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This is a long post but please could someone read it and help , thanks
Hi, I broke up with my ex 3 years ago, we wad together for a year and a half,first 13 months was amazing then for the rest of the relationship I strayed getting insecure and quite controlling anyway I the end she split up with me, we argues after the break up for about a month then we agreed we would never speak again.
Anyway on my birthday witch was 2 weeks ago monday she messaged me saying happy birthday we spoke then we met the day after she stayed twice we had sex both times, we talked about good times, blah blah things were going smoothly,she said I fucked up the relationship and I admitted what I did and she said it’s fine and she doesn’t hold grudges, I started to like her, she have signals that he liked me such as talking about the good times in the relationship, just the way she acted (we went out with my friends and had a good time they think by the way she acts and “looks at me” that she still has feelings, I would like to also say we were very close and we still are when we speak, anyway,then the second time she stayed we had sex but after she said it’s weird having sex, she’s not the girl I fell in love with anymore. blah this is pointless… Anyway to get to the new problem…
We now haven’t seen each other for about a week and haven’t really talked, I know she has been busy. About two days ago I said can I take you out to TGI Fridays (we ate there several times as it’s her favroute place to eat) anyway she agreed and said she would be happy too, I also said I want to say sorry for what I did to you and we can have a good chat; anyway we have talked for a while during the day but she has been quite blunt and the conversation has been quite “dead” is a way of putting it. I asked why she’s being blunt she said she’s just so tired. Anyway we spoke and she said she’s going out for a meal with a guy I tried playing it cool, at this point I was at the pub and was quite drunk I replied with “do you like him” but in a cool casual way. She said “stop asking in with him now”, I replied saying @he can’t see the message”. She then replied saying “so, I do like him and I think he wants more then friendship” at this point I was confused as she said there just friends and she wouldn’t ever want to be with him as there just friends. I replied saying “sorry for asking personal questions, im just being a pric*” I didn’t say that I was drunk; that is now an attraction killer dinner is still on.
But I would like to ask for advice as what to do now an how to act and what to say should I message her before or just speak at dinner? Any help would be amazing!
Thanks Aston.
Hey,
She is probably trying to make you jealous.when did you break up? and have you ever applied NC?
If you haven’t ,start it and continue it for 45-2 months .make positive changes in your life and try to show her that you are having a great time in your life without her. go on dates,have fun and don’t stalk her.always be cool and positive when she is around.
Work on yourself and be confident.
Best of luckWe broke up 2 years ago, we spoke for like a month, then we didn’t talk Untill she inboxed me 2 weeks ago, but wouldn’t the 2 years of no talking basically be the “NC” she said she used to think about the good times and she still wears all the Jewlry I bought her. How should I act at this dinner?
Go out with her and don’t say anything about that guy,don’t show obsession over him or anything.be cool and act like friends.talk about your plans and something that shows your are going to be busy for a while and that you are having a really good time in your life.and tell her than you never thought that you could accept her as friends and now you see that its actually really good and you are really happy that you are FRIENDS.
If you can bee cool and you can control yourself not to stalk her and your ok with acting like friends,then you don’t need to restart NC.
Don’t initiate contact all the time,show that you are not that interested.let her chase you sometimes.
You should be cool and positive about everything so you can create the falsefriendship and attract her again.
After the first meeting you should meet her again after 2-3 weeks and let her think that your presence might be over soon and she might be losing you forever cuz you are not attracted to her like you were before and you may be interested in someone else.
Again, after 2-3 more weeks meet her again an that should be a perfect date and it should end up in a place that you two can be intimate and talk about whether to start a new relationship together or not.she doesn’t have to feel any pressure at all,let it be her idea to get back.Stop having sex with her until the third meeting.
Could I also ask, you said make it seen like in interested in someone else could I do this by going on a date or talk about another girl wanting to hook up with me ?
Sorry to keep asking questions but Could I also ask, you said make it seem like in interested in someone else could I do this by going on a date or talk about another girl wanting to hook up with me ?
Go out with a group of friends for doing something really good and ask her to invite friends.have fun and flirt with a girl from your group.it would be even better if the girl is one of your good friends so she will help you and act like she is also flirting with you.but it doesn’t have to be like you are already in a relationship it has to be a slight scarcity.introduce your ex as your friend and at the end of the night,leave with that girl.that’ll make your ex think what you are going to do next?are you in a relationship with her? are you falling for her? are going to sleep with her?… .during that night,don’t be rude,talk to her but don’t get personal,try to have a good time with her as friends.
Okay thanks for great adive,I’m done with the questions.. I have the book I just wanted to get someone’s opinion, once again thanks! And god bless you
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