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Actually I do have a quite crucial question regarding the communication in general. I already had my doubts about communicating first. I mean why should i contact him with a letter or sth else? He is the one who broke up with me. He is the one who wasn’t responding to my emails and calls at the beggining of our break up. If I send him the letter even after quite some time it will be like i am chasing him again even though the content of the letter won’ t reveal something like that. Isn’t it his turn to chase me and try to win me over? I revealed to my friend who has been amazing and so helpful during my break up my intention to contact him through the letter and she said it’s the worst idea.
What you guys think? I really really need your input on this!!!!!
Many thanks
JuliaYou guys thank you so much! You are amazing.And it’s also nice to have a guy’s perspective.I’ll update you soon.
Thanks,
JuliaDaniel,
Thank you for your quick response.
I know it’s a tough long road. There are days I am losing hope and others where I am so determined!
Any advice?
Thanks
JuliaLA,
I would like to ask you something regarding the Letter. Well I am far from it. I am planning to send it in one and a half months where I finish my NC. But I want to start writing it. Did you use the template from the Relationship Rewind or did you write it all by yourself? Do you have some kind of guidelines that you wish to share?
Again good luck with yours :)))
Many thanks
JuliaLA,
That is great news. You surely sound confident and more relaxed and you have the right attitude. I admire you for being cool when you know your ex is seeing someone else. I am facing the same situation. Hope I will be in that place as you in one month. I am currently in my first month of NC. When did you sent the letter?
I wish you good luck!
Sunshine,
I think that your comment above..
”Every improvement is one step closer to him!” “The happier I am, the closer I am to him; the more miserable I am, the farther I am away from him!
is the essence of the NC plan. I truly find it very inspiring and it gives me strength to keep going. I am almost done with the first month of NC and have one left 🙁
Best of luck!
I see we have some things in common regarding the break up issue. One thing that this situation taught me is that you have to go through this by yourself. No one can actually understands the way you feel even if they had a similar experience while ago.
Even though during our last chit chat I gave him the impression I am doing things for myself and I am happy, he managed to ruin the whole thing! What I mean is this and I would like your insight:
My roommate and friend is also his friend (actually I met him through her). While we were chatting he asked me if I talk to her. I responded: ‘Does it matter?’ And then he goes: ‘You are asking and I know it’. The truth is I did ask her since I made her telling me that he is seeing someone else. So I assume what happened she revealed to him that she had to tell me about this other person since I kept asking her.
All these thoughts were running through my head while he was telling me this and all I could think of was that you can trust no one!!! So I told him in the nicest way that he shouldn’t trust her cause I certainly don’t trust her and I left the conversation. What he did though was totally unexpected cause he contacted her on the same day ‘accusing’ her of telling me everything he is telling her which is so not true. I mean what the hell???! She immediately texted me and asking what had happened. It got so messed up and I explained my side of the story. Bottom of line I am now so indifferent to her and I am mad at him! That is why I decided to follow NC for 2 months just to calm down.
