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Someone mentioned that she is a cancer sign(july baby) that she might need alittle push. What do you guys think about this?
Yea still no contact. We broke up the feb 21st but she contacted me on march 2nd about not ignoring me and that she would contact me, but she isnt ready to talk yet. I dont know what to do. i think i will wait for her to contact me first but when it gets close to a month broken up, i will contact her saying “ok so you had a month to think, i need answers now so we can resolve this or move on”
Im on day 8 of NC. It’s hard man but keep strong. All you could do for now till she messages you Or you complete your NC. Meanwhile try to gdt yourself up
This is what I think. If my ex was to knock at my door right now what is she going to see? A guy crying his eyes off or some new confident attractive Man? I think she’d take the confident man all day. Its hard but we gotta get ourselves up and don’t let them see us down.I completely agree^^ If and when we talk thats all im gonna be. Confident, stern and mature. I will make sure to her that i am willing to go the additonal mile to try and make this work between us. If she doesnt want to hear it, then i will probally give her my peace of mind. Tell her that she is gonna look down the road from this and its gonna be too late. Then i will most likely leave or slam the door in her face. I WAS the guy who did everything for her, made her feel great. I was the only steady thing in her life. She wants to throw all that away, fine by me. SHE will be the one who loses, not me. I love her to death and there will always be stuff between us. She wants to tell me to my face, my parents face and then in a txt to me to REMIND me that “its nothing you did” then whats the problem?!? You want me or not? These are the things i would ask to her AFTER i explain that im willing to do whatever to make this work for us cause i love her; and i mean there is alot of stuff im gonna explain to her that should win her back……hopefully. but… I have to get my balls out of her pocket. I have to switch the power into my court and if our convo ends bad, she will know that she just lost all the power with this break up and she will come crawling back eventually. I Just hope she doesnt wait to long….
What do you guys think about what i said here?
i think what you said about the power thing is good. Usually stuff like that is not good obviously, but in this case when you take the ball out of her court she has to live with the fact that its now on your terms too and your not desperate anymore and that should work wonders. Once again you and i are in very similar situations. because i was very good to my girlfriend too and i think one day shell understand that. But hey we can’t wait forever right!?
NO we cant wait around, no matter what. I wanted to have kids with this girl and marry her. We talked about this all the time. She wanted too but then she up and breaks my heart? She needs to come to her senses. I hope as i write this, she feels as bad as i do right now. How can she just do this to me without even trying to talk things through with each other before deciding to break up with me? We were great with each other. She told me in the car that day(when she broke up with me) that “she will never be the girlfriend i want her to be”. If i wasnt so blindsided, i would of been able to tell her that she is completely wrong. That I wouldnt of done half the stuff i did for her if she wasnt the one for me. I really hope she decides to contact me soon. I need to get this off my chest.
Also Kevin if can give me an insight on this whole situation, that would be awesome. Thank you
Can someone link him to this Thread? cant figure it out =/
jared ur preaching to the choir man. I loved her and she talked about that stuff too with me. never communicated she was unhappy (couldn’t have been unhappy too long i know that for sure) and just ups and breaks my heart out of nowhere. now I’m thinking the same thing as you man. She needs to come to her senses. And i can’t make her. She has to realize on her own. One day she will realize what she lost (hopefully sometime very soon as I’ve been in no contact for 2 weeks now). She had a couple of tiny problems with me and i said i could fix them but i guess she was too hurt to understand that at the time (breakup happened a month ago). She said shed always care about me.. and we were each others first loves. So i think shell regret her decision. As i think yours will too! good luck my man
You too man, hopefully we can get through this. I know we both want them back, just hopefully she feels the same way when she deciedes to finally contact me. Ill give any updates as they come up.
I feel ya man. This is something i thought would never happen. I am still so in awe after 2 weeks now. I really cant believe it. Just keep the NC and see what happens. We gotta let them miss us. I never did much wrong in the realtionship, what could she possibly holding onto?
She contacted my mom today about the phone i bought her and my mom said she sounded really depressed and sad on the phone. I know she said she would contact me, but what if she is really waiting for me to contact her? To fight for her. Im not sure. She could just be feeling as crappy as me right now and still thinking things over. I just want this to be over with already!!
well she might be sad and depressed. but it was her decision. if she will reach out saying; we need to talk , i think i did a mistake” then yes she probably feels like you do. if she doesnt then let her be and really reach out after 30 day NC. if she will want to be with u again the letter will melt her heart.
patience my dear. getting back an ex can take a lot of time and effort. but first ..you have to be first. this NC is more about YOU and your improvememnt and less about how ur ex is and what she is up to ad how she feels. okay ofcourse i was thinking about him all the time but get occupied do things that make u happy go out do things enjoy life.
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