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@KD1988 So then i will wait. The ONLY thing i am worried about is that she thinks i dont care, cause of course it isnt true. I really hope my buddy can shed some light with me when he talks to her tmrw. How she sounds, what she says, etc. That will give me a bunch of clues. She might even contact me after she gets done talking to him. I had to push in the beginning for her to hangout with me and then we dated for 2 and half years. Maybe to reconcile i have to show the same tenacity when she finaly reaches out to me. I know if we give each other a chance, it will be for our benefit.
Yeah we all run that risk, but if she knows you at all she will know that you haven’t just stopped caring about her. And she has ASKED for time. so she will see it as you respecting her. Which can only be a good thing.
Yes that last post made me feel great. To be honest, she knows me to well. If anything, she is wondering why im not txting her and stuff. Why im not trying? She knows i love her to death and that i would do anything for her. That i am respecting her wishes. That must make her feel great about me. All her last ex did was stalk her, txt her, call her, leave stuff at her door, on her car, etc. For like a year! Im doing the complete oppisite. It must be getting to her that what she “thought” would happen after the break up, isnt happening at all.
Exactly. You want them to lose the negative imagine of you, and the way to do that is by NC after you break up. Depending on how bad the break up was of course and how you reacted etc. Everyone’s story is different. When my ex ended it with me, I completely broke down, cried (he cried) hugged, begged, did everything I wasn’t meant to do. And then started NC the next day. It’s been three weeks now, he has contacted me twice, I did reply both times but cut the conversation off and am now getting ready to send my letter. May be quick for some people but I have to judge it on how I feel, and my situation and what stage I think he is at too.
Only time will tell tho. All i want her to know is that i can give her anything she wants in this life, that she wont have to “need” for anything, to show that nothing can come between us, that if she would give me,us,the chance to work this out, she will never regret it. But all i want is for her to be happy and if that means me not being in the picture, although it will hurt, thats what i want for her. I will have to accept that.
@KD1988 But…. do i send a goodbye or a improvement letter to her? Or nothing at all. Now i think i shouldnt send anything and just give her the time she wants.
@Jared, I don’t think you should send anything to her. She has asked for time. you must respect that.
Give her more time don’t send the txt. I made the mistake of asking out my ex out for coffee and she said it wasn’t a good idea to go for coffee but nice idea. Now I’m meeting up to finalise bills maybe next week maybe week after depends how I feel. I need to make sure I’m ready. I’ve written the final draft of my letter
I’m going to give it to her when we meet up to sort the bills.
What do u guys think of my final draft?@Gingerone I think your letter is great. It gets to the point and shows your improving as a person. Plz tell us how it goes with it.
@KD1988 Ok sounds good. I feel like thats the right approach. Its just so hard to sit on my hands with so many questions to ask =/I know it’s hard to wait and do nothing but sometimes it’s for the best. I’m sure things will work out for u.
As for me I’m not so sure, I think it’s over. I’m going to give her my letter and that will be that. I think I’ll do no contact again for a month or two then reach out again but I’m not sure if things will work out. I’ve blown it. I will however keep u guys posted
Im srry to hear that @Gingerone. Maybe some day your ex will return :/ I know down deep that my ex isnt gone forever, i just feel it in my gut everyday. I think this time alone will do us both good. I just hope this time away makes us stronger as a couple cause in my opinion we were already a pretty good match…and thats one opinion every person ive talked that knew us; agreed with.
@KD1988 i have to ask tho, since i am sitting with a ton of questions and kinda lost in this breakup. Its really hard to move on with that in your head. Whats the course of action when i say enough time is enough? Like i gave you what u needed to move on(for now), when is it my turn? Could be that she isnt really done with us, we just needed a break up and time apart.
Its also the fact that as soon as i go on facebook, the stress just builds so quickly for me. My hands start to sweat and i get so scared and depressed. I dont have her as a friend but it still bothers me so much. Its like my whole body is scared of what i might see or her name being mentioned etc.
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