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So I decided to actually GO OUT on a date tonight, not just speak to someone on a dating app…
Wierdly enough, it was quite fun. We chatted, ate nice food…and he was really mature for his age, compared to my ex anyway. What this has made me realise though is that “spark” just wasn’t there…which I guess I always noticed with my ex. The date was fun but made me realise I am still hopelessly in love with my ex still 🙁 which is sad. I’m still clinging to hope that the like he did on Instagram means he misses me. Our best friend also got engaged too yesterday, she put it in Facebook( she had got together th same time my ex and I had) and it made me so sad. We both liked it, and yeah…it’s made me feel all wierd really ;(
Hiya Palmtrees!
Nope, nothing yet since he got bCk, or since that “like” on the picture of a group of us in Bangkok. I still find that very wierd…but I’m not dwelling on it. There Re too many factors now which make me dislike him a lot, and the lies he fed me before saying how much he wanted to better himself and not get with other people were completely false, as he very much splattered that he was on Facebook…I don’t need that negativity in my life anymore! ??
Thanks everyone ❤️❤️ I feel a bit better now I guess which is okay.
I think the “like” on Instagram threw me. I know it probably doesn’t mean much, but knowing he was looking at it made it worse. He’s in London staying at his dad’s tonight too, which is half an hour from me-which again knowing that isn’t helping! NBut I’m ignoring it and doing my work for a bit 🙂
Rough day today. Knowing he’s back has made me very upset 🙁 cried at work! So embarissing
Also…. Funillu enough though, I liked a post earlier that evening that said “you try;he doesn’t. You try harder;he drifts further. You can’t keep things that don’t deserve to stay. You can’t find love in a man who lacks the confidence to love you”
Maybe this was a reaction? I know he likes to look on what other people like on Instagram haha!
Exactly fishingthesky-I just don’t want or need that kind of thing At the moment-I guess it just threw me and made me think he was thinking about me. Every time I think of the unthoughtful things he did to me, how he chose his friend over me to go on holiday, how he was too immature to say I love you because he was too scared after four years and “didn’t know what love was”, how he wouldn’t ring me more than once a week becausee it was “lame” and “why are you ringing again we only spoke two days ago!” And how he wouldn’t even come and see me in my marathon because he thought he would be too busy (3 months in advance I asked!) I’ve realised that i was treated horrendously by him…and although I still love him completely, I can’t be with someone who doesn’t show me that love and kindness back 🙁 thing I always outweighed the small nice things he did and it made me forget the rest 🙁 I think the deep, deep hurt of the last 2 years being like this has cut me so deep now and it’s just kicking in 🙁
Hahaha yeh that’s true catherine8! I’m trying hard not to think about it. I think because I’ve recently realised that I don’t want to talk to him AT ALL seeing that made my heart sink 🙁 I’ve realised that the emotion that was between us when we were breaking up was way way too much and very intense…I think for both of our sakes we wont want to talk or see each other for a while….but I do still really want him back. Ugh how annoying!
But no, I won’t read into the “like” 🙂
I’m ok fishingthesky, the new job and everything is really nice and a great distracting. However, my ex liked a picture of us in Bangkok from 2014-right at the bottom of my Instagram account…and seeing as I have around 800 posts, he must have scrolled through a lot.
I don’t know, Screwed with my mind a bit. He’s coming home Wednesday, and his friends have left from his tour, so he is in Central America on his own until he leaves…I don’t know I feel so wierd about it ?
Fishingthesky I think that’s a really lovely post. Hopefully it will be the realisation she needs that you won’t be waiting around for her. I wish you SO much luck-I know how hard that must have been for you to write! When will you send it?
Soupy I think that’s great, but I think the ball is in your court now. I think if you keep supporting her periodically and want to get her back, give yourself a time limit. If you reach that time limit and your still in one place, I think it’s time to be 100% honest with her and say that you want more, but if she does not then you need to move
On and not contact her…it’s a difficult situation, but I’m just worried that you will continue to support her and she will continue to freak out and close up. My advice is keep supporting her for a bit, but don’t allow yourself in this limbo forever-only you know how long you can be in it for 🙂I woke up this morning to find my ex had liked one of my Instagram pictures…from May 2014. Either he did it accidentally or wanted me to
See it-either way, I’m finding it s little wierd. As I have around 750 posts he must have scrolled through a LOT to get there.Or a mate he’s travelling with did it for a laugh…who knows. Funillu enough though, I liked a post earlier that evening that said “you try;he doesn’t. You try harder;he drifts further. You can’t keep things that don’t deserve to stay. You can’t find love in a man who lacks the confidence to love you”
Maybe he saw that I liked it and it made him go through my insta? Either way-I’m very suprised ??
Fishingthesky I’m not sure what I mean really ? I guess I’ve read so many articles (lame I know) of how people say like “guys don’t feel the effects until later on” or “girls are more heartbroken” etc, but I guess that just depends on the person and the situation 🙂
Thanks palmtrees, I can definately understand what your saying. It’s wierd, when it happened last year 8 weeks on I was still crying…this year I feel like I’ve been so hurt that my mind as a defence mechanism has literally tried to “forget” about him-when I’m T work I don’t think about him much, when I’m at my new house j don’t either…I feel like my brain has put up a barrier this time- I can’t explain! It’s like I know I still love him and want to be with him and want him to miss me, but my brain is blocking him out? if that makes sense?
Palmtrees I think that’s super great 🙂 I’ve found meeting new people makes me realise that I’m still attractive to other people and it’s been a great build of my
Confidence 🙂Catherine I think that’s great progress! You should be really pleased-it’s good not to be pining after someone.
Palmtrees thank you! I guess I feel super strange about it all-being in a new town with a very busy job, and new housemates that are extremely chatty and like to keep me busy too I haven’t been thinking about my ex as much as o have! I guess he’s had this whilst he has been away, so I’m hoping it will hit him a little later on. It’s been exactly 2 months today…that’s true Palmtrees.
The move has been great for me though, I think what makes me sad is the fact that I know he would love it here too. 🙁
What are your opinions on when guys and girls start to feel the “effect” of a break up?
Well done soupy! Let us know how it goes
Fishingthesky did Your ex reply to your email?
Yea that’s very true…thank you everyone. I think the thought of him coming bCk to England on the 14th just makes me feel a tad bit sick really! Not sure what to think or expect and I think in my head I’m wishing and hoping he’ll be like “IVE MADE A TERRIBLE MISTAke!” ? which is super unlikely but oh well.
Thanks Palmtrees, I’ll try that too-at the moment I will try anything to feel a little better about things 🙁
Soupy, have you got a reply yet?
Fishing the sky that sounds great the changes you have made and that you want to make whether it be for this person or not. I think that’s such. Huge step so mega congrats 🙂
I think what Palmtrees has suggested soupy is an excellent idea. Not too personal, not too distant. Good luck with it all.
And thanks everyone for the positive vibes! If I’m honest I’ve been really down and struggling 🙁 I moved to this new place to be closer to my boyfriend, and I know no-one…new job, new town….I’m a bit lonely if I’m honest 🙁 and my ex is back next week, and I’m worried that he’s going to start his new job and a new life without me and will forget about me and will never want to have a second chance 🙁
I don’t know what to think 🙁 I would dearly love another chance to make things work because I do love him but at the same time I’m terrified us moving to new towns etc has killed off the chances of that ?
