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Hey @Mee
Thanx for your reply ..
I’m losing hope too about my story.. he seems really determined to end things 🙁
Even that I think we are perfect for each other .. but I never show that to him ..
Anyway .. I’m not doing nc .. I’m following the relationship rewind book that kevin talked about in his emails ..
And I’m planning to do a false friendship.. I don’t know if this will work .. but it’s my best chance ..
Maybe you should do the same?***UPDATE***
Well .. yesterday .. I talked to my ex .. and tried to understand what happened. .
So he told me that there is no specific reason .. it’s just little things that made him distance from me ..
He told me that he feels like we are from two different planets .. and that he thought too much about our relationship before making this decision ..
He told me that alot of things went wrong ..
And that our relationship was turning to something unpleasantful for him .. and he was wasting alot of time in solving our issues. . And that he was more happy in the break he took from me than when he was with me ..
He said that he didn’t like to talk about the problems. . And I should know that there is something wrong all by myself. .
He told me that it’s better to be just friends ..
So .. what do you think???? 🙁@Mee thanx alot for ur opinion ..
It’s been 2 weeks now ..
Do you think I should wait for a whole month?Thanx @will0124 .. I apologise for my English ..
Well , there’s a big misunderstanding between me and my ex .. But I don’t know if I should talk to him .. Or wait for him to calm down and do NC for awhile …
I mean ..do you think Am at shift or drift stage in my relation? “From relationship rewind book”
I really want to clear things out between us .. But I don’t want him to think that I’m needy or clingy ..Well .. I think that she likes you .. But maybe she’s keeping you on the hook ..
She doesn’t want to lose you ..
I think you should start a NC and follow the 5 step plan .. go on a date or two .. And never respond to her .. And if she insisted .. You can tell her that you need a space ..And plz .. Can u give me your opinion on me story?
Hey corner ..
Well let me tell you that she’s luckey to have you ..
You seem like you adore her ..and that is amazing
From what i read .. You don’t have to worry .. She really loves you too .. But she needs to see the changes in you first
I think that you have a big chance in getting her back
But first .. You need to continue the NC .. And continue working on yourself ..
You see .. She told you before that you need to change your way of living .. You can’t marry her if you don’t have a house for your own .. And a decent job ..
If you reay want to marry her .. You should work your best .. To prove to her that you deserve her love ..
As a girl .. I can tell you that I’ll do the same as she did if i were her .. Tell i see a really big change in your life ..
And you have been together for a long time .. You don’t have to worry about her forgetting about you .. She’s probably hurting as much as you are ..
So continue to improve yourself ..
You’ll get her back this way
And plz ..
Can you tell me your opinion on my story?hey Krista .. congrats on getting him back .. I hope everything will be amazing ..
but can you help me and give me your opinion on my story?well .. yesterday was awful .. I was kind of busy .. but there was no connection at his city all the day .. so when he contacted me on whatsapp .. I talked to him even though I was busy .. because the connections will be available at his city only for one hour .. but after like 20 minutes .. he got busy with his best friend who lives now in another country .. so he told me he’ll talk to me later .. and I got really upset .. I left every thing to talk to him while he preferred talking to his best friend 🙁 .. so .. he told me that if he had to choose between me and his 2 best friends .. he’ll always choose them .. and it hurts alot .. I ended up saying good night and I hang up on him .. after a while .. I calmed down and tried to contact him .. there was no connection 🙁 .. idk .. he was really mean to me .. he told me I’m not his gf anymore so he doesn’t have to talk to me when he has free time ..
I’m really upset now .. even though he gave me my good night kiss and my good morning message ..but I don’t like being in second place -_-
I want to be his first interest in life .. and I’m willing to do a strict NC this week no ..
but idk how to act when he’ll contact me … or even if 1 week is enough .. etc ..
any advice about this will be appreciated ..Thanks for the advice Maria .. my problem is that I don’t realise how stupid the reason is till I calm down .. or till he gets mad at me .. lol
but the thing is that he knows how easily I can get upset when he’s busy while talking to me .. and he did it .. and I ask him politely to talk to him later .. he refused and he said that he needs me to be by his side now because he’s feeling down .. so I did .. and I didn’t ask where is he or what was he doing … he told me that by himself
I’ll work on being a better person in this .. and I’ll try not to get upset over stupid things again ..
