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Awww thanks for the compliment, that’s really nice to hear @LAbound !
Nah I think that was a good conversation! Wait for her to contact you next, then reward her by giving her some sort of compliment or ask about her life a bit (everyone loves to talk about themselves).
Don’t be worried if it takes a while for her to get in touch with you again. I’m positive she will!
i think you played it well! plus, she initiated this convo so now you’re in the position (of you choose) to initiate the next one
so, I initiated the next conversation already. I was bored and looked up some sites to see in chicago. I needed to know when she’d be able to go, so I asked her. She’s excited about the trip. And it will just be me and her for two nights. 🙂
I don’t get it. she was a little flirty. even sent me a winky face after stating, “I always told you that you were good with words 😉 ”
then I responded, “I’m good with many things. haha”
She sent, “Haha. Yes. yes you are.”
Then five minutes later, each message she sends gets shorter and shorter. Ended up just being LMAO. Then nothing. She hasn’t responded to my last message so I just said I’m going to go. This cold is kicking my ass.
This woman, man.
good luck to you!! when do you plan on going? her agreeing to this trip is definitely a good sign and it will give you a lot of alone time to impress her! plus she’s her rebound isn’t too serious if he is ok with her going away for the whole weekend alone with her ex…
also today is my anniversary with my ex..do i break NC to acknowledge it or just leave it? its been 9 days
Do you think it’s a good sign that I had a dream that my ex and I hung out again like we used to and then he kissed me in it? lol Also, I apologized this morning and felt confident about it
@atea1234 Do you think that mt dream is a good sign? and I will!
im not sure but funny i had the exact same dream last night! and today is our anniversary…not sure what that means!
Tomorrow is our 7 months, And I really wish we were back together. How do you think the apology to him will go? lol I mean I feel confident about it, and my gut still says we will get back together sometime
@atea,
Yeah, I thought to myself a lot last night. If they’re so serious how come she is willing to come spend a weekend with me? And if they take their relationship to the next level, won’t her new guy have a problem with that? I hope she does. Because I know my ex will brush his concerns off. I am the most important person in her life, and she already said her feelings aren’t as strong for him as they were for me at the start. I feel like this might cause problems for them, and I am in total support of that! lol I do plan on impressing her. I told her the entire trip will be a mystery. 🙂 She seemed really into that. We plan on going in February. She has to see when she has some PTO exactly.
About the dreams you guys are having: I had a crazy dream! It wasn’t bad but it wasn’t good. I had a dream I was at a house party and my ex was their with her new guy. My ex disappeared somewhere and it was just me and this guy and one other person in the room. I avoided conversation and eye contact with him because I thought it would cause anger in me if I interacted in any kind of way with him. well, a few minutes later I hear this new guy talk shit about me and said he’d beat my ass. I didn’t do anything because I knew if he started anythign with me, my ex would take my side. 🙂 lol
Atea, don’t contact him. Let him wonder.
I’m seriously considering breaking NC…i really can’t decide if thats the right way to proceed in this situation. i want to be understanding while he goes through this but also don’t want to be a doormat. i don’t want to completely erase him but i also don’t want to be too available. what do you think?
So, he got my message, and he said “Why blame yourself” I said I’m not, I honestly feel that it’s my fault. Any thoughts on this?
@atea,
I stopped NC because I read page after page about how if your ex is willing to talk to you and aren’t playing games you should be false friends.
It gives the impression you are emotionally strong and mature. My ex doesn’t sweet talk me, she doesn’t make promises. She is open and honest. She says she’s closed the chapter of her life regarding our relationship but doesn’t say our paths will never cross in the future. That tells me she is somewhat open to a future. She wants me to be close to her. This gives me the opportunity to show her how I’ve changed. I won’t chase her but I will seem desirable.
NC in my situation will cause distance. NC makes her miss me but it doesn’t change her perception of me. I have to do that by meeting up with her as friends…and try to make it something more. I think NC isn’t always the best way to go.
Just say you just wanted to acknowledge your end.
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