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@atea1234 Yep I feel the same, like me and ex are just on a break. Maybe that’s just how we should treat it though because it does at least create motivation to better ourselves so that WHEN they come back to us they will be blown away:)
I don’t know. But maybe the same as me. TRYYY to focus on your own life. Try to limit the amount of times you think of him (maybe set aside 5 minutes every three hours where you’re allowed to think of him for a start). But you can’t just go NC or LC and wait, you have to actively do new things in your life to fill up the void that’s been left. New hobbies and such. I’m learning languages and started blogging. hope that helps some
Same with me. I can’t really compute that its over and I can’t begin to think about being intimate or even close to anyone else! Like my body hasn’t been updated on the relationship status.
I also feel a VERY strong gut feeling that we will end up together again – although there is a lot of evidence pointing to the contrary.
I should just “let loose and have fun” because I’m single – but that’s hard when you really don’t want to be near anyone else.. Well done to him, he’s made my feelings and desires completely monogamous where I once wouldn’t have minded exploring other options. It sucks because he doesn’t feel that way. It sucks because he’s probably out there having a blast being “free”, and I’m have become the most miserable person I know… LolI feel for you all!!
Atea I think you should keep 60 days as your goal and then see how you feel at day 60.
We’re in similar positions yeah, I also told my ex not to contact me. Looking back I wish I hadn’t said anything about it but just not replied to him. This way I really have no idea whether or not he’s thinking about me…
But I suppose I just have to live in my fantasy world of “of course he does!!!”.I’m going NC until I have reached a point where I feel so happy and content with my own life that it wouldn’t completely and utterly devastate me to get shot down again. I need to learn how to stand on my own two feet again and just TRUST that things will work out in the future.
I don’t want to live my life in fear, so I’m gonna try as much as I can to keep the faith and trust that he’ll want me back.I really can’t think anything else right now or I will crumble
I second what atea said.
I really feel your pain! I got out of a 10 year relationship so I know the type of bond such a long relationship creates. I don’t know exactly what to advise you as I’m currently going NC and worried that will just make him realise how fine he is without me in his life and get over me faster (if he hasn’t already).
Make sure your head space is on you and treat thinking about her like an addiction that you have to stop.
Best of luck!!
