Maria

I think somewhere int he plan it says that you can tell them if you have to, just say ” I am taking sometime for myself right now” and don’t elaborate further. Read what Kevin says and go from there.

You need start working not he false friendship, but you need to take it SLOW. Don’t say anything about her ignoring you, just send her a laid back simple, how is your day going text. Keep the convos short and relaxed 🙂

Oh yeah no good if she was not the one who gave you her address, especially if things were not good between you two.
Here is how girls look at things like that:
If you and I are in a relationship and things are going really well and you get “creative” and do things like that – we love it!!!
If you and I are not in a relationship or things are not going well and you get “creative” that scares us and you look like a stalker.

I think you need to stay NC for at least 45 – 60 days.

Well everything you are hearing is right, even if it seems to contradict itself..
Yes she still cares about you.
Yes she is confused.
Yes she is trying to move on.
Yes she wants to be with you.
NC is to try to get an ex back and Kevin has a very specific plan to go on from there so you is not just that they come back because they miss you and then they are gone.
Yes NC is also so you can get over them.
Yes if you stay in touch she may change her mind.
Yes if you go NC she may move on.
Yes if you go NC she may come back.

The thing is that there is no absolute right way to go about it. Every situation is different and everything you are reading is just suggestions and you have to decide what is best in your situation. And there are no guarantees with anything in life.
I am sorry you are having such a hard time, we all are or have been there we just come here to hear other peoples opinions to helps us make our own decisions.
All of us that are here are here because we don’t just want to get over our exes 🙁
The only thin i can tell you is that I have had, exes that even when I used NC they never came back and I have had another one that did, but but the time he came back I did not want him anymore.
Just take some time and you will figure it out eventually.

He has feelings for you, otherwise he would not care to doing all that.
You need to stop responding completely. If you are going to do NC then do it, don’t play around with it, otherwise it won’t work.

I had a situation that reminds me of yours.. and after a long time of my hoping things would get better I finally had to walk away for my own sanity.

I think the suggestion about therapy is a good one, sometimes you have to try everything before you say enough.

There is one very important lesson I learned though – I can not change anyone nor can I save anyone from themselves. They have to want it more than me. And I wish now I would have walked away a lot sooner!
An interesting thin happen though, like many of articles say, once I moved on and no longer cared, he wanted me more than ever.

You wait as long as necessary, and for men to take action is a lot longer than what we girls think is right.

Don’t play games, but just mirror his behavior a little bit. If he calls you answer if you are available and if not then you call him back when you can.

Here is how I would start this:
Start by calling less and see how it goes. If you normally call him every day, change it to every other day.
If he does not step up to call you more, then time to pull back even more. Start going 2 days without calling him.
Also you can set it up to encourage him to call you, for example the next time you are in a conversation with him, say something like ” Hey it was nice talking to you, my friend/sister whatever is here and we are about to out and do super fun thing, but give me a call later! :)” and then wait to see if he takes the bait.
Also start ending the conversations 5 mins before you think you should. You need to start creating some space in between you two, so he can start missing you a bit.
let us know how it goes!