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Well I understand why he hasn’t contacted you yet. It’s quite soon for him. I have realised that the number of days of NC does depend on each situation. You may want to apply more than that.
Hi lynnwringley,
I am kind in the same situation only he broke up with me. I say you don’t text him. Are you applying NC though? Cause you are the one who broke up with him. Are you thinking of maybe getting back together?
LA,
You definitely sound confident and sure about your feelings. After all that’s the whole point of NC right? Either you realise you don’t want to be with them anymore or you keep fighting.
Regarding my email I actually don’t expect any response. And I don’t think I want to. Even though I was quite harsh in the letter he knows how I feel about him (and yeah he is a damn lucky guy but he doesn’t know it yet :p ) but I am not that sure about him anymore. The fact that I officially stopped fighting for him doesn’t mean I stopped loving him. It’s very difficult to erase 2 and half years.LA,
Have you ever thought that maybe it’s her reaction to the break up? Even though they broke up with us, doesn’t mean they can handle the situation. My ex even in our last meet up before my NC looked so cool and nonchalant and it was so annoying. It’s like all of sudden you ‘re wondering ‘Who is this guy?’..
I still find myself being angry at him and that no way he deserves my love.
I believe that only time will show if your ex has really changed or this is just a facade.LA,
‘despise’ ? Did she really change that much? Well I understand how you feel though. The email I wrote to my ex was full of frustration and disappointment. I even told him that I don’t believe he really loved me. So I guess I do understand when you’r saying you’r angry at her.
But is anger really the key to move on? Or does it hold us back?LA,
I am so sorry for these dreams you’re having. It must be very painful.
May I ask you something though? Do you rally feel like this about her or you just force yourself so you can move on quickly? I don’t want to mess with your head. I am just asking 🙂LA,
It feels good indeed. I was quite harsh but he needed to know some things. I honestly don’t think he will answer me back. I shut the door of any future reconciliation for good. I guess that is why it feels quite weird. Now I know nothing will happen..and it kills me a bit.
Athens,
Be strong! I feel the exact same way. Yesterday after I sent this email to him I kept screaming in my head that I am so tired of being such an emotional wreck. We need to force ourselves to move on. I just wish I knew how. It’s been 4 months and I often find myself back at square one.
We need to say to ourselves we are more important than them no matter how unbearable is their absence..SuzyL,
As you can realise this issue was a big part of this email. Even though we had discussed it before I don’t think he ever knew how much he hurt me. Oh well..time will tell
SuzyL,
I know for a fact he didn’t cheat on me. But to be honest I always felt he did it even by writing this email to her.
SuzyL,
I want to make a confession though. I wanted to shut this door of reconciliation. Like I’ve already mentioned if something happens in the future it should come only from him. Now I am not saying I will accept him back (probably not). But I wanted to show him than I am moving on and I am not hoping at all.
One main issue in our relationship was him contacting his ex. In the fourth month while we were dating he emailed her (yes I read the mail after 10 months and I apologised to him) that he tried to move on but he cant cause he still loves her. I wanted to break up but he convinced me he meant nothing to her. I believed him and took him back. Our relationship did become stronger than his previous one. Nevertheless I always felt that I was the one who offered so much more. Simply by accepting him back.
SuzyL,
Actually in most part of the letter I was referring to his mistakes. When you have heard only your mistakes at the beginning of a break up you kind of want to stand up for yourself. I did mention my share but only in 2 lines or something loool
I deliberately left out his new ‘relationship’. I didn’t even mention it.
But yeah I was pretty angry in the letter..SuzyL,
Thanks! I have a feeling though he could be mad about what I wrote but I shouldn’t care right?
