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Sunshine,
That is so sweet. I mean your memories. You made me actually think about all the great memories I shared with my ex boyfriend. Cause today it’s not such a good day for me.
In case you’ re interested here is my today’s comment. I am posting it here since I haven’t received a reply yet đ
‘I am already in the 2nd month of NC (34 days). At the moment though my mind is restless. Canât stop crying todayâŠ.
Unfortunately I am thinking of this rebound relationship he is in. I know I shouldnât even focus on that. But I canât help it. I mean why should I still fight for someone who apparently wants to forget about me and move on?
There is a minor detail: He got pissed off at my friend who revealed to me about this other person. But that doesnât change the fact that there is someone else!Just 2 months after we broke up!
Whether you call it a rebound relationship or not, to me it is extremely painful and sometimes I feel I could never forgive him about that. I feel I should force myself not hoping at all..
I so need your help or some encouragement..’
But as you said sunshine: ‘every improvement I made is one step closer to him’ right?
Khine,
You really need to apply even more than 3 months of NC. Yes he does take you for granted and this is something you have to take it away from him. You have to erase this desperate, clingy image and become more confident and emotionally independent. I suggest you read Relationship Rewind.
You have the power not him!…Khine,
I so understand how you feel. Since you’r saying you did the worst begging then you should definitely follow 3 months NC (maybe more – up to you).
NC if for you and just you alone.AndyK,
I suggest you begin NC from the day you last saw her. That’s what I am doing.
How long r you planning to follow NC?
I also think it’s best not to talk to mutual friends about her. She will find out. Believe me! People talk.
It’s a struggle but you can do it!Hey you guys,
I am already in the 2nd month of NC (34 days). At the moment though my mind is restless. Can’t stop crying today….
Unfortunately I am thinking of this rebound relationship he is in. I know I shouldn’t even focus on that. But I can’t help it. I mean why should I still fight for someone who apparently wants to forget about me and move on?
There is a minor detail: He got pissed off at my friend who revealed to me about this other person. But that doesn’t change the fact that there is someone else!Just 2 months after we broke up!
Whether you call it a rebound relationship or not, to me it is extremely painful and sometimes I feel I could never forgive him about that. I feel I should force myself not hoping at all..
I so need your help or some encouragement guys!……
So guys,
Today I officially ended first month of NC!!! One more to go (maybe two – still haven’t decided).
I feel bit stronger and more confident. But the feeling of missing him terribly doesn’t go away that easy. I think that the part where ‘you have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you’ it’s the hardest….I feel I will need 3 more additional months just for this part…LA,
I have a feeling you will get a response soon. It’s good to have some positive thinking and lets hope for the best. Just relax and don’t let it drag you down.
đSunshine,
I will have to agree with the guys on this. It’s pointless and it hurts even more to check videos and photos that remind you of your ex. Stay strong! You can do this!
LA,
Congrats on the interview! That is indeed great news and I hope you have a positive answer from the job and from your ex as well. Keep us updated đ
Daniel,
Your support means a lot to me.
I do force myself and I do a lot of things with friends, going out, hobbies, exercising. I guess I was doing so many things lately and all this suppressed despair and pain just came out today after a very long time. I will be better tomorrow đThank you so much!
Marie0713,
Yeah I wrote as well many letters during the first couple of weeks.
There are indeed some days that I really feel determined and some others where I say to myself ‘ Why bother? He doesn’t’. But I guess we will have to go through this hell if we need to become stronger..Steve,
Thank you so much for your response.
It is indeed the hardest thing. I know what I am supposed to do and trust me I am doing all these things. But there are some times when you just can’t help it and you feel like drowning simply because you so miss someone.
I also feel bit of frustrated cause it’s been almost 3 and a half months and at times I feel like I am back to square one and made no progress. Well my NC started only a month ago and I have an additional one. Fortunately I have an amazing friend as well and she is helping through this process so much.
Thank you for you support. Means a lot!
Julia
Hey all,
Could someone please offer some encouragement? It’s one of these days where I cant stop crying…………………
Thanks,
JuliaDaniel,
You are so right. But I don’t quite understand when you say that ‘the real thing is you have to move on to get them back’ . I feel that if I move on then I will not want to get back with him.
In addition I would like to share an incident that happened recently and I would like someone’s opinion:
I met him by chance about 3 weeks ago and we had a small chit chat. I wasn’t emotional at all and I gave him the impression I am doing things for myself and I am happy. Nevertheless he managed to ruin the whole thing! What I mean is this:
My roommate and friend is also his friend (actually I met him through her). While we were chatting he asked me if I talk to her. I responded: âDoes it matter?â And then he goes: âYou are asking (about me) and I know itâ. The truth is I did ask her since I made her telling me that he is seeing someone else. So I assume what must have happened is that she revealed to him that she had to tell me about this other person since I kept asking her.
All these thoughts were running through my head while he was telling me this and all I could think of was that you can trust no one!!! So I told him in the nicest way that he shouldnât trust her cause I certainly donât trust her and I left the conversation. What he did though was totally unexpected cause he contacted her on the same day âaccusingâ her of telling me everything he is telling her which is so not true. I mean what the hell???! She immediately texted me and asking what had happened. It got so messed up! Bottom of line I am now so indifferent to her and I am mad at him! That is why I decided to follow NC for 2 months just to calm down.I would really like your opinion on this!
Many thanks
Julia
