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A. Z. and Dara
Okay, love birds. Things are really getting pretty serious! Ha ha. So, uhm, can you just adopt me? You both love to cook and what a coincidence, I love to eat! Ha ha! Omigash make me faaaaaat! :’)A. Z.
If Mr. Dara is playing hard to get I suggest you do 30days of NC then Dara is in charge of the false friendship hihi!Daniel
Omg buddy! I miss you so much! What a coincidence. I am from PH too! Omg! Ha ha!Steve
Hey, you are so fast on Rihanna 🙁 I was waiting for her too! Lol. Kidding! Okay buddy, is yours.
*lie down
try not to cry
cryRihanna
Wow. Are you wearing an itsy bitsy teeny weenie yellow polka dot bikini? Ha ha. So okay, I would just keep my distance because you are Steve’s now lol 🙁And omg, you sound french? Oh. My. God. I guess just a phone call might make me go over crazy with your accent! <3
And I speak French too! Like french fries. French toast. French baker. 😛
So only Daniel and I are left. So I’ll just be hooking up with Daniel I guess. Lol buddy come hiyaaaaaaa! 😛
Mordecai
Hey! I feel you! Before, my ex is hesitant to get back with me but somehow I know that somehow she wants us back. But there are people around her that brainwashes her to just cut it out permanently. So there, she might not love me enough to fight for us :'( but anw. I am over that. I am just sharing. But still it feels bad.
Sunshinegirl
Hey. You are always welcome, friend. After all we are in the same situation. I have a really major exam this September. And I wish us luck. I know we will pass! The quote you saw may be a sign or not. May be you are just overthinking that it might be a sign. But one thing I am sure of is when someone ends a relationship he/she is no longer happy and he/she no longer finds the commitment beneficial. Because if you are happy a d really love someone no matter how many reasons therr are to leave, you will always find one reason to stay. When someone leaves it’s most likely that the relationship is no longer the way it used to be.I cannot imagine what I was before the relationship with my ex. Whenever I look back, all I remember is the time when we are together. But since you like to overthink and think, why not put it into good use? What’s done is done. No matter what the reasons he gives you it all boils down to one point that he no longer loves you or he no longer loves you enough to stay. So, going back you can use overthinking into good use by, try hard to think and imagine what you were before you became in a relationship. Before he entered your life.
I mean, how happy were you before he came? How attractive are you? How self sufficient and freedom- and fun-loving you are back then? I bet those are the things/personality you had that made him attracted to you.
Now, think about when you became in a relationship. You were so happy because honeymoon stage it is. But when that stage starts to slow down, the clingyness and dependence is no longer attractive. It is suffocating.
Ask yourself how you want yourself to be? The thing i’ve learned in my own breakup is you cannot own someone. Even if he is committed to you, you are not his whole world. During the courting stage and honeymoon stage, yes you are all that matters to him. But when that fade out arises real life responsibilities that is less important than you are but must be done by him.
Now, imagine yourself the way you were before the relationship but having him around. I mean, with you being carefree and happy and self sufficient. Don’t you think it is a much ideal one?
Being in a relationship doesn’t give you a license to own someone. The more you ask him to come close the more you might scare him away. It feels good to be in a relationship that feels more like a partnership a bestfriendship but with ‘benefits’. The next time you get back with him or find someone new, respect each other’s individuality. You don’t need to like what he does and vice versa. But i am telling you it feels much better to do whatever you have to get done but at the end of the day knowing someone is waiting for you to come home 🙂
Oh. My comment doubled. Sorry!
How are you oldies? I am glad our group is a hit! Lol. Our family is getting bigger!
Update on me: I feel down most of the time lately. This is what I hate when I just stay at home for days. I can’t stop thinking of her nonstop and fantasizing. But I am sure in my mature self I don’t want her back. I don’t know maybe I just miss the…you know what (I have to be wholesome because other people might be checking lol)
Rihanna
I am planning to go to Sydney someday! Welcome me home! LolDara and A. Z.
