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LA way Togo being strong man. Think best thing to do is get your self back to being settled. That’s what I want and most people do, it fair what she is doing really. However you’re stronger than most in your position. Could you guys both take a look at my most recent post. My heads fried after three months of mess tbh.
@penelope can I be cheeky and ask if you would look at my most recent post.
It’s almost three months now struggling to get answers.
Because you need to not be so available. She is gone at the min her head isn’t wanting it. You need to give her and you space.
That’s what I mean, you need to cut everything no contact completely. Nth you haven’t had a break from t all to really think ehat you need or want.
It hasn’t actually been two month as you have had contact. Keep going with the nc.
No the later is for after no contact, to much has happened at the present moment.
You need to giver her chance to stop thinking negative things about you.
What you need to do is get your self sorted.
Get comfortable with work and life without her as for now she is gone.
It’s tough dude it really is and I am not going to tell you it all gets better etc etc. that’s not what you need right now.
What you need is to stop all the emotional needy stuff go full contact and work on your self. Love isn’t enough there has to be trust and comfort.
I would say 30 days is no where near enough to get yourself sorted. Just don’t contact her until you can handle a response from her that would be worst case scenario.
Write a post up with your situation and I’ll have a look. I know how you feel. I did it out of desperation, everyone can relate to the book you just have to be clear thinking. It’s putting words in to action I didn’t get.
She is doing what all women seem to do, go to her safe option ego boost to know that your always there.
I was thinking that, I don’t rate the book at all. It just tell you things doesn’t go in any direction of how to implement a thing.
If she is worth it and she is the one, a little bit of patience. Taking it slow and getting to know the new people you have become. That time will be invaluable if you end up together for s very long time.
Just don’t get over excited and read to much in to what she said, remember she is struggling emotionally to. What you have been doing already works, so keep going.
can i just apologise for lashing out a bit, been struggling my self and reacted badly that day to someone giving me some tough love.
Solid I don’t want to be out of order here, I am all for a bit of tough love. But you are putting up your own posts and clearly not in a good place your self. People come to this site for guidance and help. If they wanted people to be idiots they would go else where.
Finn, you have helped no end. Is this really cheeky. Could we email a bit as she messaged me up until she flew this morning. Now radio silence.
j a s o n _ g r i f f in 26 at hot mail dot co dot UK
Sorry if that is cheeky
Hi guys, I trie to find the perfect time to wish her a good time away. But the no contact the last two days hasn’t worked. She has been messaging, I was doing well till I offered to lend her something to go home. She messaged me first today asking if I had spoken to my new employer about details.
Then was really funny banter all day, she went out tonight and is a bit tipsy. So is late packing for her trip. Messages me to say sorry she was out for drinks so couldn’t message. Etc. I have only been replying when I get the message from her but not really straight away.
So just finally got the message in saying thank you etc, she replies don’t be silly, you would have done the same for me x.
I feel a bit like I have been friendzoned.
