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hey,
Your welcome,tbh i kinda agree with Dara about having sex with our exes in some situations.but it doesn’t have to become a random thing and its always really risky.
I think i’m going to do that for the first and last time and its because i tried everything until now and it may be my last chance.and besides,i like to do that cuz if its gonna be the last time,i won’t regret it.i wrote my story for those who are new here its on the NC section below steve’s post.you can check if you want.And about your case,i suggest you to do LC for 2-3 weeks.don’t be available too much.show that you are busy with your GSL during this time.and also that you are having a really good time with your friends and family.keep the conversations short and sweet.Don’t go out with him during LC.and again make a positive change in your life so you can impress him more when you meet him.
Be cool ,confident and positive all the times.
Meet him after LC and totally act like friends. ( first face to face )
meet him again after 2,3 weeks and create the scarcity
And then again after 2-3 weeks,meet him and it should be the perfect date.
I’m saying 2-3 weeks because it doesn’t have to be a routine plan i mean, it shouldn’t be like what real friends do.
Make a plan to go out or wait for him to ask you out then cancel it,it shows that you are not always too interested and you have other plans more important than him.I believe you know exactly what you should do.follow the relationship rewind and be careful with the scarcity part.he just needs to feel like he might be losing you forever but you should be cool and nice all the time and he doesn’t have to be sure that you are in a relationship.he should feel like you are about to start something serious and even though you are being nice to him,but you are not attracted to him like you were before.
Good Luck
Hi a.z,
Hope you can reply because I’m freaking out right now and I was doing sooooo good lately. As you suggested last time, I went into LC with my ex. It was actually pretty easy since he’s out of state for work. A Few texts back and forth within the last 2 weeks to say happy birthday and see how he was doing which he replied to no problem. The thing is today I found out (not from him) that he’s taking this other girl he’s supposedly seeing away on vacation, they’ve only been together about 3 months, and also found out he got a very good job offer in Virginia and is seriously considering moving out of state! Is he really going to move just like that? Is he going to take some girl he just met and her baby and move?? I’m crushed, He still hasn’t even mentioned her to me! 25% of his belongings are here still in the apartment we shared for 4 years. I was just intimate with him 2 weeks ago! What should I do now?? Should I bring all of this up next time we meet up and see if he tells me everything? I’m so confused I don’t know what to do. We’ve been doing good, getting along great. This is so unlike him!
Hey,
I’m glad you came here before you start making the situation worse 😀 .
Don’t panic.Never ask anything about his dating life from anyone and ask everyone not to say anything about him to you.Don’t worry about anything.Don’t tell him anything about it.If he is not talking about his dating life,its actually a really good sign.
EVEN IF he mentions anything about her,be cool and show that your not even hurt and act exactly like friends.Never say anything bad about her and don’t ask him to break up with her.He has not moved on and he can’t move on anytime soon.Tbh moving to another state is something different that i can say nothing about it it has nothing to do even with your relationship or his feelings for you.
Don’t worry about that girl,i think its a rebound.EVEN IF its not a rebound,no one said you can’t get him back and it actually changes nothing about your plan.
You should be calm patient,positive,confident and continue the plan.Best of Luck
A.z,
Thanks for replying so fast. I know, i need to seriously calm down. This just caught me completely off guard! We were just texting earlier about him returning soon and already having another work trip for another two weeks coming up. It just baffles me that he hasn’t even mentioned this other girl to me and is already taking her on vacation so soon. I’ve never understood why, maybe some of the guys here could have some insight as to why a guy would hide a new relationship. Once again Thanks for your advice, it’s just been so difficult for me. We moved to Florida less than a year ago and I don’t really have any friends or know anyone other than my ex and his dad that lives about 5 mins away. That is where my ex stays now. I’m so glad I found this website! I’ll continue LC until he returns and take things from there.Your welcome and read this article https://exbackpermanently.com/signs-your-ex-wants-you-back/
Hello A.z,
I need your advice again! So my ex came back from his business trip. He sent me a text saying ” hi. I’m back” so I called and he wanted me to come over so we could talk. He told me about the job offer in Virginia which he has since accepted. He’s moving on the 1st of October!! I told him congrats and that I was happy for him but in reality I feel awful inside. We were doing good and now it seems like I’ve ran out of time. I’m going to lose him for good once he’s gone. On another note this is were his rebound ends!Seems my last message got cut short… This is how it continues: Should I drop the whole “false friendship” and tell him how I really feel? I feel like he should know before he moves away but I’m not sure if it’s the right move. I know it’s not going to stop him from going but I don’t want him to leave never knowing how I still feel about him! He’s away for business again but returns next weekend and we will be meeting up again.I need advice on how to proceed before then! Thanks!!
