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Kevin,Dara,Edward,FestivalDavid,Rihanna,Raed,daniel…
So previously on me :D….,about 12 days ago,he asked me to give him a chance to see me cuz it was hard for him to cut everything all of a sudden.and i was sure it was nothing about getting back together.
I’v been thinking and after this whole time,i think i really couldn’t meet him just to say goodbye.he had 5 months to think about it and he really doesn’t want me back so i texted him and asked how he was doing.
He replied like he was really happy that i texted him and asked me how i was?
I said: i’m fine and that i’m sorry but i need to move on so i’m blocking you and everyone around you on fb ,so non of us will see or hear anything about each other.
He said:Ok baby,i really wish u all the best and i always want you to be happy from the deepest part of my heart.I said:wish you the same as well.always be the same person you were in our relationship.i’m gonna miss you but there is no other way.i’m sorry i broke the deal,the meeting could keep me from moving on for awhile.
He said:i forgot to say,i think i’m moving to another country by the next few months.
He used to say if we move somewhere out of the states,far from his family.we could get married.and the day we were breaking up,he cried and said:getting married is the only way we can be with each other but its not possible now and here.get your degree and go to another country,i promise i will fix my life and i’ll be there to start a new life with you.
I don’t know if he said that because he wanted to remind me of his promises or he just wanted to tell me about his future plans.and i’m not focusing on his words.i’m starting NC indefinitely and i don’t care if he has moved on or he is moving on or whatever.i’m focusing on my life and i’m really moving on.
Thank you guys for helping and supporting me through all my painful moments.i don’t really know how i could ever thank you enough.
Kevin,
Your plan,your words,your emails…,you made me a stronger person.i really wish i could do something for you in return.i have learned a lot.and i’m sure i’m gonna be successful in my next relationship.i even see this situation as a success.5 months ago,i couldn’t even imagine losing him forever and now,i could cut it myself.i really appreciate everything you did to help me and everyone here.Thank you very much kevin.I’m gonna be here to help others as much as i can.i can live without my ex but i guess i can’t live without this website LOL
Thank you everyone
Hey I’m happy about you 🙂 wish I could feel the same way too and just move on and be happy with my life. If you don’t mind, can you help me or just advice me on what to do with my situation. Thank you.
Hey a.z I’m happy for you cos you’re moving forward. But never say never, if it’s meant to be even if you live across oceans life will find a reason to reunite you together. Be happy and good luck 🙂
a.z.,
I’m happy to hear an update from you! Moving to another country is a logical reason to cut it off.
Thank you so much for being here! I always had a great support from you! Your comments made me feel that there is someone who understands me! 🙂
Thanks again!
Thank you very much guys.
He texted me and said he hates my future boyfriend,fiance and my husband out of nowhere :O
I didn’t say anything and again
He said: i feel really bad and the breakup affected me so bad and if i start a new relationship ever again,i won’t do anything to hurt her like i did to you.get on with your life and never think about a future with me.everything is torturing me.i’m sorry i love you:********************
I have no idea what the hell he is thinking.
I feel Goddamn rejected.I’m glad you’re strong to move on. Very happy to see you were brave to fight for gour love too. I feel sad for your hard times, and I wish I had your strength now. Thanks for your advice, and Best of luck in love!
a.z.,
Yesterday, I and my friend were drinking beer. We wanted to know how much alcohol by volume it has. Before we could figure it out from the can/box, someone found it by googling. I think in these days everyone googles to find the most effective sentences.
Yeah, the sentence causes a feel of rejection. Relationship Rewind is based on causing mild form of rejection. Probably he has searched for a sentence to make you feel rejected. Maybe, he is also active on a similar site. “Don’t think about me” was strong! I liked it! Maybe I use this sentence one day! LOL
Do you know something? I believe that my ex knew about NC and playing cool in breakup. This had affected me so much! Later, I realized that she had “attacked” me with the “science/chemistry of relationship”. I am a cool and positive thinker but she was great in using sentences to make me feel rejected! Its hard for me to believe that the sentences that she told me were naturally hers! She must have some sort of assistantship like books, sites, etc.
