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Hey,
Whatever u feel is totally normal.give yourself some more time and be sure you will feel better.
I have been there before,i mean all of us have been there so we exactly know how u feel and that feeling doesn’t last forever.
Do whatever you like,go on dates,have fun.don’t worry.whatever it is ,its gonna help you and it’ll boost your self confidence.I’m a 23, female and from US
I posted my story for those who are new here ,somewhere below steves post last night and i’ll copy it below.I broke up with my ex 5 months ago and he never came back,i applied NC for 34 days.he contacted me.we kept contacting each other for a month and he was talking about his feelings and how much he loved me and…we met and he started crying and said that i’m the one for him and we should work on ourselves so we can get back together in the future .
I went to another country and we had an argument and i went on NC again for 20 days ,he contacted me , kevin suggested me to break NC and he kept talking about his feelings for me but he never asked me to get back,i got back here,he asked me out twice and every time i brought some excuses. i played lots of mind games and i never showed her how i felt for him and it made me sick and also pushed him away.We had another argument like a month ago,he texted my best friend and told her that my bad behavior is the reason that we are not together and he said he doesn’t want to get back with me.
he called me the next day and explained evrything and again told me that he loves me but we can’t get back together because he can’t forget what i did and that i haven’t changed and getting back will cause more and more arguments and he can’t handle that. and IF someday everything will be ok,then we can get back together. ( it was more like we can never get back together LOL )
He texted me after 2 days and then we were in touch again until 11 days ago.
I said i’m sorry for whatever i did to him and he said he forgave me.i told him how exactly i feel for him and i said we should finish this cuz non of us can move on when we are still in each others lives.He said he loves me and he can’t do that,he can’t forget me and he can’t handle finishing everything between us out of nowhere and asked me to give him a chance to meet me.
I have been working on myself to see him for the last time and i’m about to start NC forever 😀 .
So wish me luckIts good to see that you are really ok and i wish you all the best with your ex and every other girl.
Hahaha yeah,you should have suggested her to join us.
keep up the good job and i’m sure you are doing the best.And about me,i’m doing good.i do miss him sometimes but i have accepted the fact and i even think it would be better if we never get back together.but i can’t lie about that,i still love him.and i guess if its supposed to be over,i’m gonna need some more time without him to move on.
And yes there are so many success stories. you can read about it here https://exbackpermanently.com/testimonials/
Hey,
Don’t worry you will either get your ex back or you’ll be strong enough to let it go.it takes time but it happens.
why would you feel embarrassed if he is leaving you? you are trying to go through the hard situations to get him back and if doesn’t see that,so its his loss and he is the one who should feel embarrassed.so don’t worry about it.tbh i don’t know your story but you are posting updates here so i don’t think if you are at the end of the story like i am.
Don’t worry if he is seeing a new girl,be cool and don’t show any obsession over anything about him. hopefully you can change the situation later.And if he doesn’t call you,it doesn’t mean that he doesn’t miss you necessarily .i personally went on so many dates during and after NC and there were times that i missed my ex like crazy but i never called him or anything.
Don’t worry i’m sure you’ll be fine.Yes,i believe there are chances.
text him and say that you have been thinking and you have accepted the breakup.say that you care about your life and you want to improve it and say that you also care about his life.and wish him the best.
Don’t say anything about getting back together and Don’t act needy.the text should be that simple.Start NC,make positive changes in your life,try to find a job and that shows him that you care about your life.
You should impress him with the positive changes after NC so you can reattract him.Follow the plan.you do have a chance.
Best of Luck
Hey kevinmusicro,
please create your own thread.and its ok.read the article and you should follow the plan.
HEY joe,
Sorry i didn’t reply to your post before cuz i saw Dara and David responding and we have almost the same opinions most of the times.but i just read it.You should continue NC for 2-3 months.if she contacts you anytime before atleast 45 days ,you don’t have to answer it.
NC here means that you should cut the communications and you should stop stalking her.you don’t have to check her profile not for her but for your own good.stop thinking about what she might be doing.
You were right about the rehab.its actually the same thing but in this situation,only you can help yourself.when you break up with someone you love,its like a drug addiction.the same part of your mind orders you and wants to get as small doze of it as it can.but you should ignore it.its tough but you can handle that. i remember i didn’t even check my fb’s home page for a full month,i used to open my profile page,upload some photos and that was it.you want NC to be more affective so you should do that.
There is nothing you can do to make her change her mind right now.you should continue NC otherwise you will push her further away.
Don’t worry if you have been acting needy,she will forget all about that,she will forget the bad memories and she will begin to miss you.Don’t worry if you were the one who said it was over.it doesn’t really matter.
Work on yourself,concentrate on your life,try to have a good time,go on dates,do what you always wanted to do,make positive changes in your life.you need to impress her after NC,so she needs to see the changes.Leave her and everything about her for a little while and focus on yourself.avoid any negative thoughts and all of us will be here to tell you what you should do next.
