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today is 6 day NC… idk if i can make another 20 days of NC before i wish him HBD…. and then again nothing from his side,is he even thinking about contacting me? or why i dont contact him? he doesnt even want to make sure if i am okay, since i was in a mental hospital from a nervous break down and he knows it, doesnt even care to ask how im doing…?? I just wanna text him… actually i just wish i could have him back…. he doesnt write , or is a week just not enough for a boy to want to contact you/miss you ?
Stop looking for excuses to contact him, text a friend instead.
you need stay strong, contacting him now is only going to set you back. And most likely it will not have the desired outcome you are looking for 🙁
It does not mean he does not care, it does not mean he has forgotten about you, it just that he does not want to talk to you right now.
It will pass, just hang in there!
🙁 sigh this is so hard. okay i will not do NC for sure, but… it hurts so much knowing he doesnt wanna have anything to do with me after all that we had and so…probably im not the only one, but still.
thank you !
Be strong. It is very hard i know. Im doing nc for 8 days and no news from him. Maybe they have their own reasons that we dont even know. But u need to be strong. Im sure he wants to see you healthy and strong enough. Be miserable or any weak condition just makes him feel guilty and pity. I have been to hospital and didnt wake up the whole day due to lack of oxygen. He even mad and blane at me because i made myself sick. It hurts me. So i tell myself i wont be weak. I want to be strong and even strong than him. I want to make him surprise that im not needy, weak, clingy and miserable. Im better and i hope he will realize it.
Hang in there dear
@aryyan:
i agree with you.. their reasons we dont know .. But i feel like the longer it passes by the more pain i feel in myself, it doesnt really get any easier for the whole week i feel the same, just that I am able to hide that i am sad and look happier. Ya well, then they feel quilty when they realize you are ruining yourself cause of them.. and i am sorry to hear about you being in hospital. I do however feel like he will contact me in about two weeks, but who knows.. I want to surprise him too with the same things as you :), and also honestly i just want a chance in a few weeks so he sees i took his “advices” and his reasons why he left me strongly in consider and try to work on myself. and i want him to see the change in me. that im the same person he fell in love with, but still better.you too and thank you a lot!
im in the same position 🙁 today was only day 1 for me and i am so sad and so tempted. we broke up 2.5 months ago though and have been in limited contact and he still tells me he needs more time before reconciling and isn’t ready to be back in a relationship so I’m not sure what else to do…trying to make it to 30 days but after talking to him every single day for 7 years straight that seems pretty impossible
Thank you and welcome too dear. I know its hard. I really do. Been away from someone we loved and miserable without him like seriously it hurts. But we have to fight. We have to improve ourself to be better. We still remain the same person but better. Its not fair to see someone who left us and become so happy with their life. We also need it. And of course we want to be happy with our ex bf because we were so good when we were together right? So hang in there. Maintain the nc, improve ourself, be cute and happy, contact him after nc with interesting and new strories andddd see how it goes.
Im also hoping that he will contact me during nc for another more days. Its sad when i used to be someone he really cared and now he doesnt
hey tami .. I was in your situation once .. I didn’t think I can do it .. but I did it .. and I’m now .. in a better place than before .. and if I can do it .. you can do it .. we are all here for you .. if you want to say anything to him .. just write it down .. and you’ll fell much better .. and in the end of Nc .. you’ll see that it deserves it ..so .. whenever you are feeling down .. just remember that you have us here at this forum ..
and you have to know that one week is not enough .. and it’ll take time .. but the result is what is important ..
so stay strong .. and take it day by day .. you can do it ..
and keep us updated 🙂@atea1234: aww thats pretty long 2.5months ago and he still needs time. I guess you really should give him space and time but idk, i barely can not talk to him after 5months everyday talks and hours, even days spent together without seperation for a minute… 7years compared to that it has to be waaay harder…You can make it tho its hard. really hard but i believe in you .