So should you think! Probably, he got this suggested by some person/blog/site/book. Chill down and stay cool!
Dara,
Again,you made me feel good i also think that he felt rejected so he tried to make me feel the same way so he could feel better.I wish i never hear anything from him again.i really need to be relaxed for awhile.
The last 5 months really made me sick,even though i was doing my best to concentrate on my life and have a good time,he kept me from being all relaxed.like being in my life,playing mind games,crying and then doing nothing about getting back together and then telling me that it wasn’t gonna work and then again telling me how much he loves me…. .i’m done with that.i’m kinda nervous and i really don’t want to be in a new relationship at least for 6 months.i wish i could force him not to come back to my life ever again.
One more message from him and i will seriously block his number.I love him but i’m really done with him,i don’t want him in my life as anything.i can’t handle one more word from him.
Thank you Gigi,and your more than welcome.
tbh i’m ok,i was done with him long before this.i was just working on myself to accept and face it.a.z.,
I already told you, 5 months is too much! 5 months of NC is not too much compared to your case because in that case one would only think about one topic. However, here you think about something new with every conversation. That’s nasty! I can see how your feelings fluctuated these weeks! I remember that you said you want to have your last sex with him but today you said you don’t want to see him to say goodbye.
Oh! Did I tell you that I still talk to that gym staff even though she said she has a boyfriend. We talk as friends. I can read from her face that she is bored and start a conversation with her when she is bored. The nice thing about that is that she usually tries to entail the talk! LOL I was thinking that if she talk about her feelings to me one day, she would say that I make her feel good! LOL! BTW, don’t misunderstand me, I mean it in a good way. I don’t want her to breakup with her boyfriend.
Oh! I also want to say something about these rejecting phrases. They are good in short term but in long term they will have negative impact. In long term, honesty is the best policy!
Yeah,because a part of my mind kept saying that if its gonna be the last time,why not?go and have fun,and then another part of my mind kept saying,no you are gonna hurt yourself and its enough already.
I really analyzed cons and pros of that and i think i made the best decision.he was going to say that i should get on with my life without him anyway.
Dara,its been weeks since my mind accepted the breakup and i didn’t want to get back with him with my heart.we really had no future together but there was something inside of me that still wanted to try.and i finally said if i know that i’m not gonna have a good future with him why should i continue hurting myself to get him back.LOL,its great that you are doing good.i’m sure she likes you 😀
And yeah,you are absolutely right about that.
I understand you a.z.! I even understand you if you post here that you talked again and you planned to meet. It all feelings and there is no rule for it! Its just a random click in the mind!
I think when you say that its weeks that your mind has accepted the breakup, its a good sign! Your mind will become stronger again!
You know, I also think that she likes me! Her boyfriend know about me! He comes to gym but he is not in good shape! LOL Last time, he tried to make some grumpy face and make eye contacts with me! LOL! That made me laugh because I don’t care about a girl who already has a boyfriend. Even she tries to avoid being in that area when we both are present! That made the situation more funny! TBH, she is really beautiful and I would have headache if I had this beautiful girlfriend! ha ha ha ha ha… Anyway, I make my mind busy with these funny thoughts! LOL
Will be more than happy to hear more on your feelings a.z. (now)!
Hey a.z.
I think you are making the right decision. And I am proud of how far you’ve come.
I am pretty sure you are going to hear from him again. But I know you will be able to handle it. All the best.
Hey A.z
Great to hear from you, Like Kevin I think you and me are both making the right decision.
I think what he said tell you, that you are making the right decision, the fact that he wanted to meet you, sounded happy etc and how much he loved you…all of this to then say “im thinking of moving country!”?
Just a game tbh!.
I know youll do great carrying on with your plan and I think its good that me and you are both making the same decision at around the same time so we can both support each other hopefully :).
I do think youll hear from him again..just like you said I would hear from mine again (I havent directly heard yet..but ill post an update to the my thread)
Best of luck a.z and keep cool 🙂
x
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