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@KD1988 Yea i have and i believe i will go to a couple sessions. Waiting for some things to pan out first. Then i will go.
@Phonis I know man, each day i wake up trying to make the best of things. Its just hard cause stuff that i liked doing, i did with her at least a couple times or all the time. Its hard to not look or do something without it reminding me of her =/People chime in, i would love the advice from anyone. Thank you guys by the way. You are so much help for me.
Its also the fact that as soon as i go on facebook, the stress just builds so quickly for me. My hands start to sweat and i get so scared and depressed. I dont have her as a friend but it still bothers me so much. Its like my whole body is scared of what i might see or her name being mentioned etc.
@KD1988 i have to ask tho, since i am sitting with a ton of questions and kinda lost in this breakup. Its really hard to move on with that in your head. Whats the course of action when i say enough time is enough? Like i gave you what u needed to move on(for now), when is it my turn? Could be that she isnt really done with us, we just needed a break up and time apart.
Gonna have him just give his advice to her and just be himself with her. Thats it. Nothing about me at all. Hopefully this gives me some clues on what to do
Im srry to hear that @Gingerone. Maybe some day your ex will return :/ I know down deep that my ex isnt gone forever, i just feel it in my gut everyday. I think this time alone will do us both good. I just hope this time away makes us stronger as a couple cause in my opinion we were already a pretty good match…and thats one opinion every person ive talked that knew us; agreed with.
@Gingerone I think your letter is great. It gets to the point and shows your improving as a person. Plz tell us how it goes with it.
@KD1988 Ok sounds good. I feel like thats the right approach. Its just so hard to sit on my hands with so many questions to ask =/@KD1988 But…. do i send a goodbye or a improvement letter to her? Or nothing at all. Now i think i shouldnt send anything and just give her the time she wants.
Only time will tell tho. All i want her to know is that i can give her anything she wants in this life, that she wont have to “need” for anything, to show that nothing can come between us, that if she would give me,us,the chance to work this out, she will never regret it. But all i want is for her to be happy and if that means me not being in the picture, although it will hurt, thats what i want for her. I will have to accept that.
Yes that last post made me feel great. To be honest, she knows me to well. If anything, she is wondering why im not txting her and stuff. Why im not trying? She knows i love her to death and that i would do anything for her. That i am respecting her wishes. That must make her feel great about me. All her last ex did was stalk her, txt her, call her, leave stuff at her door, on her car, etc. For like a year! Im doing the complete oppisite. It must be getting to her that what she “thought” would happen after the break up, isnt happening at all.
@KD1988 So then i will wait. The ONLY thing i am worried about is that she thinks i dont care, cause of course it isnt true. I really hope my buddy can shed some light with me when he talks to her tmrw. How she sounds, what she says, etc. That will give me a bunch of clues. She might even contact me after she gets done talking to him. I had to push in the beginning for her to hangout with me and then we dated for 2 and half years. Maybe to reconcile i have to show the same tenacity when she finaly reaches out to me. I know if we give each other a chance, it will be for our benefit.
I also have a letter all rdy and stuff, but its a goodbye letter. I dont want her to think that im really done. I want it to scare her if anything. Its from my heart and i wrote it a thousand times to get it right. I dont know if i should send it tho. Saturday will be 30 NC with only one txt in between. So 3 Weeks NC actually.
@KD1988 I understand that completely and i have been. The thing is tho, She made sure to tell me, my parents, and ME again that its nothing i did wrong and she doesnt want me to think that. She might not want me to change myself at all, u know what i mean? I have already changed a bit with some stuff i always knew bothered her about me. It was little things tho. Nothing big that she HATED. So really i agree with you saying she needs time and that she even said she would reach out. The only trouble im having on my end is confusion basically. No one on her end or mine has any idea why we broke up. I have nothing to hold on to. Something i know i need to fix. Ya know?
@KD1988 Do you think i should send any kind of txt to her sunday? Like maybe just the end of the txt.
Just know that i completely understand if your not ready to talk yet but i wanted u to know that i haven’t abandoned you or givin up on you yet”
or something like that? OR just stick to NC till she reaches out?
