May 14, 2015 at 4:14 am #45758
It is funny–I was reading comments for a thread on a Facebook page suggesting that men have harder times after the breakup. Women’s comments were like–it’s a bullshit or the participants lied, or we women cry every night but we haven’t seen any guy crying, blah blah blah… There were also comments from men saying that they had breakups years ago and it still hurts them but apparently no one takes those comments serious!
It made me think about all other truths in society that we don’t see because it is painted in a different way. I do no more think about tears as a sign of intense devastation. I had a rough one year but never had tears in my eyes and of course no friend saw me ever crying!
There is another scenario that sucks! About a month ago that I asked my ex’s best friend if she is still single, she blocked me on facebook. Now imagine if I had broken up with her and about a year down the road my ex asked my best friend if I am still single. My best friend would do his best to support her emotionally to begin with.May 16, 2015 at 2:39 am #46018
You know what? There was a girl we talked every night and she were supposed to date! She told me that she is going to New York and we can’t meet each other before she comes back in August! Guess what? I saw her in the bar cuddling a b. guy! She got nervous when she saw me! I did not give any damn to her and grabbed a lot of asses! It was a great night except that I did not get laid! I humped and grabbed a lot of booties. What annoys me is that there is someone who fucks my ex now and I look happy grabbing booties. No! No! Don’t get me wrong! I don’t think about the b!tch anymore but I wished I got laid tonight!
I am becoming more skeptic than ever!!! I will get one of those b!tches laid ASAP!May 17, 2015 at 1:42 am #46151
One man army helped a drunk girl find her car and helped her get a little sobber and good to drive to her home about an hour apart from here! One man army is doing great! She was shocked when I told her that I came to bar alone with no buddy but this is how a one man army is!! She might call me, she may not call me back but I helped her because she was in need!!
A woman showed her tits to me and I danced with many girls tonight! Need to work hard for the next weekend!!
Peace!!May 17, 2015 at 4:24 pm #46231
Wow you are out and about meeting lots of girls. Good on you. Sure you may not be getting laid, but at least you are out there at the moment, even if it is dancing with some girls. That’s more then what I can say.
Not much happening with me at the moment. The last week has been very quiet and I haven’t been out at all. The weekend just gone I stayed at home the entire time, didn’t help it was raining most of the weekend. All my friends were busy doing other stuff. I did think about heading into the city on Friday night, but didn’t feel like going by myself.
Be good when you get your car this week 🙂May 17, 2015 at 6:25 pm #46242
Thanks for the comment.
I think it is rough going alone to social events only in the first few times. I have started enjoying doing it alone. I have even started thinking that it is more fun to hit a dance club alone rather than attending a normal social events.
I have talked to some “professional” bar goers and they told me that they get laid once in a month even though they attend it every weekends. So I don’t think about coming back home alone as a negative thing anymore and I have realized that it is a myth that attending a dance club is equal to getting laid.
When I get the car, I might still walk to downtown because driving under influence is a bit risky but I am confident that I can ask for a date anytime anywhere!
I forgot it for a while but life is too short to give a damn to ones who left us.
Have fun everyone!!May 21, 2015 at 4:22 pm #46738
Have you got the car yet? Any new stories to tell?
My life will be pretty quiet for the next few weeks or so. I busted my knee up while rock climbing a couple of nights ago. I am off work at the moment and need crutches to get around. Guess I wont be going out much at all for the next few weeks. On a positive, I have used the time by going on an online dating site and I messaged about 20 girls. I have heard back from a couple of them already, so hopefully I can maintain some interest there and get some dates out of it.
I also playing the sympathy card with this girl that I have been flirty with over the last month. Trying to get her to make me some dinner 😛May 21, 2015 at 9:43 pm #46756
This is a special day for me. One year ago today I came across the most amazing people I’ve met though through my pains and hurt I’m glad I stumbled into HTGYEBP. That’s right I’m talking about ALL of you here on this site who’ve been there for me and I for you since Thursday 22 May 2014 and also my first day of NC. Thank you for touching my heart with your support and your beautiful souls. All my love xxMay 23, 2015 at 1:18 am #46866
Hi guys, I need some real advice here.
On, so things were going well until one night my newly wedded sis and husband comes over and he started bombarding me questions about my past relationship and how that ex was on drugs lost every cent etc… I got so upset with him but especially with the situation at the dinner table cos my mum is always a kiss ass to her new son in law despite the fact that he is a bikie and all his surrounding bikie friends almost killed my ex literally.
I have felt zero support and love from my family since I got here and this last month is proving to be the worst of my life. I texted my ex and he was as usual there for me and is helping me with my move b to Sydney though I’m all set, and did it alone!
