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NO we cant wait around, no matter what. I wanted to have kids with this girl and marry her. We talked about this all the time. She wanted too but then she up and breaks my heart? She needs to come to her senses. I hope as i write this, she feels as bad as i do right now. How can she just do this to me without even trying to talk things through with each other before deciding to break up with me? We were great with each other. She told me in the car that day(when she broke up with me) that “she will never be the girlfriend i want her to be”. If i wasnt so blindsided, i would of been able to tell her that she is completely wrong. That I wouldnt of done half the stuff i did for her if she wasnt the one for me. I really hope she decides to contact me soon. I need to get this off my chest.
I completely agree^^ If and when we talk thats all im gonna be. Confident, stern and mature. I will make sure to her that i am willing to go the additonal mile to try and make this work between us. If she doesnt want to hear it, then i will probally give her my peace of mind. Tell her that she is gonna look down the road from this and its gonna be too late. Then i will most likely leave or slam the door in her face. I WAS the guy who did everything for her, made her feel great. I was the only steady thing in her life. She wants to throw all that away, fine by me. SHE will be the one who loses, not me. I love her to death and there will always be stuff between us. She wants to tell me to my face, my parents face and then in a txt to me to REMIND me that “its nothing you did” then whats the problem?!? You want me or not? These are the things i would ask to her AFTER i explain that im willing to do whatever to make this work for us cause i love her; and i mean there is alot of stuff im gonna explain to her that should win her back……hopefully. but… I have to get my balls out of her pocket. I have to switch the power into my court and if our convo ends bad, she will know that she just lost all the power with this break up and she will come crawling back eventually. I Just hope she doesnt wait to long….
What do you guys think about what i said here?
Yea still no contact. We broke up the feb 21st but she contacted me on march 2nd about not ignoring me and that she would contact me, but she isnt ready to talk yet. I dont know what to do. i think i will wait for her to contact me first but when it gets close to a month broken up, i will contact her saying “ok so you had a month to think, i need answers now so we can resolve this or move on”
Someone mentioned that she is a cancer sign(july baby) that she might need alittle push. What do you guys think about this?
It seems that NC will make things much better. Make her miss you. Each time u dont txt or call her back, its gonna get to her. Give each of you space and time. Then contact her. When you do, be stern and confident. Tell her your feelings and in turn she will tell you. Hope they match.
If you guys have the time, check out my situation. I could use all the help i can get.
I will if anything changes. We broke NC 2 days ago so i got 28 days left but if she wants to get together to talk, i will probally tell her yes. I think she really just needs space and time. We shall see what happens tho. Wish me luck!
Another thing is that March 2nd she went to my house while i was working to give my mom the money for the phone bill one last time and to give my sister her 21st birthday present. My parents happen to tell me that she stuck around for like 45 mins talking to them. Long story short, dad talked to her about how we had great times together and should really talk this out and my mom told her that she really hopes that me and her work out cause she really liked her. My girlfriend started crying and then my mom started crying and they gave each other a big hug. Then she left. Thats when she contacted me for the first time since the break.
I would love to hear advice from anybody reading btw. Chime in. Dont be shy. I really could use the help. =)
Hmmmm well i know her. When she does contact me, she will most likely want to meet up and talk…or even go out to dinner and talk things over. We really never had trouble as a couple. We told each other that we loved each other the second day we went out and soon after we were a couple. We moved VERY fast and it always clicked for us. Thats why this whole thing has me completely blindsided. If she gives me the chance to prove that i know what happen with our realtionship, she will she where im coming from. I dont think that we failed as a couple, i just think we got too comfortable for our age and we lost our spark.
Question tho…..She said “she would gladly reach out to me, she just cant right now”. How do i go about that? Do I do NC or do i answer her when she is ready? Kinda lost on that. What do you think this means as well?
@RustyRed I know. im so used to her txting me a thosand times a day. Snapchats and instagram too. I feel so alone sometimes. Just want her back again
@patrick d Yea i used to play sports and stuff too. I was a manager at Gamestop when we first started dating lol so she knew what i was beforehand. Now i have a comfy city job and its very demanding with time. 5:30am to 5:00pm everyday/weekends off tho. She is a hairdresser currently so her hours are almost oppsite of mine. (usually works from 12am to 10pm) We saw each other almost everyday but prob only 10+ hours a week cause of our schedules. She did txt me 2 days ago basically saying “Im not ignoring you for any reason, im just not ready to talk. You have done nothing wrong so please stop thinking that, i dont want u to think that. I will gladly reach out to you, i just cant right now” I responded “alright I understand”. I really think we became to rotational for such a young couple. Very routine. I could see how it got boreing
@RustyRed Most of my friends say the same thing as you do. Give her the space she needs and she will come back. I just hope they are right =/@RustyRed Here’s my story man. Thanks for any help you can give.
You guys are extremely helpful to me. Ive been reading the convos between you guys and it seems that you guys could shine some light on my situation. Reading your discussion helps the depression i am feeling. If you guys have the time to check my case out, it would be awesome. Im really hurting over here. Thanks Pat and Cal =)
