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She is just making sure your still around at the moment.
The test should be can you prove to your self you don’t need to be clingy.
If you annoy her whilst she is away trying to relax. Chances are you will ruin it.
She told she wants to do those things because she does care, time will tell if she cares enough to see past it all.
Just let her chill and let her contact you. She is on holidays, this is the test now don’t become needy.
So tonight I thought f it.
Time to put my self out there again.
So out of practice it’s unreal ha ha
Is she on holidays?
If she is leave her be until she gets back.
Easier to give advices than receive in my case lol.
Let her see you don’t need her as an emotional crutch. This is where I fell down.
I know trust me that contact can spin your head all over the place.
Don’t pursue her now keep it cool.
Baz,
I know j am fortunate co sores to some. However in many ways people jsit leaving not looking back let’s you move quicker.
This is the second time this has happened and she plays the oh I don’t lead you on or I don’t want you to wait for something that might not happen. She would never tell me she met someone, to protect my feelings. I jsit hope she didn’t have me in the bed whilst seeing her boss.
As I meant to mention I saw a message by accident, genuine accident saying how awkward she felt seeing me that day when I was having coffee. Her friend saying perhaps don’t date I. Public but then a load of laughing faces.
Just really confused as if she is or has done that, she isn’t the person I thought she was.
Agreed, just majorly confused and all over the place. So much negativity in my life past few months.
I just want to come out the other side
Be as blunt as you want mate.
It is pretty clear she cares, but can’t get passed her issues and can’t forgive and forget.
I have changed an awful lot and have really worked on a lot of things. This website and you guys have helped so much.
I love the girl to bits never felt like this at all in my adult life.
She said our best chance to work would be me moving. It’s this was after I had made the decision. I also told her that I would have gone even if we where still together.
Not sure why I am writing her, as my pending departure comes ever closure. I am getting more anxious.
She called me this morning, to see how things where going with moving and decided to tell me about a huge thunderstorm last night.
Was convinced I heard a guy talking in the back round.
She is being pretty back and forth with messages.
So I know everyone probably thinks I need to fuck her off.
But I feel so confused and I kind of wanted her to say goodbye and tell me she is with someone I am not ready to let go. This staying over has spiralled me in to an emotional free fall a bit.
Well we have exchanged a few messages back and forth, i feel like i am being awkward and it feels like its going cold again from her side. When we see each otehr she makes an effort and then it dwindles.
I have no idea what to think she has for sure been different this time round.
If only i could show you the screen shots of messages here.
I find it hard to text her like a friend.
Mate looked at the book it’s an out of date book by a pick up artist.
I couldn’t see how it would help really, it’s all about law of averages and picking up girls.
I am not like that and never will be.
I just need to try and get back to where I was again. The stress of trying to move isn’t helping me seek a security blanket.
Unfortunately I think becoming friends and developing from there is the only way to develop trust again.
I really angry at myself and her for what happened the other night. She new I went there to walk away and say goodbye. If she doesn’t want me why not just say.
She said she has just shut down and can’t think about anything right now. Told me not to wait for something that might not happen.
