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Thank you guys! I really appreciate your advises, you’re right, and I know I shouldn’t do anything based of my feelings I have right now.
KD in your situation he wasn’t ready to meet yet, which shows that he still has feelings for you and it’s hard for him to deal with them, but I’m thinking that the fact my ex is willing to meet after this letter could be just because he feels guilty for leaving me.
He wrote that he knows how much he hurt me, but felt like he had to share his feelings and his decision with me.I just don’t want to get hurt again, I feel like getting him back through a false friendship will only remind me how he didn’t fight for me and it will make me feel like I’m trying to manipulate him to get back together.
I’m afraid that it won’t turn out the way I want and I’ll get hurt again, I know I have nothing to lose but I’m asking myself if I should really keep trying or just give up already.I don’t want to do something I’ll regret later because I’m too emotional right now, what do you guys think I should do?
I just got his letter, and honestly I can finally say that I’m giving up. In the letter he wrote how much he cared for me and how his feeling was always sincere, he said that he never had before a strong bond like this with anyone else, thanked me for everything I’ve done for him, and said he knows how much he hurt me, also that he hopes we’ll stay good friends and keep in touch.
I know we planned to meet up and we are keep talking, but I can see now that all he really wants is to stay friends with me and nothing more, I guess his feeling for me are really gone.
I really don’t know what to do anymore, I think the letter was a bad idea, I’m thinking to stop contact with him and delete him from my facebook, I can’t keep up like this, I’m so devastated right now.
I know how hard it is, It really is a waiting game! One minute they are nice to you and making you feel like things are going the right way, and then they start acting weird and cold and you can’t understand their behavior.
I guess that’s what Kevin talked about in his mails, they are acting like that because they’re confused, they realize that they do have feelings but just won’t admit it and try to push you away, they feel like they HAVE to stick to their decision. I guess we just have to wait and see where it goes.Hey guys, today I’ve had an exam application for the university, I just got back home.
@Mj: Your letter is really touching and sincere! I think it’s really great! the only thing I advice you is that you should mention more about the improvements you made, and as some here already said you should make it sound more like you’re willing to move on.
@KD1988: I think he’s still confused and that’s way he’s acting like that, I think he’s suddenly changed his behavior because he did realize that he still loves you, but on the other hand trying to push you aside because he knows that he can’t control his feelings, and that makes him really confused and cold like that. you should do NC again for a while to see how things are going.Yesterday he wished me luck on my exams and encouraged me that I can do it, but today he didn’t even ask how it went! this is so irritating! some of my friends asked me if we got back together because they couldn’t believe he will comment on my posts like that, he’s acting really weird, I just can’t figure him out, I guess only time will tell.
@tg7188: What about you?
His letter hasn’t arrived yet, but he told me on the phone the other day that he already said most of the stuff from the letter, so I guess it’s just a formal letter.
Since then we’ve talked on the phone and messaging sometimes, he initiated a conversation once, sent me some photos I asked from the show we went to, we arranged a meeting but he couldn’t meet on that day because he was working late, he answers right after I call or text him, also he commented on my post on facebook – I posted a picture of a cake I made and his comment was “Amazing Cake!”, We’ve planned to meet up this week but he works all week in the evenings so he offered to meet in the morning but I work in the mornings, so I told him that I’d prefer in the evening and he said he’ll update me when he can.I’m really confused, my friend says he’s just being friendly but I can feel the change in his voice and in the way he’s talking to me. He doesn’t have to meet me but I can see that he’s really trying and wanting to, I don’t know maybe this is just my imagination.
It’s funny how my feelings for him keep changing everytime, one moment I really miss him and in the other I’m angry about him and feeling like I should give up.
His letter hasn’t arrived yet, but he told me on the phone the other day that he already said most of the stuff from the letter, so I guess it’s just a formal letter.
Since then we’ve talked on the phone and messaging sometimes, he initiated a conversation once, sent me some photos I asked from the show we went to, and told me he couldn’t meet on that day because he was working late, he answers right after I call or text him, also he commented on my post on facebook, (I posted a picture of a cake I made and his comment was “Amazing Cake!”), We’ve planned to meet up this week but he works all week in the evenings so he offered to meet in the morning but I work in the mornings, so I said I prefer in the evening and he said he’ll update me when he can.I’m really confused, my friend says he’s just being friendly but I can feel the change in his voice and in the way he’s talking to me. He doesn’t have to meet me but I can see that he’s really trying and wanting to, I don’t know maybe this is just my imagination but I’m confused..
@Mj: Lol maybe copy-paste youtube’s link is not working here xD
@KD1988: I feel the same. I was angry about myself for a long time, but then I realized that there is nothing I can do about it anymore and instead I should improve and forgive myself 🙂
@Mj: LOL backstreet boys! 😛I started listening to happy songs now, my dad said he doesn’t want to hear sad songs anymore xD
@KD1988: Your mom is funny, I’m sure her message will put a smile on his face 🙂
That’s really good! The first thing we have to do in order to improve ourselves is to forgive ourselves first, You did your best and you should feel happy about it, and I’m sure he will notice and acknowledge it.
As I said before, some people are really stubborn and need some more time than others, but from his responses I can see that he still has feelings for you. so now you just have to wait until he realizes it.You guys are right, all this stuff we are doing like NC and sending letters do gives us hope, and also preventing us from getting all depressed, it makes us feel better and keep moving forward. I believe that if you truly love each other, you will always find your way back to each other, if not, then maybe they just haven’t loved you enough.
Have faith and don’t lose hope!I agree with everything you guys said, because THEY were the ones ending the relationship they feel like they HAVE to stick to their decision and won’t listen to their heart, I’m sure they think about us everyday and wondering if they did the right choice, but right now the stubbornness and pride stop them from acting, they think it’s better that way because it means they won’t get hurt again. That’s way we should give them enough time to heal so all the negative feelings will go away.
If after this you feel like you did everything you could, tried your best and it didn’t help, then there is nothing more you can do about it, you have to be complete with yourself that you’ve tried everything you could and didn’t give up, that it’s not in your hands anymore.
