Khine

Dear julia,

Thanks for your advice. I will do more than 3 months NC. One night, I caught him in hotel room with other his new gf , naked. But I even begged him to come back to me in that room. Then, I begged him in front of his parent, his sibling at his home. He shouted at me to get out . I stick myself in ladder of his house like snail from 10 AM to 4 PM. I cry , beg in his street like loss control in head. I also called his friends uncountable times to ask them whether they get any update information about my ex. I’m not rich. But I even support him money after we broke up.

He even told me like ” I know that you love me alot, you won’t never leave me or move on with other guy. I know you won’t sleep with other guy because I know very well that you love me ” . He considered me as door-mat.

So, How long should I take NC ? as you told me , more than 3 months , right ?
He also told me that he will marry me after 2 years if I can get 2 degrees, but he still want to happy with this new girl .. What the hell ?
I know I shouldn’t focus on his words. But I wanna slap his face . How could he tell me like that ?? How could he take my money although he has new gals ?? Why didn’t he respect me ?
I’m sorry if I annoy you guys.

Dear AndyK,
I agree with julia, Don’t talk with mutual friends. Your ex may think you’re trying to get back indirectly. Just disappear from their world for awhile. It’s more interesting for them.

29 days of my NC, I still need some space and time. But miss him so much. Is he ok with money , school , friends ? I wanna know. These are the things that I used to worry about him and supported him alot. I open up my feeling to my best friend. Sometimes, I go to club. Truth is I can’t do anything now as he has new gf. Begging, showing desperation and neediness will push him further away from me. The only thing I can do now is NC. I can’t choice.

Dear mhyy,
He doesn’t contact you in NC is maybe he is too stubborn to contact you. It’s not as bad as you think. Just calm down. May be he think the grass is greener. But after honeymoon period ends, the grass is no more greener.

Dear Daniel,
It feels like you dont know what love means outside of your previous relationship because you are so used to each other. <<< it’s really true fri.

Dear AndyK,
I started counting my NC since the day we talked on the cabled phone. I already started my NC 1 week before that day. But, i think he didn’t notice before talking on the cabled phone as I haven’t never ever leave him more than 1 week.

The more I show desperation to him , the more I need to stay in NC ???
So then, I think I need to stay more than 3 months.
I did worst begging ever. :X

Many thanks for your support friends !

Dear AndyK,

Ya, it won’t be easy. It is emotional control case. It’s not really easy .
I’m struggling too much to pass through. But hang in !!!

” Not only I try to stay well in NC , but also my friends in this website try too,.. , I’m not alone ” That’s how I give strength to myself.

😀 thank you fris ! I really love you all.

Dear kevinsmusicrox, just post your update. 🙂 fighting my fri !

Dear kevinsmusicrox, Have you already subscribed Kevin’s email ? If not , go try it. Kevin helps us alot. Every word told by Kevin is precious. I think you need to read his advices in Blog of this website,too. Highlight the words if it is useful for you. I always copy Kevin’s mail , save them in word files and highlight the words and I read them whenever I feel hurt. Sometimes, I don’t even need friends (outside) to open my feelings. That emails also can help you . However, they can ease your feeling. I can’t believe myself. Last 1 month, I can’t live without my ex , I always beg him. I think no one on the world hasn’t ever begged like me to their ex. But now, I can’t believe myself. I’m easily drinking water beside his ph call.
But no one knows your relationship more than you. I hope you to handle it well. Fighting !! my fri. Gud luck !

I think she want to put you in safety-net or back-up plan. The only one who agree to put you in that place is YOU. So, you need to get off from this situation. Sometimes, you need to show her like you feel nothing to her, just cool. If she knows very well that you love her though she’s with guy, she won’t respect you. She will think she can get you whenever she wants. i’m sorry if this can’t help you.

In my case, my ex won’t let me go away. Although he is in new relationship, he want me to wait for him . He doesn’t let me in love with other guy. It means I have to keep the responsibility of gf to him but he doesn’t keep his responsibility of bf anymore. It means he put me into doormat, safety-net, back-up plan as I always allow him whatever he decide. He doesn’t respect me. So, the only thing I can do is No Contact. But before I’m in my NC , he doesn’t contact me some how as he really know he can get me whenever he wants. That’s why he doesn’t care me or contact me.
After doing NC, he call me after 1 week. I didn’t pick it up. Ignore and cool about it. But inside of me, so heartbeat seeing his ph call. But no more pick up. Over 1 week , he called my cabled ph ( i can’t see number of incoming call ) . So, accidentally talk with him. He said that he have to choose now. Whether his new gf or me. I said ” DON’T CHOOSE ME, I don’t make a queue and wait for you to choose me, just leave me alone, I need time and space ” . Then finish my ph call. He keep calling me. I sent his message as Kevin taught me ” I need time and space , just keep our lives professional and keep our personal lives separate ” . But After treating cool about him, he still keep calling me like once a week or twice a week . sometimes, twice a day. Whatever, I don’t pick it up till now. Whatever my cabled phone rings, I don’t pick it up. My family only pick it up.

kevinsmusicrox, I really want you to do NC. So, you can get back your respect. If she respect you, she will care about you. No more begging to her. Beware of this ! Don’t give her power to play you by begging her.

Steve ,, lolzz “Hey everyone come over here…its a person who did the breaking up, the mysterious creature known to us as the dumper.” <cue> Ohhhhhhh sound from lots of people <<<<< what the hell ?? hehehehehe

I also think skunk shouldn’t try NC as he is a dumper. Totally agree with steve !
After that, let us know skunk as i’m so curious about your case.