I’ll update about what’s going on in my life later today ..
and it’ll be great if you give me your advice ^_^
thanx alot ^_^hey Al1348 .. first it’s a great news that you’re talking to your ex .. and for finishing the NC .. and about what you should do .. I believe you have 2 options .. either to establish a False Friendship with her … and let her believe that you want her as a friend more than a gf .. “read the Relationship Rewind it’ll help you with this” .. or just take things slow and see where it’ll go .. I think that you can cutt of the contact with her now for a couple of days and see how she’ll response ..
I hope you’ll get her back soon .. keep us updated 🙂hey tami .. I was in your situation once .. I didn’t think I can do it .. but I did it .. and I’m now .. in a better place than before .. and if I can do it .. you can do it .. we are all here for you .. if you want to say anything to him .. just write it down .. and you’ll fell much better .. and in the end of Nc .. you’ll see that it deserves it ..so .. whenever you are feeling down .. just remember that you have us here at this forum ..
and you have to know that one week is not enough .. and it’ll take time .. but the result is what is important ..
so stay strong .. and take it day by day .. you can do it ..
and keep us updated 🙂thanx TristanJade for replying .. I’m sorry it took me this long to reply .. well there was no connection at his city for the past couple of days .. so I had to cut off contact untill he calls me .. We’ve been like this for a week now .. but still .. he calls me from his house whenever he can ..
but still .. I’ll follow your advice .. starting Sunday .. for a couple of days .. to see what will happen ..
today he told me that he’s not looking for a relationship .. not with anybody .. but I feel he was not completely honest with me .. and he’s hiding something .. it’s just a feeling .. also hes telling me constantly that he loves me .. and he misses me like hell .. etc .. but maybe it’s time to a little “me time” now ..but for how long do you think I should cut him off?he sends me a message saying he’s really angry from his parents and he needs time to calm down .. and that he’ll contact me later .. he did after a while .. and he calmed me down .. 🙂
ok .. something really bad just happened ..
he was online talking to me on whatsapp .. he put as profile picture a photo of him and some of his female friends that I hate “I really hate all of his friends” .. so he was sending me photos of him .. well I did say I didn’t like them all .. and I asked him if he’s gained weigh ..lol .. I was really angry at him .. and he was online .. as he said he was just talking to me .. but he was not replying instantly .. so I asked him .. if you are busy I’ll talk to you later .. he said he’s out with his friends .. so I told him ok I’ll talk to you later .. he said no stay .. I’m online just to talk to you .. so I did .. he had a fight with his parents. . they didn’t agree for him to come to my city tomorrow .. so he was upset .. and he was angry at them .. so I stayed to calm him down .. but for an hour we almost didn’t talk about any thing .. so I got mad and I told him .. you know I hate talking to you like this .. and I told you if you’re busy we’ll talk later .. so just say you’re busy ! .. he sweared that he’s busy because he’s at the café and that he really wants to talk to me .. so I said you know that I’ll be angry if you did this .. so you’ll get what you want .. I’m angry now .. do he said oh really? .. then I told him that he’s always letting me down .. while I do my best to calm him .. he said ok .. that’s what I do .. and he went offline .. after an hour .. I tried to call him .. he turned his phone off .. so now I’m really angry and idk what to do :@
any advice? ??thanx SM .. you may be right about him wanting me in his life as a friend .. that’s why I’m confused ..he is telling me every day that he loves me .. and he’s acting the same way that he used to when we were together almost all the time .. but sometimes he’s mean .. or when we argue about something he reminds me that we are only friends now (I do the same when I’m angry at him ).. but any time else .. he writes love songs as a status on whatsapp and he ends them with the “honey imoji” which refers to me :$ .. and he does whatever I ask him or something .. and he does all the things that makes me happy .. so idk what does this means ..
but I’ll do my best to be as distance as I can from him ..
and you have a piont .. I deserve to be treated better .. I deserve someone that knows he’s lucky to have me in his life (although my ex says he’s) .. but if he doesn’t see what he’s missing .. it’s his problem not mine anymore ..
but I kind if feel guilty .. because all of our breaks up was my fault .. I was insecure .. needy .. jealous all the time and I was stressed all the time .. so I feel like I owe him to make things up this time ..
and I hope you’ll get over your ex as soon as possible .. best luck for you too ..
