July 31, 2014 at 2:25 pm #930
Dara, a.z, kevin, someone anyone
its been five weeks sense my ex and I broke up, lately ive been noticing that everyday I get stronger. Today I noticed that he deleted photos of us from instagram except for two but the two that he kept arent a picture of our faces but it was a picture of candy and dr pepper that I bought him and the other one was a picture of what he gave me for our two months. I than got mad and went on facebook and instagram and deleted everything. I need help I was doing so good until he did this. I don’t know if its even possible for us to get back together now and now he probably will delete me from facebook once he finds out. I dont understand why he had to do tha.July 31, 2014 at 3:42 pm #936
I am glad to you are stronger than before. I wish for day that you become so strong that whatever he delete, you don’t care much.
Anyway, one chance is that he deleted your picture because he can’t avoid missing you. The worst case scenario is that he wants to start a relationship with someone else. Lets not think about thousands of other scenarios that be the cause.
Its okay that you deleted his pictures too. I believe they gave you some ease and confidence that you can also delete him if he annoys you!
I suggest you to continue the NC, even extend it for a week. Then follow the plans in contacting him. After all, we came to this site because our instincts failed to make our relationship come back and now we want to try this last shot!
Best of luck k.z.! Again congratulations on becoming stronger than before!July 31, 2014 at 4:04 pm #938
I do worry that it could be that he is tryin to start a relationship with someome else, but I dont want to assume anything but I also think he is tryin to avoid missing me. But he didn’t delete any pictures of us from facebook just instagram so I dont know, whatever is suppose to happen will happen.July 31, 2014 at 4:10 pm #939
K.W, How long are you doing NC for?
Don’t go on his Facebook or instagram. Deactivate yours if you have to…July 31, 2014 at 4:17 pm #942
I know. If I was you I would also panic. For now lets see the positive side. He will keep you relaxed! I suggest you to act cool and just watch what’s happening. Yet, I know its really hard to act cool in these cases! Anyway, best of luck in being patient in these moments!July 31, 2014 at 4:18 pm #943
I havent completely decided, probably at least two months.July 31, 2014 at 4:21 pm #944
Im definitely keeping my cool, I just don’t understand why you delete pictures, but keep two , and not delete them from facebook. To me I would do everything like I did and I wouldnt even have kept the two that he did. His thought process is weird I dont understand it.July 31, 2014 at 4:27 pm #945
Why two months and not the regular 30 days? (If you don’t mind me asking?)July 31, 2014 at 4:33 pm #946
Weve already past 30 days, and he just deleted the pictures today , and Im afraid of rejection. I still feel that were in the semi mad stage and I think I would blow up if I tried talking to him. We also dated for a year and 10 month so almost two years.July 31, 2014 at 4:39 pm #947
Good k.w.! Maybe he is trying to move on! In fact, I am not on Instgram so I have no clue how do people perceive it when someone have pictures with an ex-partner. About Facebook, if I date a girl with pictures of another guy (yet, at least 1-2 month old), I would perceive that they are not dating anymore.
The fact, is that you can’t do anything. So, lets calm down and focus on the plan.July 31, 2014 at 4:47 pm #949
exactly thank you for the help, its always helpful. Glad I can come here and yall help calm me down.July 31, 2014 at 4:59 pm #951
Oh… I know what you mean… I was off the edge yesterday… Dara totally saved me…
I think I can beat deleted pics… She changed her number after a few days.. I went nuts.. granted we’ve had many break up fights…Maybe she’s really trying to move on this time.. Kinda hurts, but I’m hangingJuly 31, 2014 at 5:35 pm #955
yah I know what you mean. This is our first break up, though we fought all the tim. We were both stressed out with school and stuff. We are both are hard headed. Now that we are broken we find things thatll push each other over the edge. Were bad about trying one up each other also and were both competitive.
With your situation , I dont know your story but It sounds like she is still mad and will do anything to make you mad.July 31, 2014 at 7:38 pm #973
your story is definitely similar to mine. Our personalities were very different, ive always heard opposites attract. Like your relationship we were only lovers we were best friends , told each other everything. Now when my ex and I broke we also had a huge argument and he ended the conversationen with saying he had feelings for a girl who is 17 and a senior in high school, were both 20 and juniors in college, but we have been broken up for 5 weeks and hes still single. And so am I. I think you definitely need to do nc , work on yourself, do everything you can to make yourself happy. If you have faebook, dont like things that have anything to do with a relationship, you want her to think its not bothering you. Take pictures with your friends put it on facebook let her know that you are acting like youre happy without her , itl drive her crazy. Sign up for kevins emails they help trust me. This website is the only reason why im staying calm. I cant tell my friends or family anything about mine because they just say stop thinking about him. Easier said than done. But trust me first two weeks are the hardest as it goes on you may realize that youre happier without or that you need her more than ever. Right now im wishy washy I go back and fourth some days I miss him more than others. Were all here for you if you need people to talk come here, will help.July 31, 2014 at 9:36 pm #985a.zParticipant
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whatever you feel right now is really normal.don’t panic.be cool and thats why we shouldn’t stalk our exes during NC.but thats fine.its already done and in the past.
avoid any negative thoughts for now and don’t stalk him on fb,instagram… at all.
i think i told you,i didn’t even check my fb’s home for a month.
Don’t check his profile and don’t worry about anything.you were doing what exactly he is expecting you to do and you should change that.
change your privacy setting to only me.so he won’t find out that you have deleted the photos and after a week or 2 change it to public or whatever it was.
Even if he saw your reaction by now,its ok.
continue your plan and don’t stalk him and don’t think about any negative thing.
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