Anyone please!? I need advice. My ex is returning this Sunday and I need to figure out how to proceed.
Hey,
I think you don’t have to tell him how you really feel.Continue the falsefriendship its the only way you can increase your chances.Hi Az,
Thanks for the reply. Is this the best way to continue? Like I said he is moving out of state in about 3 weeks. I don’t think false friendship will work much with a few states in between. I’m so confused!Telling him how much you love him or anything about your feelings,doesn’t make him change his mind.Its your decision and i can’t make it for you.But since he is moving to another state,he may use that as an excuse not to get back together.
You can create the falsefrienship.You can use video calls sometimes and seriously nothing really changes.You can plan to meet him after some time.Hi AZ,
So I followed your advise and didn’t tell my ex how I feel about him when we got together earlier today. He is moving away in about 3 weeks but he is still talking to this girl and just today he told me he’s not seeing anyone!! It’s been about 4 months they’ve been together and he’s still denying her. Anyways, I’m losing hope with each passing day and could use some encouragement. He seemed kinda distant today. Some days this is too overwhelming and with him moving out of state I feel I’ve lost all hope of ever getting back together. I don’t know what to do, I feel like going no contact for 3-6 months after he moves and see if he contacts me but I’m afraid it could backfire and he won’t think of me at all. I could really use some support and advise. I’m having a hard time lately, crying a lot since I found out he is moving.hey,
I totally understand you and i know how tough this is.
He denying her and thats a good sign.He is probably thinking about getting back together.
Listen,you don’t need to restart NC to get him back but if you think you need to do that for your own good,do it.you are more important than your ex and the most important part of NC is about you.You should learn to find happiness without him.You should become a happy confident person without him in your life.Thats really the first step to get an ex back.
Don’t be disappointed my ex wants me back after 7 months.And we only met once during that time.So everything is possible.Just be the one who he first met,you made him fall in love with you once and you can do that again.You just need to be yourself.Be that happy confident girl and show him that you’re doing great.
I understand every word that you say but i’m sure you can handle that.Nothing changes about the plan.The only thing that makes it a little more challenging is the meeting part but there’s nothing to worry about,you can plan to meet him.
Avoid any negative thoughts and focus on yourself.Best of luck 🙂
Hello a.z,
It’s been 3 months since my last post. I’m not sure if you’re still around but I do hope you are because your advice was very helpful back then and I hope you can help me one last time! My Ex has since moved to Virginia like I told you he would back at the beginning of October. He started contacting me daily. I’m not sure if it was due to him missing me or boredom but we started talking more. Long story short I’ve visited him twice already and will be going again this upcoming Friday. We’ve had an amazing time every time I’m up there with him and I’ve kept it cool with no pressure put on him to get back together. I just wanted to reconnect and take it slow and just let things flow naturally. While I’m up there we basically act as a couple. The problem is I just found out that the girl he had rebounded with after our breakup has be contacting him again and since they work for the same company she has requested a transfer and will be moving up there with his help. She’ll be working for him now. They’ll probably be together. I just don’t know what this means and were it came from.
He has still never mentioned her to me, ever! Has always said he’s single and not seeing anyone. And has told me that he likes having me around with him and enjoys my company and I’m welcomed to come see him anytime I want. How could he offer this and still be in plans to help this girl move up there? I’m just confused right now. I feel hurt all over again. He’s never mentioned her and doesn’t know that I had found out he was seeing someone after our break up. I always though if she was going to go away eventually then what was the point of me even bringing it up and I should focus on us and not worry about her. But now things are going to change. I’ll be states away while she’ll be right there with him again. Is it time to give up? I need advice!! I love him very much still. We were together for almost 5 years and we’ve been broken up a little over 7 months. I don’t know what to do, please help!!
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