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Az is right,

You’re not alone. Many of us are going through this exact situation. Stay strong. Don’t forget that time heals everything

Sunshine,

Yes they are very helpful, it got me through the toughest times. I looked forward to them everyday.

Also thank you. It’s going to be very hard decision. All I know right now is that whether I get her back or move on, It will take time

Steve and everyone else,

Thank you.

You are right. Exactly right. My gut tells me that going back will be a mistake. Just becuase it knows thing won’t be the same anymore. Not like how they use to be…and that saddens me

I have a confession to make. I have a hard time letting go of things that make me happy. Lately I have felt like I’m not exactly sure who am I or where I’m going (career wise). This has caused me to miss her so much. But I can’t use this excuse to go back to her. She has changed and I have too. I have a hard time letting go. Letting go of the past. Of what we once had. I know that I can find someone else who I can be happy with. But now I just have to believe it.

There is a reason why I didn’t feel love or attraction for that matter…when we spoke. And I will take this time to figure out why..

Update alert:

After 42 days of NC I finally spoke with my ex. We ran into each other and said hi. She seemed to be comfortable talking to me since I didn’t really say much but she pretty much started the conversation. We talked for a while. Well she did, she was rambling about what’s been new in her life. She also brought up that she received my letter. She was anxious to know what was new at work (I wrote something about getting good news at work) so I told her everything new. That was about it on that subject. I tried to end the conversation but she kept talking. After she was done with everything she had to say she ended the conversation and we went our separate ways. Overall we had a casual conversation. Nothing else. She didn’t meantiom anything about the guy she’s been seeing. I’m not sure what to think about this experience. One more thing, as we talked she did meantion that she’s learned to not expect anything from a relationship now..than she said awkward let’s talk next subject. I know she didn’t mean to get into that, I know her, she just ended up saying that accidentally then figured that it was probably not a good idea to say it. We texted a little bit after that then we left things at that.

What do you guys think?

Day 42,

Never thought I’d get this far with NC. I’ve come a long way. I sent the letter over the weekend and may get something sometime this week. We’ll see. Overall, life is different without my ex but it’s defiantly a life I can life in. It’s sad to say but I no longer have those strong feelings for her. I don’t know if I’ve buried them or lost them. Regardless, I still believe she’s a great person I’ve just been disappointed with her choices. I know I’m going to run into her sooner or later. I do plan on approaching her still not exactly sure what I’ll say but when the time comes I will. If for any reason we hit it off it will be a new relationship. I will have to win her as she will have to win me.
I never thought is get this far. I’m happy for myself. A month and a half ago I would have done anything to get my ex back and that’s not good. In A good relationship there shouldn’t be any reason why one should have to get to that point just to keep the other person.

I really hope this works out for us. I know we can be happy again. Throughout NC I learned why we broke up what I didn’t wrong on my end and I know how to fix it. But if it’s not for the better than I’m not sticking around like she wants me too. I’m moving on and applying NC forever.

I’m expecting the worse so that I’m ready for anything. If this doesn’t take the only thing that will sadden me will be that she wouldn’t see the new me. And how happy we could have been together now.

Only The next few days will tell.

calm down, You sound paranoid and it’s these same feelings that make you sound needy, which is an attraction killer. You have to work on yourself, bring yourself back up and have that confidences. I felt exactly like you at first but NC will help you through this. It’s worked for many people to get their ex back or prepare them to move on if indeed their ex doesn’t want to comeback. It helps in both situations. Subscribe to step 5 (email series) it helps a lot