Omg. You are making me jealous! Ha ha. Could you please make twins? I don’t know, having twins feel like having a lucky clover. Lol. And I guess you will not visit here always because you would have to party so hard before you tie knots. Best wishes! 😀Rihanna
The last time your problem is that everyone around you is getting married or pregnant right? Lol. We are gonna have a couple anytime now. Ha ha!About you moving to the big city, if you feel more at home there not because of the ex but because you have gotten accustomed to the place or because the place radiates such a lovely vibe than where you are now, then I think it would do no harm if you will transfer there.
If you think you will be happier in that place and productive then go ahead. Though your ex is near there, I believe transferring to places is a sign of a good start 🙂
Loraina
Wow. Your ex wanting you back? The NC did the turning tables I guess? Ha ha! Where can I view your story? 🙂Festival David
I envy you lots. Seems you have unlimited resources to travel lol.Sunshinegirl
Hi. I believe what you interpreted might be right. Maybe there is still really a chance but right now he really wants you to focus on yourself. Maybe he sees that you are still too young to be bounded as if the relationshiop is your whole life. He is older than you, right? So, I guess he sees that you are being childish by being clingy.
If you are together, he feels unfocused or might be suffocated because LDR is hard. If he asks for space then you will be the one to feel distracted. Give him the space he needs. You’ll never know if you still act desperate and he sees that you are not really doing good with him around, he might break it up to you permanently and for real because with that it will leave you with no other choice but to really improve yourself.
I suggest you stick to NC and really improve yourself 🙂
Dara and A. Z.
Omg. You are making me jealous! Ha ha. Could you please make twins? I don’t know, having twins feel like having a lucky clover. Lol. And I guess you will not visit here always because you would have to party so hard before you tie knots. Best wishes! 😀Rihanna
The last time your problem is that everyone around you is getting married or pregnant right? Lol. We are gonna have a couple anytime now. Ha ha!About you moving to the big city, if you feel more at home there not because of the ex but because you have gotten accustomed to the place or because the place radiates such a lovely vibe than where you are now, then I think it would do no harm if you will transfer there.
If you think you will be happier in that place and productive then go ahead. Though your ex is near there, I believe transferring to places is a sign of a good start 🙂
Loraina
Wow. Your ex wanting you back? The NC did the turning tables I guess? Ha ha! Where can I view your story? 🙂Festival David
I envy you lots. Seems you have unlimited resources to travel lol.And omg. Dara is doing the moves LOL. I have never seen you post such. I don’t know it sounds gentlemanly and nice the way you post to your honey. But i like the kinky end more hahaha!
Make us godfathers/mothers too! Lol
Omg omg omg! Things are getting pretty serious! Ha ha ha. I am so happy for you Dara and A. Z.
Wow, Dara. You must be really really attractive. You have attracted someone here. Ha ha! You might be so yummy in person lol!
Joe, hi welcome here! I wish you would fall in hate eith your ex soon 😀
Rihanna, I missed youuuu! Pray for me that I may have a productive time too because I never had. Lol. I like your description so much ha ha ha! Now i will no longer call you Aaargh. Ms. i miss your lips on my lips ha ha ha!
I am so happy for all of uuuuus! I wanna see a wedding! So sorry Kevin we turned this to a dating site. Lols!
Loraina
Hello. Welcome here. I am glad the Oldies radiate such a positive vibe. I love your attitude towards NC. You may be around for quite a while but I have only seen you now.
A. Z.
Hey! I think you are the only one who can tame Dara. Ha ha! And I know there will be no mind games between the two of you because the Oldies will be your referee. Lol
Festival David
Wow. Such a traveler, man. Ha ha! I believe travels can be very helpful in healing. I wish I could travel any time I want too 😛 Send me plane tickets so that I can come to the wedding too! <3Steve
I love your description about yourself mostly about the ex ha ha! Will it be fine if I will just have cats instead? Lol. And oh, I think we are gonna have a problem. Man, i love lasagna. Cook for meeeeee! Omg this is so gay *coughs manly* *flex*
*clears throat*
*overly manly voice*
Hi, I am Raed! 22 years young. I love foods and music. I like to overthink and end up hurting myself. I am ever curious but mostly I am dying to know but afraid to find out. I like my girl how I like my steak, well done. Still on the crossroads. And my ex left just when I needed her most and *sobs* and so I have truly, madly, deeply fallen in hate with her
Sunshinegirl,
Your name reflects your attitude. I like the way you think that the happier you are, the closer you are to him. And the message you sent is awesome. It didn’t sound needy a bit.
