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It does sound like she’s playing mind games with you.

I know that I wouldn’t tell someone all this things if I wasn’t interested in him.
She tells you that she’s thinking and dreaming of you, missing you, and wishing you were there. Also sending you pictures and such. If she’s not interested then I guess she’s really confused about her feelings, because one moment she’s acting like this but in the other she’s backing off and having a cold feet.

@Gingerone You’re doing great! It looks positive! Now you just have to wait for her response. You are right you shouldn’t pressure her into it, so just play it cool and see how things go. By her messages it does look like she misses you, she reveals her feelings, I don’t think she would have done it if she wasn’t interested in you.

Thank you for your support! I really appreciate it! 🙂

Lol I haven’t seen the post of SolidTurd. Why? what did he write? That I’m miserable or that it deserved me or anything?

It doesn’t sound like his doing it to make you jealous, if she is sticky as you said and want him back then I don’t think he would go that far to get you jealous by getting her to work with you two, he wouldn’t want her by his side all day and it would be really immature of him as you said. Could be that he really tried helping her by getting her a job, or maybe she did it without consulting him. Either way you can’t be sure about it without asking him directly. And if he’s going that low then I don’t think you would want someone like that.

I think it’s good that you stick to NC. It will make him think, that’s for sure.
Maybe wait a few more days and see if there is any change in his behavior. If he really wants you then he will do something about it and reach out to you.

Hey between, wanted to know how you are doing. Is there any progress?

Hey kaila, wanted to update you about my situation.

I guess I was right all along. I had this feeling inside that nothing might come out of it, that he just wants to be friends.

Yesterday he called me to arrange our meeting. We talked for a few minutes and then I realized that he’s not doing it because he wants me back as I thought.

The moment in our conversation when I realized it went something like this:
Him: Can I ask you something? (after asking me about tomorrow)

Me: Yes.

Him: My friend from work wanted to meet up tomorrow, but I told him that I’m meeting up with you. He said it’s weird that we are still hanging out as friends, Because we may get hurt. So I wanted to know what you think about it?

Me: What do YOU think about it?

Him: I don’t mind, that’s why I’m asking you.

Me: I wouldn’t mind about what my friends think of this. I think the fact that you are bringing this up is because it is bothering YOU.

Him: I haven’t thought about it until he said it. I do want to remain friends.

Me: We don’t HAVE to remain friends if you don’t want to.

Him: (I don’t remember exactly what he said but he kept talking about it and that we might get hurt)

Then I realized that I don’t want it to keep going so I said:” I don’t want to remain friends with you, your friend is right. There is no point in doing it. I thought about it and decided that we shouldn’t stay friends.”

Him: Okay.

I can’t believe he said these things. If he was planning something again then he wouldn’t have brought it up this way. All the things he’s done lately meant nothing. He might still care for me inside, but I guess he’s still not sure about what he wants. I decided to end this friendship with him because I’ve realized it’s going no where. It’s been 4 months and I just keep hoping every-time that something might change, but in reality it won’t.

@Gingerone Jburg32 is right. We can’t wait for them forever. How long can we keep trying like this? You have to listen to your gut. Sometimes we just want an answer, even if it wouldn’t be what we want to hear. Just be cool about it and see how she responds. I wish you the best of luck!

Thank you guys! I appreciate your advises!
Sometimes we all tend to give advice but won’t follow it ourselves.

I guess I was right all along. I had this feeling inside that nothing might come out of it, that he just wants to be friends.

Yesterday he called me to arrange our meeting. We talked for a few minutes and then I realized that he’s not doing it because he wants me back as I thought.

The moment in our conversation when I realized it went something like this:
Him: Can I ask you something? (after asking me about tomorrow)

Me: Yes.

Him: My friend from work wanted to meet up tomorrow, but I told him that I’m meeting up with you. He said it’s weird that we are still hanging out as friends, Because we may get hurt. So I wanted to know what you think about it?

Me: What do YOU think about it?

Him: I don’t mind, that’s why I’m asking you.

Me: I wouldn’t mind about what my friends think of this. I think the fact that you are bringing this up is because it is bothering YOU.

Him: I haven’t thought about it until he said it. I do want to remain friends.

Me: We don’t HAVE to remain friends if you don’t want to.

Him: (I don’t remember exactly what he said but he kept talking about it and that we might get hurt)

Then I realized that I don’t want it to keep going so I said:” I don’t want to remain friends with you, your friend is right. There is no point in doing it. I thought about it and decided that we shouldn’t stay friends.”

Him: Okay.

I can’t believe he said these things. If he was planning something again then he wouldn’t have bought it up this way. All the things he’s done lately meant noting. He might still care for me inside, but I guess he’s still not sure about what he wants. I decided to end this friendship with him because I’ve realized it’s going no where. It’s been 4 months and I just keep hoping every-time that something might change, but in reality it won’t.

@Gingerone I genuinely think there is a chance here. However you wouldn’t know her true feelings until you see her in person again. Stick to your plan! I’m keeping my fingers crossed for you! 🙂

I really need a guy’s opinion on this. Maybe I’m overthinking but I’m just so confused and I don’t know what I should do anymore.

I’m not on facebook often, but yesterday I logged on and saw some new posts from my ex. Two days ago my ex posted on facebook something like “What a great weekend!”. And later his friend posted a picture of all of them having fun in a bar. And on the same time my ex and his friend added a girl on facebook, and today my ex “liked” her profile picture.

Now I know it sounds stupid but I know him and he’s not the type of guy that would hit on someone in a bar. Ever since I knew him he was always shy and closed. He even told me once that he thinks it’s stupid too. And this girl he added is really not his type at all! I know I might be over thinking but it just hurts seeing him acting like this and the next day calling me and sending me videos of cute kittens and asking me to meet up and getting my hopes up when he actually doesn’t even interested in me. Tomorrow is our meeting and I don’t know if I should or even want to see him anymore. He’s been hurting me so much these last few months and I’m really trying to move on with my life but it’s hard when he’s keeping me in the middle like this.

I would appreciate if you can give me your opinion on this.

@Gingerone First try to calm down. You don’t know anything yet. The way I see it there are two options. The first one is that he’s just a friend and nothing more, and they are just hanging out together. Or could be that she misses you but still confused and that’s why she is trying to move on. It’s clear that she still has feelings for you. If not she wouldn’t have told you all the things she’s said. That she dreams about you, wants to meet up with you, and seemed worried and jealous like she did. You shouldn’t make assumptions because you don’t know anything for sure.