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My ex broke up with me because she thought I cheated on her when I never did. She found a dating app on my phone I forgot to erase and never used since before we went out . She also said my Facebook was full of whores but I never talked to anybody else on it and they were there because I’m Christian and make movies so I added them to help them change their lives for the better. After the break up I messed up the no contact rule added her back on fb but people said to move on because she didn’t talk so I went to a bar with a friend he posted getting my boy back in the game I erased it but she saw this and that I added 3 girls on fb cause people told me to. She flipped out said all the names in the book and that she would call the cops if I went to her house or work and dropped off everything I ever gave her. When she did I was at a movie with my family and she said I should have been home. Throughout all of this I kept telling her I never cheated and I was never mean or swore like she did. But she never believed me. I even told her the truth of why there was girls on my fb before the break, which because I’m Christian and make movies of such things and post things about God on there to try to help them. The day when she dropped my stuff off was 2 weeks after the break up . The day after that I said sorry again and she became friends with me for a week but kept saying she was hanging out with other guys so I sent another big one trying to explain everything again she ignored me a week then said leave me alone. Then on her bday I said happy bday and we talked like we were back together until that night she flipped out again because apparently I made her feel deevaluated the whole time . Even though if you read my other post during our relationship I did everything for her. So that made me mad and I sent a text saying maybe I should block her now so we can calm down and I said God bless I love her and you know other ways of contacting me. She replied with fuck you and blocked my phone,fb,Instagram,and snapchat. After a week I sent her a message from my friends phone and got no reply. Now it’s 4 months later and people still say get over it so I redownloaded the app meetme which was one of the ones she thought I was using during it and saw her on there. It said she just got it 2 weeks ago. I made my bio say something like looking for someone that will actually trust me because I’ve been hurt before. She saw I saw hers and she went on mine and blocked me. I still love her and want to send something because I feel like I never got to explain all of it yet. I can either send her an iMessage with my iPad or a letter in the mail which one would be better? Also I heard maybe I should wait like 6 months should I? And Im scared she might try to call the cops because of what people say how long should I wait and how should I send something if I don’t want her to get a restraining order or something like that because I still want to be able to get a good job.
Hmmm I am not sure this is the right time to send her anything.. She blocked you from the app, so she is still not open to having contact with you.
I think I would probably wait 6 months, she needs to forget any of the needy behavior you may have expressed.
You need to just stay away and don’t do anything to look for her in any way.
After the 6moths, you can send her a letter and see what happens. In the mean time work on yourself and go out on a few dates, just for fun and to get your confidence level back up.Do you think I can send the iMessage with my iPad then or just the letter to her house. Only because she might be in college so if I send it to her house her parents might find it first.
I think like Kevin says a letter is such a rare thing these days and it might make a bigger impact. I am sure when the time comes you will know what is best 🙂
I understand why the letter might mean more to her but if she’s off to college and if her parents remember my name do you think they would just throw it out? Mainly because she probably told them I cheated on her when I never did but we all know they’ll most likely believe her.
Put a different name on the outside Lol or send it to her college?
