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Yeah I think you have a chance:) wait for him to pursue you again, that’s my advice anyway! Apparently guys like that feeling of chasing so let him chase you a bit, but reward him with smiles when he does:) it seems like he is considering getting you back to me, but wait and see and just take it easy:)
Oh and take it easy, for me this one seems like a no-brainer! He will text, so just know that and relax:) keep posting happy Instagram pics just like you’re doing:)
Play it cool:) Text him back when he texts you. Remember you want him to think wanting you is his idea alone!
I’m having an awful day. Got some info that it’s very likely ex is pursuing someone he met while we were together. And I gotta me honest, she beats me in all categories.
I feel like its doomed now. I still have that gut feeling saying we will be together again – but rationally it is looking very grim. Maybe hanging onto hope does me more harm than good. I feel like my life as I knew it has completely fallen apart. This really demotivated me:(
I just want that gut feeling to go away now and to stop feeling. maybe it’s game over:(Awww thanks for the compliment, that’s really nice to hear @LAbound !
Nah I think that was a good conversation! Wait for her to contact you next, then reward her by giving her some sort of compliment or ask about her life a bit (everyone loves to talk about themselves).
Don’t be worried if it takes a while for her to get in touch with you again. I’m positive she will!
Wait — and see if you hear anything from him. Wait a month – then decide. Also now might be a good time to update your FB profile picture to one where you’re happy, smiling and having fun! Just my opinion. Don’t text him. Have faith!! If he wants to text you he will. If you tecr him, he’ll think he’s got you as a back up. You are not a back up!
@atea1234 I commend you, and I’m doing the same. Don’t have an option at this point either! Yeah it will be tough but: challenge accepted!!! Game on. Let’s prove to ourselves that we can be independent:)
And yeah I’m just gonna think what makes me happy and motivated, even if I am kidding myself!
@Confused_girl it definitely seems to me like he’s not ready to let you go! I think your chances are pretty good!!
I loved what you said about judging people for their actions. I completely agree! Words can fall out but it’s ultimately their actions that tell us their motivations.
LAbound I hear you!
In my situation, there is definitely a lot to improve on. I agree that’s all we can do really – improve ourselves the best we can. Become the people we aspire to be. That way whether or not we’ll get them back we will at least feel happier about ourselves than if we were stagnating and nothing has changed 3 months from now.
We got this!!!Hmmmm…. I would go NC/LC. Don’t give her too much attention. You want her to be attracted to you and your life, so don’t ask her to join it (to go to London etc) wait for her to want to join – if you get me.
@atea1234 that sounds really promising in my opinion!! I can almost bet you that if he finds out you were on a date or seeing someone he will get very jealous and want you back. My take on this is: he knows where he has you. He knows you will wait for him so it’s safe for him to go “explore” because you will be right there waiting for him. So don’t wait for him…!
Let him know you value yourself a lot and won’t wait around (don’t tell him directly but show him by your behaviour). I think your ex has it too easy and too comfortable thinking he can do what he wants and then still have you there as a safety net.
That’s just my opinion though. You know what’s right for you!I don’t know why my ex ended things, it was all very confusing. He just said “we don’t work” however he himself had said we had been doing great recently. None of it makes sense, and I’ve been worried he’s got his eyes on someone else. I know it’s possible we may never get back together but I’m not ready to face that yet, and the only thing motivating me and keeping me going is thinking how I want to impress him to make him want me again.
We split in September too by the way@Confused_Girl I’m sorry for what you’ve been through. Loosing someone is never easy.
Yes, I think what you’ve achieved will help! However make sure to bring it up casually and not like you’re out to impress him. Just try to be nice and casual about it. That’s my advice anyway. Also after reaching out to him I would advise that you wait for him to contact you again. Good luck and keep us posted
@Confused_Girl that’s really good!! You’re way ahead of me then;)
Well it depends really. If you guys used to write letters you could write him a letter, or send that text. I’m not sure what would be best. Maybe ask him out for coffee AS FRIENDS.
Well done on getting back to where you were and better!!!
@atea1234 Nope:( Quite the opposite. I asked if he thought he would ever want to get back together and he replied “probably not”. That’s why logic says we won’t get back together but it doesn’t stop my gut feeling.
In a previous break up with the same guy he said “do whatever you want with whoever you want because I don’t care” which I found out was clearly not true, and we got back together.
He’s was EXTREMELY up and down (asking me to move in and taking it back the NEXT day for example) right before this current break up which is why I don’t know where his heart is at, despite what he said.
Do you have any thoughts?
