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Go out with her and don’t say anything about that guy,don’t show obsession over him or anything.be cool and act like friends.talk about your plans and something that shows your are going to be busy for a while and that you are having a really good time in your life.and tell her than you never thought that you could accept her as friends and now you see that its actually really good and you are really happy that you are FRIENDS.
If you can bee cool and you can control yourself not to stalk her and your ok with acting like friends,then you don’t need to restart NC.
Don’t initiate contact all the time,show that you are not that interested.let her chase you sometimes.
You should be cool and positive about everything so you can create the falsefriendship and attract her again.
After the first meeting you should meet her again after 2-3 weeks and let her think that your presence might be over soon and she might be losing you forever cuz you are not attracted to her like you were before and you may be interested in someone else.
Again, after 2-3 more weeks meet her again an that should be a perfect date and it should end up in a place that you two can be intimate and talk about whether to start a new relationship together or not.she doesn’t have to feel any pressure at all,let it be her idea to get back.Stop having sex with her until the third meeting.
hey,
You should apply NC for 2-3 months and then again start with the falsefriendship.
During this time,make positive changes in your life and concentrate on yourself.
You should impress her with the positive changes so you can attract her again.hey,
Start NC immediately and follow the 5 step plan.she will forget the needy picture of you,the bad memories so hopefully she will begin to miss you.
Make positive changes in your life and concentrate on yourself it will increase your chances.If he is really ok with starting everything again and he wants to continue that yes.
Try to create good times and memories,have fun,always be cool and positive.
Don’t push him to do anything.he doesn’t have to feel any pressure at all.
Avoid negative talks,avoid negative memories and don’t say anything about breaking up.
Don’t ever judge or evaluate him.if you see something that you don’t like,just say what you are seeing,how it makes you feel and what you need and then you should say your request not your demand. just try to have a good conversation.During the day or week… ,give him some time for his personal life.encourage him about his goals in his life and also show that you care about your goals in your personal life.
Don’t ever act needy and don’t show obsession over anything.be cool and positive.
Best of luckHey guys,
Dara,
Actually i’m good.when i think of those 5 months it really stresses me out and i really feel better without him in my life.there is no more mind games in my life and i don’t have to be worried about anything about him.Kevin,
Thank you very much,yeah i know but i wish it never happens.i really don’t want to hear anything from him.FestivalDavid,
Thank you david,yeah you are right ,we are in kind of a same situation.but your ex is really a better person than mine LOL. he was driving me crazy and the reason i tried to keep me away from him is that he is never constant.13 days ago he said he can’t handle being without me,and last night,he accepted everything as soon as i said.he kept saying i love you and he never wanted to get back with me.he really made me sick and i can’t handle anymore of that.
Yeah, its really good that we can talk.Thank you again guys
Hey,
Wait at least a couple of days.i recommend you to wait for him to contact you.
Don’t let him think that you are too interested in contacting him.
Be cool and positive.you are on the right track.Wait for him to contact you,if he says anything that shows he is confused or he is not sure,then tell him that you really respect his decision and you think both of you need some space and wish him the best.
start NC immediately and don’t break it for 1 -45 days.I don’t think if he continues what he is doing like hooking up…for a long time.
Just show him that you are having a great time and follow the plan.Hey,
She is probably trying to make you jealous.when did you break up? and have you ever applied NC?
If you haven’t ,start it and continue it for 45-2 months .make positive changes in your life and try to show her that you are having a great time in your life without her. go on dates,have fun and don’t stalk her.always be cool and positive when she is around.
Work on yourself and be confident.
Best of luckI do believe you and i really don’t want you to get hurt.its not like he is trying to hurt you but maybe he is just trying to have a good time.(although i don’t think if that things are permanent.)
Tell your friends not to say anything about him.focus on your plan.if you follow it the right way,you will really really increase your chances so you can change the situation.Try to go on dates and you will feel really better.
Best of luck
Yeah,because a part of my mind kept saying that if its gonna be the last time,why not?go and have fun,and then another part of my mind kept saying,no you are gonna hurt yourself and its enough already.
I really analyzed cons and pros of that and i think i made the best decision.he was going to say that i should get on with my life without him anyway.
Dara,its been weeks since my mind accepted the breakup and i didn’t want to get back with him with my heart.we really had no future together but there was something inside of me that still wanted to try.and i finally said if i know that i’m not gonna have a good future with him why should i continue hurting myself to get him back.LOL,its great that you are doing good.i’m sure she likes you 😀
And yeah,you are absolutely right about that.
hey,
On july 27th,i suggested you not to stalk him and not to ask anyone anything about him.you should be focusing on your life or you’ll need to continue NC for a longer time.
Anyways,don’t panic.make positive changes in your life and focus on yourself and the plan.you should help yourself to become a happy, confident,attractive person.Thank you Gigi,and your more than welcome.
tbh i’m ok,i was done with him long before this.i was just working on myself to accept and face it.Dara,
Again,you made me feel good i also think that he felt rejected so he tried to make me feel the same way so he could feel better.I wish i never hear anything from him again.i really need to be relaxed for awhile.
The last 5 months really made me sick,even though i was doing my best to concentrate on my life and have a good time,he kept me from being all relaxed.like being in my life,playing mind games,crying and then doing nothing about getting back together and then telling me that it wasn’t gonna work and then again telling me how much he loves me…. .i’m done with that.i’m kinda nervous and i really don’t want to be in a new relationship at least for 6 months.i wish i could force him not to come back to my life ever again.
One more message from him and i will seriously block his number.I love him but i’m really done with him,i don’t want him in my life as anything.i can’t handle one more word from him.
