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Hey final shine, I found you but Jburg I couldn’t find you for some reason ? And lol final shine god no posting on the time line haha no one knows I’m on these websites haha.
Hey final shine. Although we’re fb friends we have nothing to do with each other on there. No likes
Comments or anythjng. We use messenger which is how I can see he is going into our conversations agakn as I was the last one to send the message. Do you have a kik account where we can talk more ? Mine it nattycatty92 if you wanna find meYeah but even with us not talking for over a week now it seems like he’s thinking about me a bit by going into our messages but not saying anything. I’m still scared to block him at least just yet. But its not like he knows much anyway. He sees me getting out and about with friends meanwhile he sits at home and plays playstation all weekend lol. I’ve been sort of eying some guys off at the gym but I don’t have much confidence to just go up to them lol. But nothings holding me back if a lovely guy were to come into my life. However I don’t think it would get back to my ex. We don’t have any mutual friends espeically now after the split
Hey dude, yeah I’m all good :). No word from the ex and I’m not expecting him to. The only activity on my end in the last week is what I told you with him going into our chat conversation once on friday night at midnight then sunday morning at 6am. Odd times tbh hahaha. It feels as though we’re drifting apart at this point in time to truly get over each other even though we think about each other regularly still.
How are things on your end still working slowly ?
Wow dude sorry I haven’t been on here recently, the more time that passes the more I’m giving up so I try and distance myself from the forums a bit to so I am not as obsessive about it all. You know how it is haha. But that is amazing ! So happy for you and very jealous :P. Now just remember to take it slow and not jump right back in or let it go back to the way things were !
Nothing from me really, haven’t talked to the ex in a week now which was when he messaged me about his career. Like I told you he mustn’t have liked my last message to him cause he didn’t bother responding. However I have noticed since he finished work on thursday afternoon he played his playstation game all night and all day friday and some on saturday. Just the one game cause thats all he likes. I have also seen that since I sent the last message on fb he went in it on friday night at midnight and then again this morning very early cause the “seen” time changes. Probably doesn’t mean anything. I am freaked out though. I fell asleep in front of my computer and woke up to put it away and saw he was on fb at 1am. He starts work very early the next morning and I know he used to like to go to bed early for that shift so it worries me why he was online.
Dude I know how it feels my best friend would go off at me for talking about how my ex made me feel and would say things like “i told you so” it caused quite a lot of conflict and almost ended our friends. I know blood is thicker but just be careful 🙂 you don’t want to push her away just cause of your ex. Now I don’t know much about whatsapp or how it works but I see my ex on fb all the time and for long periods of time and I start stressing he’s talking to someone or when his snapchat tally goes up I’m stressing about who he’s snap chatting and what he’s doing. When in reality its probably not much. That being said I don’t actually know how whatsapp works, whereas with fb people are always online just stalking haha. I personally don’t think you should message her that. If you have the desire to really contact her then perhaps just ask how the pup is doing and leave it at that, nothing about her or missing.
Paranoia can play on your mind. I know this myself. I drove past his house one day and he wasn’t there when I expected him to be there and he wasn’t. I was freaking that he was with someone else. I don’t think he was in the end and just with his friend. But when you aren’t seeing things you expect (e.g. them online regularly and them contacting you) your mind plays games. I think it best you keep to yourself 🙂 I know its hard but you contacting her won’t get the answer regarding what you;re seeking here and if you bring up that topic that will certainly not help your case. So in my opinion its a lose lose.
Lol mate you’re in the same boat as me worrying why she won’t contact you and stuff ?. But yes time does nothing but help your cause. If you got back together now not much in either of you would have changed and you would go back to the same shit and you could wind up here again feeling just as shitty if not worse a second time round. Positives are very important for her to reflect on as they all say the negatives are present right now and if you keep at her those will stay present for a good period of time. If you interact let it not be about the past or present relationship but how you are in life at the moment
Well Iwould also like to keep him on there cause if I do move on in the near future I would like him to see that I’ve moved on and I’ve met some great new man or some shit haha. Because of this breakup I feel almost unworthy and very down on myself these days and thats cause of some of his behaviours so I want to show him that I am worthy and other men can like me and such. I don’t stalk him anywhere near as much anymore these days and I know when we weren’t friends on fb for a while there I found all these crazy ways to stalk certain things and I feel I would do that again lol so this just makes it all out in the open
I think he is stalking me quite a bit though. He’s always the first to view my public snaps even though he has no reason to be on that app. And nope not today all he said was “looks epic” didn’t actually ask if I had a good time or how was it etc like a normal conversation. Don’t even know why he bothers with these stupid comments of him.
Lol I’m not ready for it just yet. But the social media is also handy into showing him how active I’ve been these days with friends and new activities. Including today’s rock climbing which was good fun and with a friend who he was kind of jealous of when he and i were together but not sure if he knows who i went with also 😉 heheheh.
I’m 23 myself and had troubles trusting him but I never ended it with him. Now I’m disappointed I didn’t trust him more. However things he’s done afterwards has really shown me maybe I was right in having trust issues lol. But when you end it either walk away or don’t end it right :P. Like since they ended it it should be easier for them to walk away cause they obviously didn’t want it enough but with us its a lot harder cause we didn’t expect it. irritating .
Lol hey Jburg32 its fucking fucked hey. My ex is 31 years old and this is childs behaviour. And for a man too so indecisive like I’m the woman and I know what I want when I want it apparently not the same for him lol
Lol well wow that ex seems kinda crazy. I was crazy but I never ended it with him just threatened him and try and spark some more care into him or something. I dunno I’m delusional I don’t think we’ll ever get back or get the opportunity to try again :(. Today I went rock climbing and put a photo on snapchat to which he said “looks epic”. Odd but its also an activity I think he would have been surprised that I would do cause I’m a pussy and weak as hell lol.Just wanna know whats up but given how things have been this last few weeks feels as though we’re drifting apart permanently to move on for good.
Lol you got quite worked up about that comment above haha. Its very unfair and I understand he may just be leading me on for his ego boost but I think there gets to a certain point where you either make up your mind or you walk away for good and stop the shit. And I think because its more than 3 months after we broke up its getting ridiculous and that if it was really over he should have walked away for good at least a month or so ago to stop this shit.
Perhaps but he said to me a while ago even if we aren’t friends he would still let me know how the application process goes and that he would also like to hear about my uni and stuff so weird. And even though he had his fix I don’t think it was what he was expecting to be honest though. Just annoying though feels like we’re growing away from each other for good now.
Ah see thats what I worry about. i know how hard it is to not have that talk. I did it many times in the past after my first breakup with this ex. However she’s going to think you’re still there and still begging and stuff. This time round I learnt not to discuss the breakup really. If you interact together keep it about anything but your breakup and reconciliation. You can talk about the great times you had in your relationship but nothing surrounding the end or beginning again.
