doesnt care or missed me i think? I think my hope is very slim and might be hopeless. Sometimes i just hope even though they closed from bestfriend to couple, i just hope its a rebound. He moved on so soon and i just cnt believe it they been together like a month plus ans they seems soooo in love in public and of course in private.
This is my first time doing nc and i dont know about nc works or not. But i really want him back and hope he missed me a bit and realized it. I just not sure whether i do have hope or not hmmm
Hey everybody,
I’m on day 9 of the no contact rule and today is a particularly hard day for me.
In the last couple days I’ve been pretty busy. I’m going out with friends, get in touch with old friends I’ve lost contact a while ago, meet new people, exercise, pick up old hobbies of mine and looking into college applications.
All these things helped me so far to kind of numb the constant pain I experienced because of the break up.
Yesterday I went on a date. That guy obviously was interested in me but all I could think about was my ex. It felt like I was cheating on him. It made me miss him more and unfortunately I got emotional about the break up and started to talk about my ex. I kind of used this other guy as my shrienk. Which created this really akward atmosphere for the both of us.My ex boyfriend stopped contacting me last tuesday. I miss him! But if I’m thinking aboout him too much then this wave of sadness will overcome me..
All,
My breakup was 7 months ago (woooaaahh!!). I sent that magic letter after a month–no response. Around 3.5 months after the breakup I met her boss and she told me that my ex is graduating. So I took the chance to send her email and she replied me back. We exchanged some emails and then things went bad again and she started using the same derogatory phrases as she would do before the breakup (I was a doormat). Anyway, it did not work for me and I found that I had the same bad feelings that I had in the first day of NC after 3.5 months.
I get emails and notifications from this thread. So I showed up to warn you guys about doing NC. It really sucks when you so no real progress after months of NC. So I really warn you guys that it NC may not be good for your mental health! Obsessing 3 months on the plan and eventually failing in it is a big smash in your face–just my 2 cents worth words.
Robot 3
Correction: derogatory phrases was not the best description. I don’t know–something that make you say sorry for nothing real–unfair criticism.
I do agree with you on that bit. There’s no guarantee for everything; it’s just a means and a way to help you cope.
I realized that NC is also a period of evaluation. You have to evaluate not only yourself, but your ex and the relationship. If you know that you can get him or her back after that period, by all means go for it! But you must also take this time to build up and realize that getting back together may not be a reality. You have to understand this if you are going to take NC.
Evaluation… With my experience thinking about the plan hinders a fair evaluation. For a good evaluation, you have to be out of it to “see it”. You also need some break. However, even if you realize what went wrong you’ll need a second chance to prove it with my experience on this site, most don’t get this second chance, TBH.
Yes, that’s what most people are afraid of when you’re ready to do reconciliation. I’m actually afraid of that myself… The fact he won’t give me a second chance. I really did screw up and it was my fault.
I guess when the time comes, I will have to man up and ask him directly. It’s the least I can do, because I live on a policy of living with honesty.
I hope you two dont bump into each other..or else you would have to restart your NC period..
my boyfriend is not reaching out for me yet, I supposed he must be very happy with his life now without me. But now im telling myself its ok and my motivation to continue with NC is the reminder of how sad I would be when I start talking to him.you see he doesnt love me anymore..all he can talk about is that new girl he is ‘in love’ with@Robot3
I nearly broke my NC of 7 days after reading your message! I have the feeling that NC might not work for me to considering the fact that my ex has not texted me the past few days. He must be contented now.. I really do not want to be in the situation whereby no one replies to my magic letter. It happened to my friend once too, her boyfriend eventually gave up on her in less than a month and stopped calling up on her altogether.
I feel a month of NC is way too long, really.
Your situation almost the same with me. My ex boyfriend doesnt love me anymore. He doesnt text me or reach me in any ways. All he do is keep tagging his new girlfriend and being sweet in public. It hurts me very much
Perhaps 19 until 21 days is ok. And i want to try to reach him after even he is not texting me at all but by sending interesting msg and not just boring of “hye” maybe?
Most people would prefer to remain anonymous..I hope you keep your NC up till January at least. I think you ex will be back with you after that period since you were her first relationship. Maybe in January, once we have all succeeded NC for approximately a month, we can all meet up.
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