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  • #18411
    Seanl
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    That’s what I’m now hearing from my sister. At first she was saying maybe don’t send the letter but now she’s like if you send it she’ll probably not call the cops or be able to get anything . And that I’m probably just making myself worry to much because of what others told me could happen. If anything she says wait longer so I might eventually not want to or so she has more time to forget.

    #18445
    Maria
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    Yes, she is right. Just sit on it and let time pass for now, by focusing on yourself. It will be okay 🙂

    #18550
    Seanl
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    So for some reason a friend just showed me her Facebook and apparently she’s still posting things like I hope karma bites him in the ass. Or like my ex is such an ass. This really makes me want to send the letter now but does it technically mean I should wait longer.

    #18589
    Maria
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    Yes, you need to wait a lot longer. If she is still in this mindset, she will not be receptive to the letter.

    #18599
    Seanl
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    Like she posted a meme on dec. 1 saying to stay single because independence is good. On November. 23 or something posted another kind of joking one that said basically I think about you all the time but only when I shit. She said with that one this goes to my ex. But like on nov. 19 she said something like “I can’t stop loving him story of our lives” and tagged a girl that’s her friends. On October. 29 she posted another quote that said if a man loves you he will move mountains for you, he will call not text and he will say your beautiful. Her comment on it was “actions speak louder than words and you know what they say about karma too.” Other comments that stuck was her dad said “didn’t I say this” a friend said you can do better usual things family and friends say and her aunt or something said moved on…….. Those were the latest things on there before like right after the break up before she blocked my phone in July. So seeing all of this it makes me really want to send it next month because I feel like if I do it would fix things or at least make her feel better. I’m just scared of her mom or the law if they take it badly

    #18774
    Seanl
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    I talked to a lawyer and they said send something like this if anything

    Hi this Sean

    I still feel bad about how things ended between us and feel like I never got the chance to formally apologize to you. I flew over 18 mile creek lately and thought about how fun it was to go hiking there and every else with you.

    I was very immature back then. I should have been more aware of what was on my phone and erased those apps when we got into our relationship. I now know I should have just listened to my heart after the break up and not what others said to do. As you know you were my first love so I didn’t know how to handle the situation. Even though I tried to move on I would just think of you. I have matured since and have realized how childish I acted. I should have known how treasure and respect you better. I have now learned how to handle future relationships. I’m apologizing from the bottom of my heart .

    You have shown me many possibilities in life and shown me many great things. You have made me smile ,very happy and above all you have made me love you and that’s what life is. I will never forget this.

    I know this is a lot to ask of you given what has happened between us, but I would like you to think about possibly talking sometime. maybe at white rabbit because I know you like that place a lot and catch up a bit. I really enjoyed going places like that to eat with you especially when we sat our own way. Theres a lot of new and exciting things happening in my life and I would like to share the exciting news with you. I’m very interested to listen to anything you would like to say and would like to hear what you have been up to lately.
    I understand if you do not want to meet or talk and will not bother you again .this will be my farewell if that’s the case. I hope that your having fun at school the pictures you used to show me of it looked awesome. It must be really fun being able to ride your new bike there. That sounds like it would be an amazing time with you.

    I do wish you the best in life and I thank you for all the fun times we had

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    Maria
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    Looks good!

    #18923
    Seanl
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    The lawyer also said I might be able to send it in January but since she blocked my meetme in November if they can somehow prove that because I think she deleted it , if I think I have bad luck I should wait until like May because he said in January I have like a 80% chance of the law not caring but if she calls a mean cop then he might say it was only 2 months since the meetme incident. He said if I send it in like May or later I should be completely fine by the law hopefully. He also said if I see her or her friends in person somewhere unless she says to get away and leave her alone it should be fine as well. So now with that info I at least have more knowledge of what could happen law wise and relationship wise if / when I send it. Also I need to decide if I should have my name on the envelope or not when I choose to send something.

    #19093
    Maria
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    Yes, I think that makes sense and it will give her more time to forget the bad stuff that happened.

    I hope it all works out for you!

    #19102
    Seanl
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    Thank you 🙂 now I’ll just decide when the time comes to attach a picture with the letter or something. Also if I see or her friends in person I’ll have to decide whether or not to try talking to them before May. Other than that I feel like if I want to send it in May still I should , to get it off my chest and because I doubt anything bad legally can happen then or at least I hope nothing bad legally can then . I also think I decided when I will I’ll write just my first name on the envelope so she might open it if she is mad still and doesn’t remember my last name at the same time having my first name at least on the envelope doesn’t set her up for an unpleasant surprise so it’ll be her choice to read it or not. And I’ll send it through the mail so I can say I wasn’t at her house putting it in her mailbox. I could probably put my address on it as well but I guess it doesn’t really matter because why would I even want it back.

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