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Its almost 4 months! we Talked on email about the end of the 3rd month!

Anyway, I texted her but no response yet!

Thank you for your input! By the way, since it’s been a while that I know she is moving out of this state, I don’t considering getting her back but would like to have a coffee or talk to her again!

I hate it that this girl is playing so much of mind games! Last time, in the gym she was watching me and when she realized that I can see her, she turned her face away! Yeah! I did not like it!

Anyway, I did it. It was better because I know that even though I have changed a lot and I don’t have any grudge on her but she is still filled with mind games. The way she looked at me in the gym showed that she still thinks about me!

Hi khine 🙂 … I answered you on the other forum. All my love xx

Hey Guys

Hope everyone is doing well.

Dara – I agree with what the others have said with your options for contacting your Ex. The only thing to consider is the possibility that she may of blocked your number and right now she may be open to the idea of meeting but because you are blocked she won’t know you are asking to meet up. If you don’t get a reply after a couple of days maybe follow up with a email/facebook message.

Khine – I see Rihanna has replied on your comment and I agree with what she has said

Sunshinegirl – Don’t worry if you haven’t had sex, I have friends who waited until they got married before having sex (Due to religious reasons). That why they knew they were committed to each other for life. I think sex while is amazing so complicates things when breakups occur. Look at all us guys who are struggling with our Ex and most of that comes because we got intimate with them. When you have sex with someone you become very vulnerable to that person, which makes the breakup all the more painful

So I have had a tough couple of days, no matter what I have done I can’t seem to stop thinking about my Ex. To start off, the weather has been stunning in NZ for the last few days. Finally after 3 months of winter and it being wet and cold. We have had some gorgeous, sunny, warm, no cloud days. The weather has been so great that people are walking around with smiles on their faces and all I have wanted to do is text my Ex and see if she would want to hang out and do something. This was the type of day we would go to the beach for a walk.

I have been trying to keep myself busy but it just hasn’t worked. Yesterday I went for a 4 hour tramp in a local state park to a waterfall with some new friends, it was fantastic, but the whole time I was wishing I was there with my Ex. Today I helped another friend, who is selling his house, tidy his garden. I spent 6 hours today in the sun chopping down trees, pulling weeds out, building a fence and digging a dirt trench. It was hard labour and I have blisters on my hands and all I could think about was how nice a day it is and I just wanted to text her to see if she would go for a walk. I was missing her so badly

I came home tonight and my mind felt so distraught that I cried. I feel so pathetic that even hard work can’t remove the feeling I have for her. I came close to calling her, but logically I know these are the deadly instincts that Kevin talks about and it sucks. It just plain sucks.

I get what you guys say about having sex without another girl will help you move on. Honestly I’m not a ladies man, nor an I a smooth talker. Like Dara I am certainly not into the bar/nightclub scene to pick up people. My Ex was my first girlfriend in 8 years and I just get this sense of brooding that its going to be a long time before my next girlfriend

Anyway just wanted to share. Have just cracked open a bottle of red wine and about to start cooking dinner

Friends,

I think every thing was a part of her plan! A long term plan! This makes me sick! I think that she cheated on me! F***!!!

She dated her 3-ex 4-7 years ago but I found this guys pictures with her even dating 1.5 years ago. So, they met whenever she was single. I never asked my ex about her ex boyfriends till this last January.

In last January, my ex spent 10 days in California & Oregon with this guy and some other friends. I found this “omnipresent” guy in her pictures from her January trip. Our first argument was in January and about what she was doing with her ex! In fact, it was she who always insisted that we should not contact our ex but she did it herself! The funniest thing is that my ex and this guy were in long distance relationship almost half of their relationship.

Yeah! Since January, we had nonsense arguments started by her and I believe she started them all to drift and now the strange news that she is graduating and she is moving to somewhere in Oregon is more strange! She had so many courses to pass! I think she took all those courses together in spring semester to meet her requirements and to join this guy as soon as possible (too hard to believe). I believe they planned in January! It hurts a lot when I did all my best to make her happy from January to April but all in vain because she had made her plan! She talked about her graduation like “it just happened” but to me graduation at masters level cannot just happen one or two semesters sooner!

This girl is the real devil. I am of course hurt by the idea that she might have cheated on me (which she denied) but I am hurt by this conspiracy and the games she played to make it look natural drift.

Anyway, this was my worst case assumption on the whole situation but makes sense since it started from Oregon/California and is probably going to end in Oregon/California!

Steve,

I am sorry that you are going through all these. Just like you, my best friends are married and I truly don’t close to others so easily. Probably, it’s a matter of age or some personality change. However, I have a lot of acquaintances –but not use in such days.

Unlike NZ, here days tend to get shorter and gloomier with sporadic to heavy rains daily. I’m glad that you are into wine. Last night I did not drink vodka for the first time in weeks and I am happy about it. I should decrease this habit in terms of frequency.

Rihanna,

Thank you very much! Since the day I visited here, I kept saying that she has strong reasons to breakup with me. For this reason, I did not fantasize getting her back much. I simply visited this site to get myself involved in something.

I feel low because these days are the anniversaries of our bliss! I was like this: waking up — morning sex — attending some festivals or events (everyday) till evening — dinner–sex–long night talks–sleep

Now its like this: All day I think if I should attend these festivals alone or not!

Anyway, I feel much better after writing those sh!t up there! I had never told that worst case assumption to anyone! woaahh!

Dara – the more you paint a picture of your Ex, the more I think you really dodge a bullet here, she doesn’t sound like a nice girl at all. While it could just be the wild imaginations of your mind with your Ex’s plan, there is also a certain twisted logic to it. If she spent time with him for 10days in Jan, the flame for him probably reignited and that may of planted the seed for her to move closer to him. As Rihanna mentions “let her go as you deserve better”. Yeah sunny weekend days remind me of the bliss days I had with the Ex, very similar to your day from the sounds of it, where we would always do something together.

Rihanna – I cooked a roast lamb with potatoes, pumpkin and peas tonight. For dessert I made apple crumble with ice cream. I made enough that tomorrows dinner will be leftovers…lol the life of a bachelor rule number #16 “plan your meals and make enough so you are not cooking every night”

dara,
As a man ill say this. Screw her. Move on. If i am in your place. I would be ao hurt and so pissed that if i knew this things early i wouldve gladly kicked her off my boat. you dont desrve her buddy!