I would send it inside a card, that could be from anybody 😉I don’t know her address at college and I’ll look into the card thing or how to send it without her knowing its me before reading. Is doing that illegal at all ? Also thank you to everybody that’s actually taking their time and responding to my posts
Nope, i have mailed stuff to my friends as surprises without a return address, the only problem with that is that if it gets lost there is no way for the post office to return it to you :/
If I send something I have been making what to send so far can you read it for me
Dear Morgan,
Hi this is Sean I just wanted to say I hope your having fun at school . I just flew over 18 mile creek recently and it reminded me of the time we went together. It’s very beautiful in the spring with all the different colored leaves. The lilacs are amazing. That was really fun going hiking there with you. 🙂 I know this message doesn’t fix what’s broken between us, and maybe it never will be. But I want you to know that I care deeply about you, and I always will. That part has never changed. The part that’s changed is that I realize how stupid I was to let you go. I know I said I won’t send you anymore but this is the one time I’m going against my word because love is to strong of a force to just let this sit inside of me. Im sorry if I ever got annoying, begged to much or sounded mean. Also that I said I was going to block you. I couldnt bring myself to do it and I would never want to thats why im still sending messages now. I said it in the heat of the moment to force myself to let things cool down. I’m extremely sorry the apps were there and would love to have the chance to make up for what happened. The months before we met my ocd was stopping me from earasing the apps because I’ll get anxiety whenever I scrolled through those pages on my phone . Also how my OCD worked was when I thought life was perfect I would have to do everything in a certain way so nothing would change. Since the breakup I have went to counseling for this and I truthfully don’t do it that much at all anymore. I got hot or not a year ago because after being single for 20 years I tried meeting people. I found out those apps suck for meeting people and stopped using them a year ago. The others were viruses that reappear every time I turn my phone on and off that’s why when you clicked on it the internet came up instead and it said download now. I forgot they were there especially after I met you because you are the only thing I can think about .It doesn’t make sense if I did anything behind your back because it goes against everything I said or did, and if i did I wouldnt have tried to get you to come back especially that im still trying to talk to you now even if we can at least be friends at some point would make me extremely happy. Also there was no reason to because your the only one I want to be with. I love you. Months after when we saw each other on meetme I downloaded it that night to see you and maybe send this on there because a friend of mine said that he saw you on it. I just didn’t send this earlier because I didn’t want to bother you and I actually did start typing this on the site when you blocked me so I thought it would be to soon. I didn’t look at porn since before we even started going out ,when we started hanging out more and getting closer. I can only think of you when I get horny because your the only one that did anything sexual with me and the only girlfriend I had so far and most of all because I love you. We had sex so much I wouldn’t want to look at it so I never did. Im sorry that I ever said you didn’t give me anything you didnt have to, just you being there and your love is the best gift of all, like I said the whole time and you did buy things like meals and gas. I’m sorry I listened to people about what to do and let them add people on my Facebook (whether it was to make you jealous or whatever they were trying to make me do, I just tried everything so you would come back ) If I talked to anybody else it was just as friends the conversations were they would ask “hows it going” then I would say “terrible I just got broken up with by the girl who I think is the one for me I hope I can be with her again” then they would say “sorry to hear that” and thats as far as it would go. People tell me to move on but I dont care what they are telling me and I realize now that I should have never listened to a word they said. Love is between us and only us. I just did that stuff because you are my first girlfriend and I love you with all my heart so when we broke up I thought I wasnt good enough and I was very scared that i was losing the one for me, so I tried everything anybody told me to do to try to help me get back together with you. I now learned from my mistakes and learned to always listen to my heart. I still have the pics we took together because they remind me of the happiest days of my life so far . I can go back into my memories and remember what once was and it brings a smile to my face knowing that you were once with me, just like the days I still dream of every night. I go to UB now but I will drop everything im doing and I will fly and drive to you even just to say hi. I miss and love everything about you. From every cell to every curve, freckle, your beautiful green eyes and the most amazing flawless smile I have ever seen. Especially your personality and whats on the inside and how your different from every other girl . Also how we both think that being different is an awesome thing. Also the fact that you dont talk about your animals as pets but as friends and