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Will be sending this to her around April 10th unless she contacts me before that. I might still show her in person if we get together. Its looks long but its 1 page typed and takes prob 2 mins to read. I only mentioned a few memories together. We have way to much to mention on paper lol so i will have plenty to bring up in person if and when we talk.
Dear Margo,
Since that snowy day in your car, I have had a lot of time to think about our relationship; time that I wouldn’t have if we haven’t split up. With this time I have been able to work on myself as a person and also work on myself towards you. I know you told me that it was nothing I did, and I believe you; that doesn’t mean that there isn’t room to improve. I know sometimes I was overbearing with always telling you what you didn’t do right or how to do things, and I was wrong for that; that maybe I should of mentioned all the things you did right all the time instead. That is something I will always regret doing. I feel that I became more of a father than your boyfriend to you. I never meant for that to happen, I just always wanted to make sure you had the best, and I fell ass backwards into it. We both know that we had our little hiccups in our relationship, but never enough to outweigh the great times we shared together.I remember when I surprised you with a trip to the Baltimore Aquarium when we first started dating and you were so excited that you made yourself sick; twice lol. Or when we went on our cruise together and as a family we must have had 100 ice cream cones by the pool; I even bought those stupid ass sunglasses from that guy in the Bahamas. The “John Rizzo incident” at Matt’s house still brings tears to my eyes. You were so embarrassed by it but we all could not stop laughing. The Zoo with Kerry and Derek….you screamed every time you saw an animal and in the petting zoo, you had to take a picture with every single animal they had; we all still loves those pics. We even had the small things like when they switched King of Queens with Mike and Molly. We were so mad until we started liking it.
One of my favorite moments in our relationship, in my life actually, is when the most unorganized girlfriend gave her OCD boyfriend the best birthday he has ever had. You planned everything out without me even having a clue. You told me get in the car and ask no questions. You made reservations for dinner, booked a hotel, the movies. Everything was perfect; you even packed me an overnight bag with everything you knew I would need. God you looked so beautiful that night. You were a prittyoungthang like always. I will never forget that day.
Like I said before, I have had time to think and to improve myself. You probably can’t believe it but I’ve lost around 20lbs since the last time you have seen me. I’ve been slowing down on soda and junk food; I have been going out more with my friends too. You made me realize that life isn’t on a couch, to keep the people I care about closer and not neglect them when they ask you to come out; especially you. I know that now, and I thank you for it. I’m sorry that I had to realize it too late Margo, something I will have to live with forever. Thank you for giving me two and a half great years together and five years of your amazing laugh that I have loved ever since the day I met you.
I hope we can share memories together again someday….
With all my love
Jared
Tell me what you guys think about the plan and the letter. All will help me out. Thank you guys and girls alot for all of your support. It really has helped me through this hard time
It’s good, it’s like you’ve put all your true feelings into it and that’s good. You should defo send it out when your ready. I hope it works for both of us
I’m sure she will, they love it when we pour open our heart. When are u thinking of sending it?
Around April. Most likely the beginning. I really hope she contacts me before that. I will most likely hand it to her if that happens. To show her i wrote this before i even knew she was gonna contact me
@Jared
Will this be your first contact after the NC Period?
from reading this site i thought you would want to start out as friends something light and no relationship related.
I’m not sure i’m i wrong? does kevin read posts?Depends on what happens when we meet tho or talk. If it goes south. I wont show her. Ill send it later. Like a month or 2
Ok, i hope it goes well for you. Im currently on day 5 of NC. i have to come up with a similar approach beginning of April also.
Im hoping she contacts me first but its likely that would happen in 3 weeks assuming it takes 2weeks for her to notice i haven’t messaged or called her.
How many days NC are you in?
Mine is a weird circumstance. She contacted me 10 days ago saying she would reach out to me, she just isnt rdy to talk. So im on NC until she comes through but i will still send the letter in april. We broke up on Feb 21st so close to a month already. And kevin doesnt answer alot. Mostly just reg ppl like us
Oh Ok yea give her space, i know i messed up by not giving her the space in the early stages she asked for. But hopefully with the NC she will see i’m serious about respecting her wishes and trying to make things work.
I think you should be fine she will contact you so thats a positive.
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