Few days ago, I had a war with my mother told her she’s unfit for a human being, she’s extremely selfish and that’s b true but now I leave home every morning and don’t c return to very late just to sleep. I’m really uncomfortable with my living circumstances and I really just want to vanish from my family cos they’re all superficial and selfish. I don’t want to apologize to my mum cos she’s done some appalling stuff but the problem is, I still live under her roof for the next several weeks… Exam weeks 🙁
Any adviceMay 23, 2015 at 2:36 am #46872
Any Advice about what? Leaving your family? Apologies to your mom? I did not get it!
But tbh, be good with everyone including your mom! Stay strong sugar!
Nice hearing your story! I don’t have any one for tonight special but I will post something soon here!May 23, 2015 at 5:42 am #46883
You’re right Robot. But I think under the circumstances I cracked and now both mum and I can’t wait for my departure. But in my defense I’ve had enough.
Anyway, this was your shortest post to date lol. Follow Steve’s suite make some hot girl make you dinner haha…May 23, 2015 at 10:54 am #46899
I know what you say but you are going to go to Sydney right? I guess, you should try to stay cool and leave good memories behind.
Yeah! One year LOL congratulations for not breaking down! I guess I have even forgotten about my ex. It was insane and unbelievable that I had become like that. There are so many people around me now. I bought the car today! Last night I met a girl in the bar and asked her if she want to come to my apartment and she said yes. I told her that I can’t drive but she wanted me to drive, so the deal was incomplete! You see! Plenty of modetucking fish everywhere! Why the heck was I depressed over a b!tch?–I was retard! I am talking to many girls on daily basis sometime exchange sexual comments.
My stories are getting repeated. Me meeting new girls and talking to them and exchanging some texts. I will soon present my adventurous-stories!May 23, 2015 at 11:04 am #46900
You know what? Last night at bar 2 different girls told me that they love the way I smell and I honestly wish one day I could meet my ex and tell her, “f*ck you! You always told me that my favorite cologne stinks and people find it disgusting!” She was a cunt!May 24, 2015 at 4:28 pm #47002
Hi Robot and Rihanna
Rihanna – Sounds like you are in an unpleasant situation with your family. Sadly because you live under the same roof it will only go to drag things out until you move. Then once you have had some space from your family everything will settle down. I remember when I was 19 still living at home. I use to clash with my mum every day and we had some very ugly fights. The house was too small for the both of us. When I finally moved out and got some space from her. We both calmed down and everything went back to normal. Now I love her to bits. I suppose even during that time I still loved her, just living together when I was an adult made it tough. I’m guessing it is the same situation for you.
Robot – Great news on the car 🙂 I love hearing about all these girls you are talking too.
Very quiet weekend for myself as the knee limited what I could. I couldn’t even drive as I can’t move my knee to change from acceleration to brake. So I watched lots of TV and was on the computer.
Small interesting thing happen that I am happy about. Last night I was on Facebook and one of my friends had updated her profile picture. Her new picture was a group selfie of people including my Ex and her boyfriend. I looked at this picture and it didn’t react any emotions in me. For a good couple of minutes, I was looking at this picture and I didn’t feel a thing. I still thought my Ex is good looking, but there was no emotion response from me. It was such a strange foreign feeling. While I don’t want to start popping the champagne to celebrate. But thinking about it I may be moved on from my Ex now.May 25, 2015 at 3:31 am #47033
Hi Steve, your message made me feel good about things so thank you.
I’m sorry about your knee but sometimes staying in is a good remedy especially in winter. I wish I had a sanctuary to stay in myself, put my feet up, watch TV, eat a good home made meal… But none of these luxuries are available to me and haven’t been since I moved into my mum’s. I stand my ground when I say I’ve had zero support and zero love. So enjoy your nights in, munchies and movies etc…
I think you’ve had your distance from your ex enough for your feelings to become no more than a feign memory of the past. That’s great news it means you’re doing great being complete without someone to complete you. I’m happy for you 🙂
It’s so weird with my ex and I we still have this strong bond and connection even as just friends. He’s been supportive which is comforting to know. But I’ll always rely on you guys first because it’s proven that we care best for each other.
Robot! Yay, a car… Omg watch out world! You’ve been outrageous without a car it would be interesting to hear more from you now especially with you having a car… There’s nothing stopping you now, good luck on your girls adventures! hahaMay 26, 2015 at 8:13 pm #47120
Well you don’t have long to go before you move out to Sydney. Hang in there then you will have your own sanctuary where you can put your feet up and bring home boys. I’m sure they will be lining up when you move.
I have always been jealous of how you continue to maintain a friendship with your Ex, even after some of the messages you have sent each other. It must be a strong bond you guys have
So I have been told at work I need to take a couple of weeks leave. Time to start thinking about a holiday somewhere…not sure where, but if there is something I love is going through travel brochures and looking at all the interesting places I could go to. Somewhere warm with a beach is on my list this year, where I can sit at a bar in the middle of the day drinking cocktails and stare at girls in bikinis
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