family and how you love nature and admire the beauty of it. And going hiking and on walks with you to explore, exercise and be part of nature. I love texting you and our long phone calls we have every day. How you actually try at school and care about your grades . Also studying, going to school with you, how you want to be a doctor and being able to give you confidence to do better and try things in life like going to your exam that you woke up late for. I love giving you gifts alot like when you were at work to help you have a better day and especially giving them to you on special occasions like easter, all the other holidays and our anniversaries. Also watching movies, tv and playing video games with you and cuddling like no tomorrow. If I could ever hold you again ill hold you so good ill never want to let go of my miracle. I love getting ice cream and frozen yogurt with you and sharing our flavors. Also going out to eat with you and sitting our way next to each other so I could show the world how much I love you and hold and kiss you the whole time. I love sex with you everywhere we did it which is the closest a person can ever get with someone it was the best times of my life so far. Also our car rides and going on random adventures yelling out my window that I love you for the world to hear, hot tub times , looking at the stars and singing with you. I love our sleep overs and being able to go to sleep and wake up being the happiest person alive when im holding you . I nonstopped smiled at all times sleeping with you and love songs played in my head. All of those things and infinite more are ways that I love you and how you are my dreams come true. I’m willing to start over new and do whatever it takes. With you all the troubles of the world go away, and I’m extremely sorry for everything I ever did to make you sad or mad. Thank you for being different from every other girl and actually giving me a chance. You showed me that love still exists. Thank you for being there for me. You are my prayers answered and everything I ever said was true especially how we met and that I never did anything behind your back and the most important of them all, that I’ll always be there for you and that I love you. I may not be perfect and I may not be good at relationships because you were my first one but I do know one thing though and that is I love you with all my heart ♡♡♡♡
This first link is the movie Constant Angel . A film I told you about that was meant to help the world. It was a reason that I added so many people on Facebook but never talked to them. So I would just share this film and people might choose to watch it on there own to someday hopefully show the world that there is still hope and good in it and that hopefully things will get better.
Goo Goo Dolls-Iris Lyrics: http://youtu.be/B8UeeIAJ0a0
John Legend All Of Me Lyrics: http://youtu.be/Mk7-GRWq7wA ( being able to sing this song to and with you made me cry happy tears because I really love you with all my heart and it was one of the best times of my life so far) Red hot chili peppers – By the way (Lyrics): http://youtu.be/3bJbJZLz9KY (your favorite band)
Goo Goo Dolls – Let love In (Lyrics): http://youtu.be/rnYjGCFk6bg
Lil Wayne – How To Love (Shazam Version): http://youtu.be/y8Gf4-eT3w0
Beside You- Marianas Trench (lyrics): http://youtu.be/ojP7QzIw3Uc
Imagine Dragons – Radioactive: http://youtu.be/ktvTqknDobU
Staind – “Its Been A While” (lyrics): http://youtu.be/8q182kWAhiM Hoobastank – The Reason: http://youtu.be/fV4DiAyExN0
Show Me Light Lyrics by Ramin Karimloo: http://youtu.be/4nsTy_9N9DYYour letter is all over the place. You are writing this letter for you and not her. Don’t send this letter. You are mentioning things you want her to forget. The point is to only speak of nice loving things and not about your relationship and wrongs in it. She will just get mad and throw it out and you are back to square one.
Sadbreakup is right, this is too too much. You need to think about someone else reading this, the letter is not just an opportunity for you to say everything you feel.
What should I put in the letter then? I put all of that stuff because I felt like she still doesn’t believe me
Also I feel like I never got to fully describe how I never did anything bad and never got to apologize fully for the things I did do
This is another revised copy
Dear Morgan,
Hi this is Sean I just wanted to say I hope your having fun at school . I just flew over 18 mile creek recently and it reminded me of the time we went together. It’s very beautiful in the spring with all the different colored leaves. The lilacs are amazing. That was really fun going hiking there with you. 🙂 I know this message doesn’t fix what’s broken between us, and maybe it never will be. But I want you to know that I care deeply about you, and I always will. That part has never changed. The part that’s changed is that I realize how stupid I was to let you go. Im sorry if I ever got annoying, begged to much or sounded mean. I’m extremely sorry the apps were there and would love to have the chance to make up for what happened. The months before we met my ocd was stopping me from earasing the apps because I would have had to erase multiples of them so I just didn’t bother going through the trouble of it. How my OCD worked was when I thought life was perfect I would have to not change anything so nothing would change. So during our relationship and since the first day we met I would get anxiety if I even scrolled through those pages on my phone. Also you were the only person I can ever think about so I forgot they were there because I wasn’t