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So developments of the weekend. She has called both nights Wednesday and Thursday night asking to seee me because she misses me.
She was drunk.
I do love a brutally honest assessment. thats not sarcastic either.
I am 35 and agree a lot of it seems to be very childish and sad in some respects that i have never felt this way about someone.
She messaged me last night and said she was scared and could not sleep, to which i called to reassure her, as we all have a plan when we talk to an ex, that plane went out the window.
I told her i cared about here and did things our of love and frustration, she said why say care you know you love me.
I agree i need to work a bit on my demons and see where we end up after that.
Thanks
I think the best thing for you to do is to try and put another message up removing the emotions, we have all been there and it hurts. Its just hard for us to reply properly with loads of small messages, how old are you guys and he is not being really fair to you.b would focus on you for a bit and go full NC with him.
he just needs to miss you and see you will not hound him and annoy him.
J
How do you know it will not work if you don’t try it. I know it’s tough and trust me there are leaks and troffs. However the behavior you’re demonstrating jsut in this message. Shows you’re not ready to talk to her any way.
Get your head straight, so you can rationalize.
Why did you break up.
Hi guys its been a long time since i have been on here.
Things up until recently have been great planning holidays and what not.
Just over the past month or so ha been a bit strange, she has all of a sudden told me that i need to start wearing condoms.
we have never used them and never needed to.
the first time which was a few weeks back, she has been using every excuse in the book not to do anything.
then said she had been sick so we needed to get condoms.
two weeks goes by where i haven’t seen here she comes over for the weekend. then we are in bed foreplay etc. she then says we cant do anything you need to use something. i had bought some and she had forgot and seemed like it was forced to do anything.
i asked her the othernight where she is going out as she had told me, she then started saying why does it matter who i am with. that is not what i asked.
it just all seems very odd.
thanks in advance for any comments
@gingerone,
I am really sorry to hear this, i understand how you feel. It truly is just hard to forget the past and the negatives.
This time should be a bit easier as you would have tried.
Its time to move on now, i know you do not want to here this. you know you’re a good person but just spent some time with your self.
Regard
Hey Guys,
Just wanted to update on my situation.
Not wanting to Jinx anything but things are going ok, well more than ok. I have been the confident, the rock and the shoulder to cry on. she really is a vunerable one at heart and she hates it.
My recommendation for anyone on her, is you really have to shake your life up dramatically to get your confidence back. nothing to do with getting your ex back at all, that is a positive side effect sometimes.
We are just seeing how things are going to go, we have had several intimate encounters, with another planned weekend this weekend. A lot of the contact is coming from her, i also seem to have control of the situation and more importantly me at the moment.
Ill be honest a lot of the advice and rewind didn’t work for me, what worked was me just being a bit more of a man. Regaining confidence and making decisions for me and no one else. You have to comfortable on your own skin to move on.
I really was in a bad place a few months ago.
I hope everyone is ok.
That was weeks ago, after that she was full onskyping me out of the blue. Sending random pics etc
Yeh the thing is, all the contacts been coming from her. Last time we met I turned her down for sex. Before I knew she couldn’t and she got all shitty about it.
It’s like a switch has gone off again, personally worried that she is in a foriegn country and I ha net heard from her after a night out.
Just so confusing, I am at the point now where she needs to stop fucking about and man up a bit.
I also don’t know if she is seeing if I will react, last time she went off the radar she said she thought I was moving on when I didn’t message her
Yeh I know what your saying, but she headed away again three weeks ago to a wedding and skyped me at 4am. Telling me she fancies me and sending pics etc. then completely out of the blue she gets short and arrogant. She skyped my on the Saturday to say 3 min later ok got to go I am off out for breakfast.
Last time this happened we didn’t speak for two months. It was left with me wishing her a good night.
To which she hasn’t bothered responding to.
I think she has either done something or freaked out. Either way it’s a bit of a shit thing to do
Hi guys it’s been a while.
The move and getting settled has been tough, enjoying it though.
Here for some comfort and advice again unfortunately. Completely confused.
When I moved my ex started initiating contact, messaging every single day. Saying morning and last thing At night sleep well etc. everyday for the past month.
She invited me to stay at her home on a work trip, we almost got intimate but nature didn’t give us chance. Everything had been amazing, she agreed to visit for a weekend.
Then she heads away again for a wedding trip to the states, Granted the time difference is extreme. But she started to get short last Thursday, then went I. To arrogant mode. Baring in mind last wedding 3 weeks ago she couldn’t get enough of talking and flirting with me. So the wedding day comes on Sunday. She initiated contact, then she started being really strange and one word answers etc. so I messaged saying enjoy the night chat later xx. I haven’t heard from her since. That was almost two days now.
I really don’t get it, I personally think she may have done something. She has gone from all to nothing again.
Liz, I am sorry but I got pretty pissed of reading this. I am trying to be as diplomatic as possible as I know being in love with someone you can be blind to pretty much everything.
But Liz you need to wake up, worst case I don’t know how you haven’t caught anything off this guy. He is an absolute emotional user, your constantly there and he is dating the both of you. All because you’re both to weak to end this crap.
I know it hurts but partially you are putting yourself in this misery. How many times are you prepared to be crushed while he has no repercussions of his actions. I am not sure why at the Waffle House you didn’t just kick him in the balls.
I wasn’t meaning to have a go, but you have to stop laying down and taking all this bullshit.
She is dangling you by a string, I personally think her mum didn’t make that comment she is battling with her self. So always keeping an exit plan and not having to commit her self to anything.
It’s not fair on you because we are all guilty of it being there like a lap dog. She didn’t sense anything was up, you did the right thing by telling her go home alone and you was fine. She was just making sure you was still there and she was being needy.
Unfortunately I don’t think giving her an ultimatum will work, you just have to be stronger. Then if she asks if there is something wrong, jsit tell her the truth say your protecting your self, her telling you she doesn’t want to lead you on. Has made you realise, you don’t want to invest to much emotionally. As to develop non reciprocated feelings at this time l.
