Contacted Exgf

So the conversation went well I thought. She replied, we caught up on how we are doing. I then ended the conversation saying I had to run to a meeting. She replied with:

Have a good day

There is nothing good that is going to come from us talking, I’m happy you are doing things for yourself. I am with Jon now. He is great, everything I’ve wanted in someone -social,outgoing, loves life, does crossfit, plays ultimate frisbee, he is very active and well accomplished, loves his job, makes good money and cares for me. That’s all I needed in someone

You’ve had all these chances, you wanted to just sit at home everyday and watch movies and play games.

I couldn’t see a future with you and I still couldn’t now sorry

She then apologized about 30 mins. later saying she thought I meant something else, and that she is still on edge with me.

I plan to not reply and start NC again. Good idea?

Thanks. It was tough to read the first time, but I learned so much from our talk.

1. She replied to me. After her texting me first for 3 weeks and me just giving basic polite answers, I sent her the first text since the break up and she responded relatively quick (with my phone I can see when she reads it and the reply came seconds later).

2. We had a good civil conversation talking about how we are doing, work, activities, and her dog. When I asked what she has been up to she did not say hanging with her new boyfriend- she said work, friends, and her dog.

3. Her rant (not sure what to call it) about her boyfriend’s qualities and not ever wanting to get back together with me came totally unprovoked. I said goodbye and she replied with that. I did not say I wanted to get back together. I think she was trying to make jealous or something.

4. I took the high road and responded I was happy for her and wished her the best. I wished her luck in getting a promotion at work. She responded by calling me worthless and wasting her time. But then after a while she back tracked and apologized. She said she thought I meant something else. I’ve re-read this part and I cannot figure out what she was confused about. I think my niceness upset her because she wants to mad with me. At the end she said she is still on edge with me because I hurt her.

So overall,

She started a relationship 1 week after we broke up. She brings up how great it is all the time. She is trying to make me jealous.

Reality- she is very hurt and misses me. She does not want to be hurt again and thus the anger in her words. She needs more time.

What do you all think?

Travel that is my plan NC until she reaches out, if she does. I have focused on myself. Doing a sports league, cross fit, and flying to London and Nashville all in the next 3 weeks.

What do you think of the text messages and my thoughts on them?

Thanks travelbug. Can you give me your honest opinion on what my ex said to me (as opposed to my reply)? Chris from the exgfrecovery site said the conversation, and I copied it exactly, “it seems relatively good”. I am having a hard time seeing how it was good, except she responded and then she later apologized. The middle part though….like you said full of emotions.

I know, everyone I know is pissed at her for how quickly she “moved on” and the subsequent texts she sent me in the first 3 weeks. They all say move on, but all of us here know how hard that is. As we do NC do make them miss us, we also start to forget the bad memories too. Thinking of her sleeping with hew new bf makes me mad, but right now I would still take her back.

I spent 5 years single and she was my first date. I had/have a lot of issues stemming back to high school where my gf at the time left me (or cheated on me I never really knew which) with my best friend. Right there I lost my gf, best friend, and my entire group of friends. That took me 3 years to get over. Then my next gf last two years after college and that whole time I never really committed to her. Never once thought about getting married.

So 5 years go by, and I work up the nerve to actually look online, and within a month she messages me. Just a funny intro, that I didn’t get right away, but we messaged for a week then met up and right away we hit it off. She was completely open and spontaneous, and had no fears. After two months I was fine saying “when we get married, when we have kids” it was that kind of love…

So will I wait around? I am trying not to, but I don’t plan on any serious dates. I won’t be looking, but if I meet someone who knows. Need to go NC for at least another month…maybe she will reach out and maybe she won’t.

hey everyone. So on the advice of a friend I accepted her snapchat friend request. Just being friendly. I wait about a day and then posted on mystory (which is a public list of snaps that all friends can access) 3 photos of my trip to london, one of which is a selfie of me dressed up for work.

So a few hours go bye and my ex texts me:

Her: I am only friends with you on snap to be nice. taking pics of yourself doesnt make me want you, I hope you know. I already had sex with Jon so I would never go back to you. Sorry. Nothing turns me off more than people taking pictures of themselves. I would rather see you in a picture with a girl having fun. I re-read your dating profile and there are a ton of red flags I missed. I can take you off snapchat if you are getting the wrong idea.

Me:I sent that photo to many people not just you. And you added me as friend…so i can’t take photos of myself? Also I asked for the breakup, but realized I made a mistake after two weeks. I was hurting from my dog dieing and drinking alot. I didnt feel good about myself and pushed everyone away. But I was wrong and realized that after 2 weeks. But you started dating in 1 week which tells me a lot about you. No good can come from being friends on snapchat or any other app right now.

Her: I was over you before the summer started. I knew you werent the one but just kept going. I realized who you are and you were never going to change. Okay then don’t add me, you are stressing me out again. Jon doesn’t do this to e. We are official so it’s a done deal now.

Me: Well I am happy for you. I really am. Like I said before you deserve happiness. I am sorry I stress you out, but I dont appreciate the angry texts from you. But I am busy so goodbye.

Her: Are you kidding me, you traumatized me and Jons trying to mend me.

That’s as far as it went before she blocked me I think. I also unfriended her on snapchat and blocked her texts.

Thoughts (aside from I shouldn’t have responded or posted the photos- but its my snaps to my friends what does she expect I cannot take photos of myself?)