using them and I didn’t even want to look at them because you are the only person that I love. Since the breakup I have went to counseling for this and I truthfully don’t have OCD that much at all anymore. I got hot or not a year ago. I found out those apps suck for meeting people and stopped using them then. The others were viruses that reappear every time I turn my phone on and off that’s why when you clicked on it the internet came up instead and it said download now. It doesn’t make sense if I did anything behind your back because it goes against everything I said or did, and if i did I wouldnt have tried to get you to come back especially that im still trying to talk to you now, even if we can at least be friends at some point it would make me extremely happy. Months after when we saw each other on meetme I downloaded it that night to send a message like this on there because a friend of mine said that he saw you on it. I just didn’t send this earlier because I didn’t want to bother you and I actually did start typing this on the site when you blocked me so I thought it would have been to soon. I didn’t look at porn since before we even started going out ,when we started getting closer about a month before we had sex. I can only think of you when I get horny because your the only one that did anything sexual with me and the only girlfriend I had so far . Most of all because I love you. We had sex so much I wouldn’t want to look at it so I never did. I’m sorry I listened to people about what to do and let them add people on my Facebook or snapchat (whether it was to make you jealous or whatever they were trying to make me do, I just tried everything so you would come back ) If I talked to anybody else it was just as friends. People tell me to move on but I dont care what they are telling me and I realize now that I should have never listened to a word they said. Love is between us and only us. I just did that stuff because you are my first girlfriend and I love you with all my heart so when we broke up I thought I wasnt good enough and I was very scared that i was losing the one for me, so I tried everything anybody told me to do to try to help me get back together with you. I now learned from my mistakes and learned to always listen to my heart. I still have the pics we took together because they remind me of the happiest days of my life so far . I go to UB now but I will drop everything im doing and I will fly or drive to you even just to say hi. I miss and love everything about you. From every cell to every curve, freckle, your beautiful green eyes and the most amazing flawless smile. Especially your personality and whats on the inside and how your different from every other girl . Also how we both think that being different is an awesome thing. The fact that you dont talk about your animals as pets but as friends and family and how you love nature and admire the beauty of it. And going hiking and on walks with you to explore, exercise and to be part of nature. I love texting you and our long phone calls we have every day. How you actually try at school and care about your grades . Also studying, going to school with you, how you want to be a doctor and being able to give you confidence to do better and try things in life like going to your exam that you woke up late for. I love giving you gifts alot like when you were at work to help you have a better day and especially giving them to you on special occasions like easter, all the other holidays and our anniversaries. Watching movies, tv ,playing video games with you and cuddling like no tomorrow. If I could ever hold you again ill hold you so good ill never want to let go of my miracle. I love getting ice cream and frozen yogurt with you and sharing our flavors. Also going out to eat with you and sitting our way next to each other so I could show the world how much I love you and hold and kiss you the whole time. I love sex with you everywhere we did it which is the closest a person can ever get with someone it was the best times of my life so far. Also our car rides and going on random adventures yelling out my window that I love you for the world to hear, hot tub times , looking at the stars and singing with you. I love our sleep overs and being able to go to sleep and wake up being the happiest person alive when im holding you . I nonstopped smiled at all times sleeping with you and love songs played in my head. All of those things and infinite more are ways that I love you and how you are my dreams come true. I’m willing to start over new and do whatever it takes. With you all the troubles of the world go away, and I’m extremely sorry for everything I ever did to make you sad or mad. Thank you for being different from every other girl and actually giving me a chance. You showed me that love still exists. Thank you for being there for me. You are my prayers answered and everything I ever said was true especially how we met and that I never did anything behind your back and the most important of them all, that I’ll always be there for you and that I love you. I may not be perfect and I may not be good at relationships because you were my first one but I do know one thing though and that is I love you with all my heart ♡♡♡♡
This first link is the movie Constant Angel . A film I told you about I helped make that was meant to help the world. It was a reason that I added so many people on Facebook but never talked to them. So I would just share this film and people might choose to watch it on there. To show the world that there is still hope and good in it and that hopefully things will get better.