Sign up to kevin’s email series and i recommend you to read the Relationship Rewind.
Its ok, don’t do it again.once i did kinda the same thing but its ok.keep cool and follow your plan.
Hey,
whatever you feel right now is really normal.don’t panic.be cool and thats why we shouldn’t stalk our exes during NC.but thats fine.its already done and in the past.
avoid any negative thoughts for now and don’t stalk him on fb,instagram… at all.
i think i told you,i didn’t even check my fb’s home for a month.
Don’t check his profile and don’t worry about anything.you were doing what exactly he is expecting you to do and you should change that.
change your privacy setting to only me.so he won’t find out that you have deleted the photos and after a week or 2 change it to public or whatever it was.
Even if he saw your reaction by now,its ok.
continue your plan and don’t stalk him and don’t think about any negative thing.HEY,
You won’t regret being in here and following the plan.
5 months ago,i almost died.but now i’m really fine.i didn’t get him back but i could make him cry and confess his love so many times.he never asked me to get back and we have enough problems not to get back and i’m happy that now i’m strong enough to say that .Dara,
I’m more than happy for you.i really missed talking to you and its good to hear about the new girl.
HOPE YOU ARE DOING GREAThey,
Your welcome,tbh i kinda agree with Dara about having sex with our exes in some situations.but it doesn’t have to become a random thing and its always really risky.
I think i’m going to do that for the first and last time and its because i tried everything until now and it may be my last chance.and besides,i like to do that cuz if its gonna be the last time,i won’t regret it.i wrote my story for those who are new here its on the NC section below steve’s post.you can check if you want.And about your case,i suggest you to do LC for 2-3 weeks.don’t be available too much.show that you are busy with your GSL during this time.and also that you are having a really good time with your friends and family.keep the conversations short and sweet.Don’t go out with him during LC.and again make a positive change in your life so you can impress him more when you meet him.
Be cool ,confident and positive all the times.
Meet him after LC and totally act like friends. ( first face to face )
meet him again after 2,3 weeks and create the scarcity
And then again after 2-3 weeks,meet him and it should be the perfect date.
I’m saying 2-3 weeks because it doesn’t have to be a routine plan i mean, it shouldn’t be like what real friends do.
Make a plan to go out or wait for him to ask you out then cancel it,it shows that you are not always too interested and you have other plans more important than him.I believe you know exactly what you should do.follow the relationship rewind and be careful with the scarcity part.he just needs to feel like he might be losing you forever but you should be cool and nice all the time and he doesn’t have to be sure that you are in a relationship.he should feel like you are about to start something serious and even though you are being nice to him,but you are not attracted to him like you were before.
Good Luck
HEY guys,
Its a really good idea and i missed talking to you guys.Dara,
i have been thinking about you but i didn’t want to ask you anything so you could tell us what happened whenever you wanted.i really hope you are doing great.And everyone who is new here,
I broke up with my ex 5 months ago and he never came back,i applied NC for 34 days.he contacted me.we kept contacting each other for a month and he was talking about his feelings and how much he loved me and…we met and he started crying and said that i’m the one for him and we should work on ourselves so we can get back together in the future .
I went to another country and we had an argument and i went on NC again for 20 days ,he contacted me , kevin suggested me to break NC and he kept talking about his feelings for me but he never asked me to get back,i got back here,he asked me out twice and every time i brought some excuses. i played lots of mind games and i never showed her how i felt for him and it made me sick and also pushed him away.We had another argument like a month ago,he texted my best friend and told her that my bad behavior is the reason that we are not together and he said he doesn’t want to get back with me.
he called me the next day and explained evrything and again told me that he loves me but we can’t get back together because he can’t forget what i did and that i haven’t changed and getting back will cause more and more arguments and he can’t handle that. and IF someday everything will be ok,then we can get back together. ( it was more like we can never get back together LOL )
He texted me after 2 days and then we were in touch again until 11 days ago.
I said i’m sorry for whatever i did to him and he said he forgave me.i told him how exactly i feel for him and i said we should finish this cuz non of us can move on when we are still in each others lives.He said he loves me and he can’t do that,he can’t forget me and he can’t handle finishing everything between us out of nowhere and asked me to give him a chance to meet me.
I have been working on myself to see him for the last time and i’m about to start NC forever 😀 .
So wish me luckHEY,
No,you absolutely shouldn’t sleep with him anymore.sorry to say this but it may make you a casual sex partner.
Don’t say anything about that girl and don’t show obsession over anything about him.
You can’t continue the Falsefriendship like forever.there are rules about it.
and if you don’t follow it the right way,you may put yourself in friend-zone.Have you read the Relationship Rewind by Ryan Rivers?
