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@Mj: I think you should make it sound like you accepted the break up and willing to move on but still make her feel how much you loved her and cared for her, don’t be too emotional, accept your mistakes. Tell her about new things in your life and about the improvement you made. I think the letter should be sincere but also light-hearted and positive.

@KD1988: I know NC is very hard but yeah it’s mostly for yourself, also it makes you feel better than getting hurt and rejected over and over again.

I’ve just called him. we talked for a while and I asked him if he wants to meet at the new mall this weekend, he said he’s working until evening so we’ll only have one hour to hangout before they close, so he offered to meet next week. also he said that he’ll let me know if he can finish work early that day. And when I asked him how his friends doing he started counting the number of times he met with each friend and described me where they hanged out and such.

Does it mean anything? or maybe i’m just over thinking it..

@KD1988: It sounds better then I expected, he still cares for you, but I think he’s still hurt and that’s why he can’t meet with you right now, which means he still has feelings for you, give him some time to handle his feelings.
My ex also couldn’t meet me few days after the break up, but after some time he agreed.

His letter still hasn’t arrived but I’m planning on asking him to meet me again, this weekend a new mall opens up and we are both excited about it, so I thought that maybe this is a good chance, what do you guys think?

@KD1988 My ex’s letter still hasn’t arrived as well, I’m checking my mailbox every hour and watching the door in case the postman will arrive LOL, I can’t keep up like this! can’t sleep well at night, I know the letter wouldn’t change anything but deep inside I keep hoping but I know I shouldn’t :\
We’ve also talked on the phone this weekend and had a nice conversation, he seemed interested in talking and I felt some change in his voice and the way he talked but maybe that’s just my imagination.

I guess we just have to wait till tomorrow and see what happens. At least we know that we’ve tried everything we could. I’m wishing you the best of luck!

I think it’s a good thing in some way because it means that they took the time and effort to write back but I honestly can’t say if it would be positive or not..

As I said be apathetic, It’s up to you to decide but I suggest that you follow the No Contact rule for a few days and give her some time to miss you.

You can response after a while but be apathetic in your answers, and don’t initiate conversations with her. I know how you feel, the hardest thing is to distance yourself from the one you love, and you feel that you just can’t give up on them even when it seems hopeless.
This distance is also for yourself, work and improve yourself, do things you like, that way you won’t seem needy and make her feel that you don’t need her in your life in order to be happy.

It seems that she still loves you and cares about you very much. She can’t forget about you just like that, you’ve been together for a long time.
I know that people sometimes react like that when they’re under pressure in their life, maybe she’s in a period in her life that she feels confused and doesn’t know what to do about it.

My ex broke up with me after we had some fights, but I know that he’s been under real pressure because he couldn’t decide which university to choose and there were many important decisions he had to make, so obviously these fights made it harder for him.

You have to give her some time to think about you and miss you, then it will make her realize how much she loves you and needs you in her life.