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Ughh i know it is. Its so difficult working on yourself when the happiest ive been ever in my life is when she was in it. Did you read my story @tami420?
I feel as if my soul stayed in the car that day with her. I literally will not be thinking about her at all. Completely doing something else and all of a sudden i get this overwhemling pain in my chest. That i have to stop what i am doing. I dont know what it is but its like my heart is giving out on me sometimes. Its like losing my soulmate. I really dont know why she did this to me. It bearing a hole in my life. I feel that if this doesnt surface soon, i will have to seek help. I am so scared. Im haunted by the fact that i will never lay my eyes on her again. That i wont be able to feel her kiss or the warmth of her body next to me ever again.
Jared please try to keep calm and don’t let this take over your mind. I know how it feels. Just think you will bare it for the next thirty minutes. And then another thirty. And then just today. Then I started making goals like, I am gonna be with a mutual friend so I will see what she has to say, and I will bare with it until then. Then when I talked with her it was actually good, she encouraged me. So it got easier. And I would talk to friends and he actually messaged me a couple of times in the first two weeks. You have to find something to make yu feel better and keep going. Don’t think those things. Be positive. And if you were a great guy to her, you don’t have to worry that much. Let her be and go out and get drunk. She will be bored after awhile I am pretty sure. Go no contact for a bit, regain your strenght and confidence
I try so hard to do other things with friends and stuff as much as possible. I try to keep my mind off of her, but the pain always comes back. She broke it off feb 21st so i just hit my 3rd week. I thought it was suppose to get easier. It feels like its just getting harder and harder like my body is rejecting life itself as time passes. The only time we txted was for her phone that i got her. We never actaully “talked” yet so i feel that we havent broken NC.
Andd the txting was literally one txt and then of course what she txted me out of the blue that i mentioned earlier in this thread.
i can relate man. 2 weeks and 2 days into NC, a month and 2 days after our breakup and yesterday was one of my hardest days yet. I can’t quite understand it. But we have to let them comeback to us and realize they made the mistake, we can’t make them realize. In my case i treated her really well, But she’s kinda naive in what a relationship is supposed to be so it may take her a long time to understand. But i have to let her come to her own conclusion anyways. And it seems thats what u have to do too
Im tying my best man. One day at a time. The pain will slowly go away i hope. I wish us both luck
Day 17 broken up, 8 days since contact from her telling me she will reach out to me when she is ready. Each day goes by, trying to make the best of everything. Keeping my head in my job, trying to find something to do when i get home lol. I know i can be confident when we finally talk and try to work stuff out if she wants too. People i talk to actaully tell me they are proud of me because i really havent broken NC or made any deadly mistakes. That is terribly hard to not txt or call your ex after the break up. Yea its eating away at me, but i will manage. Each passing day makes everything come in perspective. I truly believe down deep me and her are not done. That this is kinda a “hiccup” in our realtionship and all that we need to do is get through it and make myself a better person from it and so does she. That with this time away from each other, makes our relationship even stronger. How is everyone today with their NC? Love to hear
@tami420 Here’s my letter. Tell me what you think
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