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Hey,

Its ok to cry. Its necessary to cry and grieve over someone you love.I almost forced myself to cry today I mean we shouldn’t pretend to be strong.We shouldn’t try to hold our emotions in all the times. Its a healthy way to cope with the breakup and grief is the first step. It means you have accepted the facts and then you will be ready to move on. We can’t expect to feel fine in a week or two. A broken leg takes atleast 4 weeks to get better so why should we expect a broken heart to heal sooner than that.

I know it sucks believe me it sucks like most of the times of my days but what can we do? We should take it one step at a time. For now, cry all you want but know that things aren’t gonna be like this forever.

I suggest you to avoid alcohol until after you feel better. I’ve been there and it only makes things worse.its like a bandage on our wounds. No matter what we do to distract ourselves we should come back and deal with our emotions in a healthy way.

Its not too late.how long has it been since you started NC? Approximately 2 weeks or so? So its not too late. I think most of the times it takes guys around 30 days or even more before they start missing us again.

About missing him, there’s really not much you can do about it. Its gonna hurt and then its gonna hurt some more but eventually it will stop. I’m going through the same thing so honestly I don’t know whats gonna work to stop it but I guess no matter what we do, a part of us is waiting for them to come back and seeing it not happening sucks. We should accept the reality and deal with the pain. Its not gonna last forever.

I’m sorry this happened to you and I know how much it hurts. So do you want her back eventhough she kissws your friend? If you do, what else can you do? She already knows that you Love her.If she feels the same, she will contact you.

NC is the best way to go. Restart it, focus on yourself and try to be the new version of yourself. Let her see what she’s losing. Try to be happy without her in your life and thats the first step if you ever want her back.

Hey,

continue NC for 2-3 months. She might unblock you by the time it ends. I don’t know the details but don’t panic. Even if she hates you right now, its not that bad.she’s probably just angry. The worst thing is being indifferent.don’t focus on what she says/does. Continue NC ,focus on yourself and make positive changes in your life.

Good luck

For now,Its totally normal wondering about everything and or hoping for things to magically get better but unfortunately this isn’t what we need right now. We can never predict the future.nobody knows what’s gonna happen but the only thing I’m sure about is that NC is the best way to go. First of all, we need some time to heal. We owe ourself this one.

Our mind may trick us to think it may work out this time that it may all of a sudden turn out to be a great relationship but we shouldn’t really suppress these thoughts. Its all what our own mind is doing to us. No matter how hard it is, try to focus on yourself. The more we overthink the situation, the more confused we’ll be so please continue NC for atleat 30 days. Don’t think about anything negative. You can contact him after NC if you want but right now you should think about yourself and how much you deserve to be happy.

Trust me I’ve been through this and I’ve helped many people going through this and Nc is definitely our best bet.

We’re gonna be fine.

Please just ignore him.

You did the right thing. If you feel like he is pressuring you,block him. You can always unblock if you want to but remember that the most important part of NC is about us not them. We should do anything that makes us feel better. 30 days is nothing . If it was any kind of a serious relationship and if thet ever really loved us, they won’t be able to move on in a month no matter what.