About the two of you, I guess he loves you. And maybe he still does because the break-up is still fresh. The only thing that might have gone wrong is that you said you appeared needy with always wanting him to message you since you are in a long distance relationship.
I have been in LDR before and it really takes up too much time. Because the time he is supposed to allot for studies, he has to allot to talk to you. He loves you but the commitment and the distance is putting so much pressure on him. And he finds it hard to juggle two important things in his life.
He chose to let go not because the studies/family is more important to him but I guess he believes that you need it too. If he is studying, he might miss the chance if he will let it go. But he chose to let you go because somehow he believes that you will understand that it is for the best. So maybe when the situation is easier and he comes out of his depression, you might have a chance to be together again.
As for the study, I am not really good with that since I also have upcoming exams and I get so much distracted. I’ve wasted months overthinking. The only thing I can assure you with is if you waste time to overthink instead of study, you will regret it big time in the end. Just like me.
I know it is hard but if it bothers you so much up until the point when you wake up first thing in the morning he is already in your thoughts. I suggest you maximize the use of internet – follow positive pages, meditation, affirmations. You can find lots of self-help articles online to help you heal positively.
As for now, focus on the NC. The more you try to reach out, the more you will scare him away. Give him the space he needs and focus on yourself so that when you get back together, you are no longer needy. Understand that he cannot always compromise his time for you.
And believe that true love has a habit of coming back.
“And when you’re needing your space to do some navigating, I’ll be here patiently waiting to see what you find.”
– Jason Mraz 😀Rihanna,
Hey, you are always welcome! Not what you think. No girls are lining up. Lol. I am trying to improve myself and I would like to do it in solitude so I guess staying single for a while is better. I’ve got lots of plans already with myself and I have never been this thrilled and excited!
So I might ask the girls to get home tonight and I’ll just ask them to line up outside my room when I feel ready. Lol!
You are so quiet today 🙁
Hi, oldies.
A. Z.
You know eversince I can see the closeness you have with Dara. And I would like to tease you before a long, long time ago since we started here but I am afraid you’ll get mad. But with you taking the initiative to say the dating thing with Dara, invite us on the wedding! LolWow. I like the retirement home dream, Steve. And it makes me laugh that when we are old you still foresee Dara chasing girls!
And with Rihanna’s comment that being religious saved her from having random sex with some Daras. Ha ha ha!
Festival David, hey are you touring the whole world? Lol.
Rihanna is so quiet today. Aaargh!
Sunshine,
Hi! I think you meant Raed when you said Read, right? Ha ha! Okay. I will check your post! I hope I can find it though! 😛Oldies.
Meriem,
You may be new here but everyone is welcome. I guess, you just don’t understand what each other is trying to say but i believe that you both have the best intentions. I am glad the dispute is over and we would love to have you as an additional friend. We just have to work out on some getting to know each other. Ha ha 🙂A. Z.
Hi, i am glad you are already at peace. It is humble of you to say sorry too. And i find you sweet to go around and cheer people up. It is a good sign, A. Z. Because the only time you have to look down on someone is when you are helping them up. In behalf, of those whom you have helped with your pieces of advice, I would like to thank you from the bottom of my hypothalamus 😀Daniel & Dara,
Hey, man. The next time you date, find me a girl. No, i mean a lady. Ha ha. I am so happy you two are dating girls and doing so much good! *bro fist*
I think i’ll be focusing first on career then the love will come after. I am so involved now on improving myself and I am loving the me time. I have never felt this free and happy!I would like to congratulate everyone. Looking back i am laughing at our so desperate attitude. Like, what the hell?! Are we drunk during those times?! Lol. I know we are not yet fully moved on but I am glad that our batch did so much betterrrr! It doesn’t matter because a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. And out of the brokenness emerged an unbreakable friendship. Oh, i love you guys.
