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So the no contact thing isn’t going to plan, she has been messaging back and forth today. Checking how things went at the hospital. Also she helped me tweak my cv her idea not mine. So I needed up seeing her again.
Which then led me to give her one of her late arrivals of a bday present. Her response was this.
Thank you for the dress, it’s lovely. May be a wedding contender x
I asked if it fits ok and pat on the back for me
Then I got.
Yeah it fits really well, need my mum to adjust around the boob area for me as normal but length is perfect! X
Shall i just wish her a safe trip tomorrow night, not reply until then.
Then whilst she is away just keep no contact.God I wish I could understandwomen, this one is a particular emotional retard as am I. Past few days has really made me realise that I have to get back to the postitive me and not get the run of the mill stuff drag me down. It also reinforced that, she is my best friend as well as the love of my life. I have to just keep making positive steps.
This was the messages this morning.
Me:Morning,
I will let you know the results today if that’s ok. Just heading over to get the ultra sound now. Thanks for coming yesterday, helped massive amounts.
You got loads on by the looks of yesterday so don’t want to pull you away from work. That’s more important than waiting around hospitals.
Have a safe flight home and hope the weather holds up for the weddings. Tell Chris to keep it together for your sake lol.
Oh and hope gemma is ok as well.
Her:
I haven’t got loads on, I would have come with you, silly sausage.
Let me know what they say today, it will be fine. XSo I was waiting for her to reply to the messages we where having last night. She initiated a conversation, feels like we are both trying to not come across to keen and just keeping it friends. Then she just stopped replying. Like she is trying to get me to have the last word.
Gonna send the message this morning then go back to no contact. That put a dampener on yesterday, but I get why she closes down.
She was also there today when I had a formal offer for a new job already, I couldn’t help but be excited about the new job.
Thanks Finn, you have been a star.
So I am going to write this.
Thanks again for coming today, you have a lot of work on and I don’t want to pull you away from that. However if there is any major developments I will let you know. I hope you have a nice trip home for the weddings.
Update after today.
Advice would be great.
So after a full day at the hospital and she insisted on coming. She somehow managed to keep me relaxed, few awkward moments but nothing we couldn’t laugh about.
We basically just joked and laughed most of the day and I payed a lot of interest in to her new business venture. I didn’t want to talk about the hospital to much.
I am back at the hospital tomorrow and she has asked if I would like her to go. Not sure what to do. Not sure if I should thank her for caring and initiate no contact again.
She made a passing comment today saying some of the stuff at the hospital will give her ammo for a month down the line.
She also goes away to weddings for the next two weeks. So would this be a good time to NC and leave it on a somewhat happy note.
Really appreciate this advise, really struggling to show an upbeat positive vibe. Due to thinking the worst about my health, I am taking it from a friend who cares about someone perspective.
Then once she has come with me and showed support explain I am sorry to have forced the contact. I think we should both keep our distance for a while.
I have to agree with everything you have said, I don’t know why I just turned to going out because I felt terrible. She doesn’t need to see me like that and I wasn’t intentionally trying to blackmail her.
All she wanted to see was that I am not reliant on anyone. This new guy thing I really am not sure what to think about that, but she seems happy.
I was doing so well with the no contact, hen I just go and act like an idiot.
This site is invaluable and I appreciate all the advise.So I’ll take her tomorrow and then start back no contact.
what about this whole not taking no for an answer, with regards to going to the hospital with me.
i am so frustrated as i thought i was getting there, she is on holidays now for 3 weeks. that will help a lot.
the constantly mentioning this new guy she works with though, am i reading to much in to that.
thanks
