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okay. Well tomorrow its 33 days – I chickened out contacting him today in the end 😛 Im going to try again tomorrow and see if I can! I guess I’m just scared because he’s the one that broke up….i feel like he should contact first but he won’t – hes so stubborn!
Ive been getting job offers e.t.c though, so hoping that he’ll ask about that a bit!
So you don’t think I’m rushing into contact? Mum thinks that he should as he broke up with me :/
Yeah, I think about it and it makes me panic so much! I think because there was so much love between us even though we broke up I’m scared that he’ll be really cold in retaliation to him trying not to feel anything for me anymore – his sister said tht although he misses and still loves me he doesn’t want to contact me because he’ll get upset and get me upset – which is making me even more nervous!
Not yet-was plannig to this evening but am still really really scared to! I keep putting it off 🙁 If he does reply, I also don’t know how long to wait to reply back…he usually takes about 2 hours to reply when we were together (he’s really slow! Always has been :p so I don’t want to reply and seem too keen 🙁 )
I think you should start NC again. see if he contacts you…but dont contact him 🙂
NC will be better in the long run 🙂
Awww no Kaila I’m sure that isn’t true-if he really loved you feelings wouldn’t just vanish 🙂
And thanks thargus!! I’m plannig on texting him later this afternoon…
Big question though!! If he replies, how long shall I wait to reply?! He’s always been VERY slow at replying, like literally 2/3 hours between each text – as that’s how it’s always been! I didn’t know whether to wait a while if he does reply as I don’t want to seem too needy/keen :S
Hmmm tricky! Maybe if you see him wave or say hi (keep cheerful and happy etc) but don’t go over to him-make him come to you! Difficult, I’m glad mine lives 3 hours away and works 3 hours away too! 🙂
jaydilluh when no contact worked with your first ex how long did you do it for? did she contact you first? my ex is v.stubborn and he was the one who broke it off but I really want to initiate contact! Ive done 30 days and am freaking out about it now!
Yeah, okay I think I’ll wait until tomorrow then when hes lonely and stressed after a monday at work 😛
thanks! I’ve found out he’s busy all day with friends until late this evening though – Im not sure whether to wait until tomorrow now when hes back at work and isnt doing anything in the evening!
I agree phonis – you need to give the space and time to miss you. Use NC to improve yourself too! During my NC ive really concentrated on my work, been eating better, going to the gym more, showing on facebook that Im fine and achieving things without him….giving him more of a reason to miss me and realise what hes lost! After doing the no contact thing its definately helped me so so so so so much 🙂
thats true! girls can do it too. I guess everyone is wierd in relationships!!
My 30 days no contact is up now and Im now really scared about what to say! He went to a big party last night and I’m dreading the photos that will be uploaded from it, especially as his friends are very much the “to get over someone get under someone else” kinda guys! ahhhh! 🙁
Miss nouk – I hope he replies out of curiosity! His family have told him I’ve been doing well and got a first in my reports and have got exciting job offers lined up…so Im really really hoping he would have taken notice to that! :S eeek
ahhh man I hope so! I feel like ive done so well recently but at the same time I dont want it to come crashing down. his sister says he still loves me and cares about me….ahhh. i guess I will let you guys know tomorrow!
Kaila, how long were you with your boyf for? I’m the longest girlfriend mines had (so far!) so im hoping that counts for something, and the fact we stayed together long distance when he was across the world for a year!
Its nice being able to talk to others who are going through the same 🙂 thanks so much for all the advice so far everyone 🙂
No thats what I had to miss noun – mine was so blunt and I even got the “I still love you but this is better for us in the long run” and then he had the cheek to start crying! if he was so upset why was he doing it 🙁
Kaila I agree – thats what Im hoping. Mines at a party tonight and Im dreading it – its the first time hes been single and at a huge house party for 3 years…dreading what he’ll be up to! my no contact ends tomorrow too and am so terrified to contact and have him not reply!
Oh guys, i had exactly the same – though mine said he had been thinking about it for a week! One week of him panicking, he didnt contact me or ask my opinion, just said HE felt like we needed a break from each other and that HE didnt want a serious relationship. After 3 years and choosing a drastic decision like that after a week and not talking to me about it….
What are men like hey!! Im hoping that these rash decisions of theirs make them regret it when it sinks in.
Im contacting my ex for the first time tomorrow – am terrified! I want a positive outcome from our first meet too – Im hoping the fact we were best friends a year and a half before we went out will help the friendship return….and see where we go from there 🙁
Its scary doing this kind of stuff with the person you still love but also who broke your heart! 🙁
Kailia you should text him! be cool and casual 😉 and thargus it all sounds positive !! 😀 just make sure it doesnt turn into neediness 🙂 maybe when you go to the theatre a second time ask about the zoo casually? 🙂
