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I personally don’t feel 30 days of NC was enough for me. I still have the expectations of getting back with my ex. He called me 32 days NC to catch up and I was happy for 2 days just to hear from him, but then for the rest of the week I started waking up every hour again. Sucks!
Thank you broken love,
Yes it’s true and I know it. It’s just that evey now and then I let my mind wonder and it begins to assume things and everything goes down hill. Good thing is that I only get this little panic moments evey now and then. Last for a little bit then I’m back on top of the world. It’s passed now so I’m back at 100%. Thanks again!
Hi Guys and Gurls
Sunshinegirl – I think you will find most people here had the same issue with sleeping. I know the first month after the breakup I didn’t get a decent night sleep and I would wake up in the middle of the night feeling depressed and extremely down. It still happens occasionally for me. I know last week there was a night when I woke up at 5am and I was just about in tears. I couldn’t get back to sleep until I had to get up for work. Its horrible and sucks big time. I agree with what others have said already. Do some exercise, drink some tea or read a book. Anything to take your mind of the situation. Even come on here and just write how you are feeling. We are all in the same situation and know exactly how you feel 🙂
L.A – I feel for you buddy, As you know same thing happen with me. I never got a response back from my letter. What was recommended to me at the time by others on this forum. Is wait a week and send her a text message that is related to her goals or something that will intrigue her. Don’t just send a message say “hey what’s up”. If you still don’t get a reply then you will have to do what I am doing. Go NC with the intentions of it being permanent and the possibility of never seeing my ex again. For myself if I still have feeling for her in Oct (her birthday) I may reach out to her. But for now I am out and trying to establish new friendship/relationship and getting on with my life. A life that is going to be happy without my Ex.
Day 44 of NC for myself and I’m feeling good. I went out with a couple of new mates last night to a sports bar to watch a game and it was good just getting out. My Ex came up in the topic of conversation and I got the feelings of missing her and what we had while we were discussing her. But it didn’t drag me down. At the end of the night I was normal and fine, which for myself is a lot of progress. Don’t know what the future holds for me and I still feel like my journey is one day at a time. But I’m feeling like I moving forward
LA,
This is da hard part. You should have been ready whatever reaction or if she would even react to the letter. Atleast the letter has served its purpose. If she has already read it it would make clear that you are reapecting her decision and that you are not going crazy anymore and that you respect the space between you two. Keep it together manThanks,
Im feeling now. Today i noticed something. There’s times when I’m at work and just think how miserable I am having to be stuck at work bottled up with all these feelings. But the truth is that work actually gets my mind off things if you focus on it. I know I won’t be receiving a respond anytime soon since it’s the weekend. And even then if I don’t get anything after that I’m ok with that. I just want to know what direction I’ll be taking..that’s the reason behind my frustration.
LA–
I’m sorry for how you feel and I actually don’t know how to help because I’m the same 🙁 But I do hope you can get better!Steve–
Thank you so much for your comment again!
I haven’t read all the comments here because of my exam on next Monday. I have another one on Aug 31st. But I’ll go through the stories here next week 🙂 And after August I’ll start to study Relationship Rewind. My school starts at the end of August and career season is coming so hopefully time will go faster for me! Get distracted! Can’t think about him all the time!
I think I should restrict myself for Facebook for a while.. Maybe just use it to upload photos to show I’m doing great 🙂And everyone else here in this post –
Hi 🙂 I hope everyone is having a great night (or morning wherever you are!) 🙂LA,
I have a feeling you will get a response soon. It’s good to have some positive thinking and lets hope for the best. Just relax and don’t let it drag you down.
😉So guys,
Today I officially ended first month of NC!!! One more to go (maybe two – still haven’t decided).
I feel bit stronger and more confident. But the feeling of missing him terribly doesn’t go away that easy. I think that the part where ‘you have accepted the breakup and you are OK with the fact that you may never get your ex back and this might never work for you’ it’s the hardest….I feel I will need 3 more additional months just for this part…Thank you Julia,
I have a feeling I will too. And I’m ready for whatever her response maybe.
Congrats! It’s hard to get through one whole month of no contact. Take all the time you need. Time heals everything.
Today is one of those days..I don’t have much to do much stay home in my room. Friends are out of town and family won’t be home till tonight. I don’t know what to do with myself. This can be bad becuase if I let it get out of hand I’ll start thinking of my ex. So far it hasn’t gotten out of control and I plan to keep it that way. Just have to keep myself busy with something.
Julia,
I know how you feel. Always keep in mind that i am here. We are here for you. I hope you do get your ex back. I hope he realizes that you are good for him. Stay strong if you think you need more time then take it. I wish you all the best.Hey Daniel
How are you doing? I got some upsetting news today. I think my ex has moved on already. Remember when I told you it was his birthday and I didn’t text him cause of the NC?? We’ll my brother( who was friends with him and who does not live here) texted him without me knowing.He said that I donno what happened with you too, and frankly I am a bit upset with you but you were once my friend and happy birthday. And my ex replied that I love you so much man but let’s leave it at that and let it be over with a good memory.
I was all whaaaaaaaat? What part of it was a good memory??? You talked to my brother 5 months ago, told him to convince me to get on board with the marriage. You got engaged to me then disappeared without even talkin to my family or explaining yourself. You just gave some lame excuse to everyone including me, his own family and our friends about how it’s for my sake and you did it for me?I feel like he has moved on during the last 2 months of our friendship. Cause he was so destroyed and upset back then and later he told his mom that I felt that way cause I was trying to accept the fact that we don’t work( which is a ridiculous excuse cause if we don’t work how come we lasted 10 years without anything bad?)
I just donno if he’s a jerk?or it’s that gig thing or what? Please help me guys
Morvarid,
Your ex only acted based on what he feels. He is also processing the breakup. But he is mentallyand emotionally prepared for this. Thats why he is acting like that. Hes been thinking about breaking up for a long time now its not an overnight decision. It couldve been months or years who knows. I feel your pain. You Are ao used to being togther maybe its timw for a break and find your own identity in the process of NC. Maybe he comes back and i hope he does after sometime. Hope for the best but expect the worst. Im here for you, we are here for you. Stay strong. The problem is with him not with you. His behavior is a reflection of himself. Chin up! Avoid overthinking.I feel like in the last two months he was trying to move on with me around. And there was a girl who flirted with him and she was kind of a bad girl and she was one of the reasons we argued about. I think he even used her as a rebound when I was around. And that why he is so calm and distant right now. He couldn’t make it one day without me for 10 years but it’s almost two months and all he says to everyone is that this relationship is over
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