Can someone share their success stories

Hi Raphael and Cudacrazy

I personally don’t have a success story for my own life, but I have seen it work in my best friends life. This happen about 5-6 years ago when we were flatting together.

My best friend, who was around 27 years old at the time, got dumped by a girl he had been dating for 18months and he was very much in love with. I was there with him for those first few weeks as he cried most nights on the couch, drank heaps and was a complete mess. He tried reaching out to her to no success and he went No Contact. As far as I’m aware he did NC more out of instinct then because he had read somewhere that was the thing to do. Most of what he did was natural instinct rather then sticking to someone’s plan.

After a month or so of feeling sorry for himself, he started getting himself back on his feet and in the 4 months or so of No Contact that follow he went out on a couple of dates and made some positive changes in his life, but he told me his heart was still for his Ex.

The big thing he did during this time was join a local theatre group and he got himself a role in a production. This was something he use to do and love but hadn’t done for a few years. When it was time for the shows he invited a group of us to watch one night, including his Ex who he had reached out too. He had also got his picture with some of the other cast in the local newspaper, which was a good thing as it started the lines of communication with his Ex. She came along to the play and enjoyed herself. I remember I sat next to her and she was having a good laugh at the jokes in the show, including the ones my friend told. (he is actually pretty good actor too)

That was the start of her hanging out with us again in a friends and group setting. As a group we would go to movies together, spend time at a local bar, go to the beach etc. This went on for a couple of months and I know my best friend was playing it cool. He told me he still secretly had feelings for her, but he didn’t want to push it and he would rather be just friends, then lose her completely.

One night after going to a movie as group. Some of us were heading to a bar, but my friends Ex, said she just wanted to go home and was going to catch the bus. My friend offered to take her home in his car, which she accepted. After a few hours and drinks I headed home, saw that my friend was already home. So being keen to find out how his night went and if he talked with his Ex. I knocked on his bedroom door and then walked straight into his room. Whoops he was in bed with his Ex….We all had a good laugh about it the next morning as she stayed the night.

Three years ago I had the privilege of being his best man at their wedding and they had their first child in Oct last year. They are still today very happy together.

Yes the plan does work, but I think the key thing is you just can’t sit around and do nothing while you are doing No Contact. You need to get back on your feet and do those things that you are passionate about. My friends wife told us a couple of years later that seeing him be so happy in the production after 4 -5 months of not seeing him, reignited the flame she had felt for him and from that moment she was keen to get back with him. Just it took a couple of months for it to happen.

A quote I have used before is this
“Live a life that she will want to be a part of”

Hope this story helps

Thank you Steve for the story, I enjoyed reading it 🙂 … I hope soon your friend will stand by you as your best man like you did him …

It’s true.. For the first week after breakup , i was begging him and showed him too much desperation and neediness of me. I was like a gum that is stick to the hair. two months after breakup, i was still begging him to come back to me and fulfilled his desire whatever he wished. I allowed him to play me or let me be his back-up plan. He still confused to come back to me and hung out with other girl and even went outside , posted couple photos and status on facebook of happying with this new girl . I felt so hurt.
Then , I search my own way in internet to escape from that pain. I saw a lot of relationship master. But among them, I chose Kevin as my teacher and damn, he really did helped me alot. I followed the Kevin’s plan. First of all, it’s really hard but after days and days, I recognized what is the more important and what to do. I tried to improve my job, my school. I stayed with my friends and went out in weekend. Calmed down and stayed cool.
After 31 days of NC, Do you think I’m ok and forget him ? No ! But feel better now and I can accept the fact now. But i’m still afraid him to move on with his new gf. And I miss him so much and think about him all the time like 24/7. The day before yesterday , he called me , apologized for his fault. Doesn’t seem like he wanna take me back . I can’t believe myself and I even asked my fris on this website for advice. Last night , he called me again and begged me to come back to him and promise me to prove though he thought I have new bf now ( truth is not ). Trust him or not is the second part. I still need time. However, I wanna tell now is NC really works ! It can makes my ex to tell me what I wanna hear most. I don’t know what’s going on. But that’s my story until last night.