Khine

It’s true.. For the first week after breakup , i was begging him and showed him too much desperation and neediness of me. I was like a gum that is stick to the hair. two months after breakup, i was still begging him to come back to me and fulfilled his desire whatever he wished. I allowed him to play me or let me be his back-up plan. He still confused to come back to me and hung out with other girl and even went outside , posted couple photos and status on facebook of happying with this new girl . I felt so hurt.
Then , I search my own way in internet to escape from that pain. I saw a lot of relationship master. But among them, I chose Kevin as my teacher and damn, he really did helped me alot. I followed the Kevin’s plan. First of all, it’s really hard but after days and days, I recognized what is the more important and what to do. I tried to improve my job, my school. I stayed with my friends and went out in weekend. Calmed down and stayed cool.
After 31 days of NC, Do you think I’m ok and forget him ? No ! But feel better now and I can accept the fact now. But i’m still afraid him to move on with his new gf. And I miss him so much and think about him all the time like 24/7. The day before yesterday , he called me , apologized for his fault. Doesn’t seem like he wanna take me back . I can’t believe myself and I even asked my fris on this website for advice. Last night , he called me again and begged me to come back to him and promise me to prove though he thought I have new bf now ( truth is not ). Trust him or not is the second part. I still need time. However, I wanna tell now is NC really works ! It can makes my ex to tell me what I wanna hear most. I don’t know what’s going on. But that’s my story until last night.

Steve,

Nice story and especially your quote really do help me. Thank you steve.

How’s your case ? I really wanna know dude. 😉

Dear Athens,

To be frank with you, I cried and wrote what I feel in the notepad of my computer ( so, no one can see ) just one day before my ex contact me. All I wrote was about my ex and how I miss him badly. 😐 still confused dude.

Dear AndyK and a.z ,

Thank you so much for your support.

Dear LA,

It’s really nice to hear that you are really moving on. You’ve made the right decision.

Dear all,

My ex called me again last night . He called my cabled phone . That’s why I can’t see the incoming number. He told me that he miss me so much and beg me to come back to him. He also promised me that he will try hard and he will change his bad manner and habits. He also told me that he doesn’t force me to come back to him , just wait and see how’s he change and want me to give him back answer, later. He also told me that he wanna marry me and wanna live in the city where he was born. ( Currently , he is in that city with his dad)
He thought I am in my new relationship now and also thought I already have intimacy with new bf (sex). But truth is I haven’t any bf yet. He also ask my phone no. as I switch off my ph for 1 month.
But I don’t explain him. Just silent and listen up to him . I only reply him as ” It’s all depend on you ” .

To be frank with you, I’m really so happy when he ask me to come back to him. I even smile silently as soon as I hear that. But , I’m still confused and question to myself ” Is this man really good for me for a long time ? ” As I don’t wanna break up second time. I’m so happy is because I’ve got what I really want from the past ? I can’t feel for the second time. I’m still thinking and I don’t know what to do. I need more time to get answer.

Any opinion will be appreciated and best regards to you all.

Dear a.z,

I’m so sad to hear that but I hope you to be better. Eat the soft food, soup and don’t forget to take medicine. Best Regards.

What should I do ? You means he just called me as he needs support from me for awhile as he fight with his current gf ? he don’t want me .

What should I do ? Should I call him and tell him not to call me again ? Should I tell him not to use me as entertainment ?

I wanna cry so hard.. I hate him now..

Dear all of my fris..

I NEED HELPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP………

Today is Sunday in my country. In the early morning 7 AM , my cabled phone rings. I don’t know . I ‘m still asleep. No on is at my home . That’s why I close my eyes and pick it up. Who do you think the caller is ? My Ex. I switch off my phone for over 3 weeks. SWITCH OFF !

Hey, I’m in serious case and I really need help. He told me that he is in other city of our country to work. He told me the following words. —

” I’m in other city . I’ve been trying to call you for a long time but whenever I call you, you never pick it up. You know ? I sold my phone. I ‘m not using the same number anymore. I’m sorry for what I did to you in the past . I really regret to lose you and always think about the way I slap you , the way I betray you and the way you treat to me. I can’t even sleep as I ‘m so sorry for you. Please forgive me. Now, I’ve broken up with my new gf for 1 month. How’s your job ? Is it Ok ? You are still in the previous job till now ? I miss you . I came to your office and also came to your street. But I didn’t find you as I don’t know how to find or whom I can ask. I wanna see your face but I don’t dare to see your face. I’m alone now. I won’t tell you that I want you back.. But.. You know ? I’ve known your value since the day you leave me. I really know why we broke up. It’s because of me. It’s because I follow the drugs. I was bad boy. You used to support me. I was not like the real man as I took your support too much. Now, I know what to do for my life. I will work in here ( the city where he was born ) . I will try my best . I don’t use drugs anymore. Are you Ok with your boyfriend ? When will you marry ? ” I can drive the car now .Don’t worry. I won’t call you again. Never, ” etc.

It’s really hard to force myself not to talk about previous relationship . You see? he talked so much about previous relationship. I told him like ” Don’t call me frequently as I don’t want you to fight with your girlfriend ” . He told me ” don’t you like me to call you ? tell me if you don’t like . I won’t call you never. ” . I repeat my words again and he angrily end the call.

1 – I told him that i’m so sorry to stick him after break up and I also let him know I’m ok and accept the breakup and fine now.
2- I really force myself not to ask about him although I want to ask too much. I act like don’t care.
3- I watch the clock and try not to exceed 15 mins. and force myself not to talk about previous relationship.

After he angrily end the call, I call him back for a once. He doesn’t pick it up. So, is he still using the same phone although he told me that he is not using that phone anymore ?

What should I do ? I don’t wanna trust him as I’m just in my 34 days NC. May be he is just take a trip to his city where he was born. Does he lie to me ? That’s what I want and should I continue NC ? I accidentally talk with him. I swear .

Don’t be disappointed on yourself. It’s normal. I’m in 1 month of NC and I also still think about my ex all the time and also afraid my ex to move on with his new gf.
No, you shouldn’t call her. It will only make you as a needy person. Don’t give her upper hand. Just continue your NC and everything will be fine. Just follow the 5 step plan. Let me share u Kevin’s advice, ( whenever u try to know what your ex is doing or thinking , Just accept that they are thinking about you ) You can also share your update and your daily feelings to us. There’re so many nice fris here to help you or make you to feel better.