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Marie,

They are right, listen to them. They have gone through everything. Also sign up for Kevin’s step 5 email series they help a lot! If it wasn’t for those emails I would have lost it. I was on the same boat as you. She told me she needed space we talked for about a month as well but the more I talked to her the more she didn’t want to be in a relationship. I just pushed her away. NC is very effective! Trust me. It helps you first and one the side it will make your ex miss you but it mostly for you. NC will help you be strong confident and will teach you to be happy without him. Once he sees this in you, you will become more desirable. If he moves on then NC prepares you for it and you will be able to move on as well. It will also make you realize that someone who doesn’t see how valuable you are doesn’t deserve you at all. Lots of people here started like you are now. I am about to finish NC I still want her but if she isn’t interested I’m ready to move on becuase I know I don’t need her to be happy. Big difference between wanting and needing someone.

Best of luck

Hi Edward,

I don’t know you but happy to hear that you worked things out with your ex. I’m currently in NC. I’ll finish it next next week. Any tips? Did you write the letter? What worked for you? And what didn’t?

Thank you in advance

I really want to text her..just let her know that I was nice seeing her after so long..also that I wanted to say hi but she seemed busy..do you think this is a good idea?

My plan after NC was to send her the letter. Then “run into her at the gym” have a nice friendly conversation and text her after that. Eventually ask her if she’d like to go out sometime as friends..and then so on and so on

I feel like this changes things since I was planning on contacting her this week. Please help

Guys “old group” I need help!

I’m only 3 days away from ending NC. And the worse thing happened! I ran into her. We go to the same gym. She always goes around 5 leaves at 6:30 I get there 6:45 to avoid her. Always works. This time I got there and saw she was there didn’t bother me. But then I notice she was there with someone else. It was the guy she was talking to right before we broke up. Actually he was the reason why I stopped trying to work things out. So I saw her with him. I don’t think they workout together very often. She stayed past 7 and she never does that. They finally left. I left about 20m later. Walking to the car I see her talking to him in the parking lot. I dated her so I know her behavior. From my knowledge they must be talking. She was talking to him like a friend witch is means he’s either a friend or they are talking. They weren’t too touchy either. I saw him try to hug her twice. She never hugged him back. She just took the hug as they were walking.
When they left it didn’t seem like much of a good bye. From my view. I was a bit far away but at least that’s what I feel like I saw.
I think they are talking becuase she was acting like that with me when we first started talking. She never post pictures of him either. Same thing with us when we first started talking. But at least in our situation we work together so no one could know we were talking. With him I don’t know maybe she has posted pictures of him becuase my friends and family as friends with her on fb and IG
To be honest I did hurt me a little but I bounced back. I actually feel like if I play the cards right I can win her. Here’s why. She told me when we were together that she did think he was cute. He just had a good personality. (They have little bit of history) I saw him and he’s not a good looking guy! (Point for me) he also isn’t in the best fit. I myself and always active. Not buff but I’m a slender fit guy. She would also always tell me she though I was cute. Liked my height and she would also tell me she was scared she’d never find a guy like me. Kinda dumb becuase she gave up on us. But…
I know I can win her but I just need to play the right cards. I need advice on what to do! NC is almost over. Please help.
I’m and feeling good and confident btw.

I’m not expert but I am a guy and I’m also try to get back with my ex. In my opinion he seems like he is putting things off with you because he may feel like things are moving fast and probably doesn’t want to rush into anything right now as he has other important things to worry about as well. Also don’t show that your needy that will only push him further away.

As for the comment about men going into there cave it’s all true. I am that way. I’m also aware that most women don’t like it but we do it because we feel overwhelmed sometimes and just need time and space to get through it. My ex girlfriend would hate it when this would happen to me. But trust me it’s not all bad when we go into our cave. It saves us from saying things we doing mean and looking stupid.

It’s a Personality characteristic