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Hey Gingerone! I haven’t been here for a long time..

I’m sorry to hear that things are not going well. I guess sometimes there are some things in life we just can’t change no matter how hard we try.
I think you need to keep moving forward with your life, regardless of getting together again or not. You learn from every relationship, and if your relationship is not good enough for her then maybe it’s best for you in the long run. Honestly after all this time, even when I’m fully aware of having feelings for him, I know that it’s not right for me to get into this relationship again in the future. I take it as a painful experience where I’ve learned a lot about myself and moved forward with my life.
I don’t really know what happened between you and her but maybe at this moment you should take it to figure out where you stand and what’s best for you. You should give yourself some time to focus on yourself and also give her some time to figure out what she really wants and feels about you.

Hey Gingerone.

I’m really happy for you! It looks great! 🙂
You’re right, sometimes people just need that time apart to realize how much they love each other and what’s truly important for them. It makes me glad knowing things worked out for you! ^_^

I’m good, focusing on my new job and making friends 🙂
I even met someone. I’m a little embarrassed but I need an opinion from a guy’s perspective. We met a few days ago, We’ve been talking for a few hours on facebook. He even asked me out for next week. But the problem is that he doesn’t initiate. Last time I was the one to initiate and the conversation just went from there. He showed interest in me and the conversation went well. I’m thinking that maybe he’s just shy but I’m not sure. Do you think I should wait for him to initiate? Or should I initiate again? It’s hard understanding guys sometimes hehe.

@kaila I agree with everything you said. I know what you mean, having these days myself lately. But we have to keep moving forward with our life and try to stay positive. It feels so good when you let yourself out of this burden, because we are the ones that keeping ourselves from moving on.

Congrats on your new job! 🙂 I know it’s boring sometimes but that’s how work is. Since I started working I feel much more happier and fulfilled and I meet new people which is great 🙂

“because she was pretty much perfect for me – well until you find the side of her you don’t know! And sometimes when you do discover that side you realize that you’re worth a hell of a lot more than they can ever deserve”.

Exactly!

Sometimes we tend to see things the way we want them to be. That’s what I’ve learned from my situation. I used to appreciate every little thing in my relationship and it was perfect in my mind, but apparently it wasn’t the same for him (Although he did say a lot of time how much this relationship means to him and such) He took me as granted and had other plans in his mind for himself, such as studies and work where I don’t take part in, instead of thinking of our future TOGETHER. Then I discovered his other side of egoism, which I haven’t noticed until then. It’s really hard for me to open up to people and that’s why I worry sometimes that I wouldn’t be able to trust another guy. Seeing how many good and sincere people there are here makes me feel better 🙂

@ty10 I agree. It doesn’t matter if you’re getting your ex back or not. What’s important is that you become a better person and moving forward with your life while feeling complete with yourself. I don’t think I would have been able to move on like this if not for this website and the people here. You realize that there are so many good people around and not everything is lost 🙂

@Gingerone I thought it was going great as well! But you shouldn’t start overthinking things just yet. It might be that she’s still confused about a relationship again, maybe she’s backing off because your relatinship feels a little rushed for her. I don’t think she would have hangout with you this much and spend time with you when she’s not interested in something more with you, it just doesn’t make sense. She could be doing it because she needs the support or comfort as I said before but still it just doesn’t seem like it by her behavior towards you. I think the best thing you can do to know for sure how she feels is if you stay strong, and try to be less availabe to her. Distance yourself a little and see how she reacts, as ty10 said if she keeps coming back then there is something more there.

@Gingerone How are you doing? Is everything going good? 🙂

It does seem like a start of a new relationship and that’s great! however I agree with Jburg32 on this, try not to be so available to her. I know it’s hard but you have to take it slow. Even if she’s willing to see you everyday and hanging out with you, she might be doing it because she needs the support right now or someone to comfort her. You don’t want her to reach out to you only during her hard times. I think once in a while you should tell her you’re busy, that way she’ll appreciate you and try to get your attention even more.