Goo Goo Dolls-Iris Lyrics: http://youtu.be/B8UeeIAJ0a0
John Legend All Of Me Lyrics: http://youtu.be/Mk7-GRWq7wA ( being able to sing this song to and with you made me cry happy tears because I really love you with all my heart and it was one of the best times of my life so far) Red hot chili peppers – By the way (Lyrics): http://youtu.be/3bJbJZLz9KY (your favorite band)
Goo Goo Dolls – Let love In (Lyrics): http://youtu.be/rnYjGCFk6bg
Beside You- Marianas Trench (lyrics): http://youtu.be/ojP7QzIw3Uc
Imagine Dragons – Radioactive: http://youtu.be/ktvTqknDobU
Staind – “Its Been A While” (lyrics): http://youtu.be/8q182kWAhiM Hoobastank – The Reason: http://youtu.be/fV4DiAyExN0This is another really revised version please help me choose what to send if I do and if she can do anything with the law against me.
I hope your having fun at school . I just flew over 18 mile creek recently and it reminded me of the time we went together. It’s very beautiful in the winter .That was really fun going hiking there with you. 🙂 I know this message doesn’t fix what’s broken between us, and maybe it never will be. But I want you to know that I care deeply about you, and I always will.I’m extremely sorry the apps were there and would love to have the chance to make up for what happened. How my OCD worked was when I thought life was perfect I would have to not change anything so nothing would change. So during our relationship and since the first day we met I would get anxiety if I even scrolled through those pages on my phone. Also you were the only person I can ever think about ,so I forgot they were there because I wasn’t using them and I didn’t even want to look at them because you are the only person that I love. Since the breakup I have went to counseling for this and I truthfully don’t have that many OCD signs anymore. It doesn’t make sense if I did anything behind your back because it goes against everything I said or did, and if i did I wouldnt have tried to get you to come back especially that im still trying to talk to you now.I’m sorry I listened to people about what to do and let them add people on my Facebook or snapchat (whether it was to make you jealous or whatever they were trying to make me do, I just tried everything so you would come back ) If I talked to anybody else it was just as friends. People tell me to move on but I dont care what they are telling me and I realize now that I should have never listened to a word they said. Love is between us and only us. I just did that stuff because you are my first girlfriend and I love you with all my heart so when we broke up I thought I wasnt good enough and I was very scared that i was losing the one for me, so I tried everything anybody told me to do to try to help me get back together with you. I now learned from my mistakes and learned to always listen to my heart. I miss and love everything about you. From every cell to every curve, freckle, your beautiful green eyes and the most amazing flawless smile. Especially your personality and whats on the inside and how your different from every other girl . Also how we both think that being different is an awesome thing. The fact that you dont talk about your animals as pets but as friends and family and how you love nature and admire the beauty of it. And going hiking and on walks with you to explore, exercise and to be part of nature. I love texting you and our long phone calls we have every day.studying, going to school with you, how you want to be a doctor and being able to give you confidence to do better and try things in life like going to your exam that you woke up late for. I love giving you gifts alot like when you were at work to help you have a better day and especially giving them to you on special occasions like the holidays.getting ice cream and frozen yogurt with you and sharing our flavors. Also going out to eat with you and sitting our way next to each other so I could show the world how much I love you and hold and kiss you the whole time. I love sex with you which is the closest a person can ever get with someone it was the best times of my life so far. Also our car rides and going on random adventures yelling out my window that I love you for the world to hear, hot tub,looking at the stars and singing with you. All of those things and infinite more are ways that I love you and how you are my dreams come true. I’m willing to start over new and do whatever it takes. With you all the troubles of the world go away, and I’m extremely sorry for everything I ever did to make you sad or mad.You are my prayers answered and everything I ever said was true especially how we met and that I never did anything behind your back and the most important of them all, that I’ll always be there for you and that I love you.
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