@aryyan: It is hard indeed, but honestly when i can come here and let out my pain and fears and temptation + reading all your fears/pains etc.. it feels a bit easier, and while reading your stories i can forget about mine and relate at the same time. Im glad i have someone i can tell things like this too, without getting yelled at like get over him or he isnt the only one or stop talking about him… Me too, i still am hoping for him to contact me , maybe in a week – around 23 december… i have the feeling he will, but omg… i dont wanna hope too much and then be disapointed… Tho i dont believe he is actually happy without me, I think he just isnt ready to get back in contact with me. His feelings are frozen and he uses logic, or else he’d already texted me… i miss him :c
@Mema:
so you did the NC the right way( didnt contact him for 30days ?) and then after the nc was over, you wrote him or did he wrote you first? And are you okay with your ex now? or friends and so? Yes I guess one week really isnt enough.. Im trying to put myself in his position if I was the one who broke up with him and im not sure if I wanted contact with him after a week. even if i’d still love him it would hurt too much to be around him as a friend knowing that I broke his heart.Maybe he looks at this this way or idk… Yes I will keep you updated, and you all do the same ! 🙂I wish the best of best luck to all of you (and me :p) to get back the one we love.
BTW i talked to a physic (i couldnt help myself not to, the money is totally worth it).. he once needed a break and the physic told me we will be together normally again at that time (and we were!) so now they said we need to take it slow and give it time, especially since he is kinda off with his emotions, and that we both dont want to get personally involved in saving our relationship, cause we both know we need time a patience to heal.. (which is also true). Im saying this for some pozitive hope, bcause positive thinking brings more positive results. Heasring a physic saying that made me feel better about thinking about me and him getting back together, and also my gut feeling is telling me we will be. 🙂I know. Sometimes i dont understand. How could he be so happy after we broke up? How could he move on so fast? Im not sure he doesnt text me at all because he wait for me to reply his last msg or he doesnt care at all and happy without me.
Sigh
@aryyan: yah its so hard god…
I saw him again today -twice, when i was on the bus and he was walking from his job to his car (omfg he was amazingly beautiful, omg so much my heart hurts…) he didnt see me.. and then when i went from the bus with two friends(also his) he came 3 minutes after and i saw him again. he horned and i turned around and that moment he turned his head straight and drove forward to his house…. He doesnt seem happy, neither okay at all. Neither do I… i hate crying again and again day by day… but he was just so beautiful and.. it hurts me that he used to tell me how much he cares and hug me, kiss me…loves me etc.. and now im not even worthy of him to stop by and say hi or even one eye to eye look. </3 I wanna text him even more now.Ohh dear i feel you! 🙁
Hang in there. We dont know what guys think. We have to be strong. Just cry as much as you want but after that, we have to stand up and positive. I just came from the mall that my ex bf and his new gf went for a date. I swear, i want to burn this mall. Huhu im so pissed off and i really hurts when people said he choose her instead of me because he wants to be with her. Urgh!! He loves kisses and hugs and rhat girl like…so harsh and rude! How they went for date so well?? SighNo worries girl, you will see he will realize this with that girl isnt working or will not, at least i hope so for you ! Im proud of you for being this strong (its probably a rebound anyways, but still you need to be strong when you find out smthn like that and react as you did, angry, sad etc.. Me? I’d just go cut myself until i bleed out.
omg I’d die inside if i saw my ex with another gf. I dont believe I’d survive that honestly – tho i am 99% sure he will not get with a gf in a relatiosnhip anytime soon, he just had his first relationship with me. first time he was in love in his 22 years – in love with me (thats why i dont believe he is over me, he will never be completly over me, you dont really forget the first real love (and he was my first real love too). and cause i was his first love i am confident of getting him back-when i become better and changed, if not else at least as friend. I just cant imagine not to have him never again around me i prefer to suffer with him as a friend, than suffer not to have him close to me.
I just cant wait the end of NC and im hoping for the best, I hope he will contact me..but it sucks that he will see me almost everyday now for 10 seconds… idk if that is really bad or kinda good, what do you think?
and tbh i want to thank him. more than anything i want to thank him.@tami420 why you guys will see each other everyday?
the problem is that we live 0.6miles apart (1kilometer).. when i go from school through city where he works i see him from the bus, walking to his car while going from work… then when i go off the bus three minutes later he drives by with his car. past me,like i am a noone, we dont even look at eachother (probably we both look from a safe distance)..
so is this everyday seeing each other for few seconds… is that bad – i mean can it affect on the NC rules and does it get me less chance of getting my ex back ??
its really not possible to avoid this, unless he stops working (will not happen) and unless i stop going to school (which also will not happen). yesterday he seemed so unhappy and sad and same time mad… like he broke down and shut off everything about him.
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