August 2, 2014 at 12:52 pm #1092DezzenParticipant
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Kevin, You suggest relationship rewind in your e-mails but the very first thing it seems to suggest is that the No contact rule is the wrong way to go about all this and it makes me hesitant to consider buying it and looking into what it has to offer.
Has anyone else tried it?August 3, 2014 at 11:23 pm #1232KevinKeymaster
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Ryan (author of relationship rewind) isn’t against no contact. He actually recommends no contact if you are in the “death’s door” stage of relationship. He doesn’t recommend no contact if you are in “drift” stage (when you read the book, you’ll understand these terms). I recommend no contact no matter what stage you are in; death’s door or drift. And it’s for one simple reason. You need no contact to regain your composure, your confidence, and to figure out whether or not getting back together is a good idea. No contact is important for you, not for your ex or to get them to miss you. Although, that’s a nice side effect of no contact.
Also, Ryan is against the idea that no contact alone will fix all the problem and get your ex back. And I completely agree with him. That’s why I recommend to get back in touch with your ex once you have regained your composure, confidence and have realized that getting back together is a good idea. And that’s why I recommend Relationship Rewind. Because once you get back in touch with your ex, you can use the tactics in relationship rewind and they are extremely effective in wooing them back.August 4, 2014 at 8:24 am #1264DezzenParticipant
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Very helpful and informative stuff here either way I think this website teaches a lot of valuable information. I am going to get Relationship Rewind when I can and use it once I’m done with no contact.August 5, 2014 at 3:40 pm #1470ZahraParticipant
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Thank you very much for the info Kevin! I’m done with NC (45-50 days) so I will check Relationship Rewind out now.August 5, 2014 at 7:57 pm #1512
I followed the 5step plan and it worked,and when my ex contacted me,i read Relationship Rewind and it really worked.although i just followed it until the first meeting ( i had so many issues in my own mind so i couldn’t follow the rest of it ),my ex almost wanted me back and confessed his love for me.so i think it works.August 6, 2014 at 11:22 am #1641ZahraParticipant
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That’s good to hear a.z! But you said ‘amost’.. what happened?August 6, 2014 at 1:26 pm #1660
Its been 5-6 months since we broke up.
I’m kinda sure that he could sense i wanted him back and he was sure that he was not losing me forever.i had some serious anger issue and we argued a lot even during last 5-6 months and it was really my fault all the times.and i really worked on it and i have really changed.i met him about 3 months ago,and he kept talking about his feelings for me and he also talked about a future with me.that night he found that i still loved him.
We broke up,i started NC,he contacted me after 34 days.I mixed the 5step plan and relationship rewind together and i was following it. he kept chasing me and talking about his feelings for me, he asked me out,he cried and again said how much he loves me over and over again.but he never asked me to get back with him.
I went to europe for 2 months,we were in touch,we had an argument and i went on NC for 20 days.he contacted me and kevin suggested me to break NC.he said again he talked about his feeling,cried and said he feels bad without me and he kept asking if i was dating or having sex with someone and that he couldn’t handle that.again he didn’t say anything about getting back.
I came back,he asked me out twice and i made some excuses because i didn’t want him to think i am always too interested and i also missed him so much and i didn’t want to ruin everything acting emotional.
We never met again and he said that he missed me many times.we had 2 arguments again and then he called me and said that he loves me but we can’t get back together because its only gonna make more and more arguments like before and that he can’t handle that anymore.i said it was fine and i never asekd him to get back with me.
Until 2 weeks ago i guess,i texted him and i said that i love him but we should stop contacting each other and both of us should move on and that none of us can start a new relationship when we are still in touch.
HE said he can’t forget me and its really hard for him,then he said please give me a chance to see you,then he said:don’t do that to me,suddenly cutting every thing off…i can’t handle that.
I have been thinking since then and i thought i couldn’t see him again just to say goodbye.so i texted him and asked him to finish everything and i said i was sorry for breaking the deal and the meeting could keep me from moving on.he said he loves me again and wished me all the best,so did i.and he said he hates my next bf,fiance,husband.we exchanged some other texts and in one of them he told me not to think about a future with him and get on with my life with kisses.
That was it 😀
IAugust 6, 2014 at 1:53 pm #1668Robot 3Participant
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Relationship Rewind has a general approach. Its slightly hard to apply because your personality may not match the approach and it will takes a while to impersonate it. Secondly, when you get emotional, you again show your real self.
To my understanding its not all-cure but a good general approach. I believe that approaches can be more specific depending on that persons self-esteem (really important), personality, age, sex, culture, etc. However, I liked Relationship Rewind because it helped me dismiss/approve some of the rules that I had already made in my mind.
About a.z., she is kind but angry! It was she who broke up but wanted him back! She got mad at her ex when he said happy birthday to a girl, but she went on dates! ha ha ha… I like your approach a.z.! Really!
You know a.z., when you said, “I don’t know when they became friends on Facebook”, in a comment, it made me laugh! Were you stalking you ex of Facebook the whole time? ha ha ha…
Best of luck everyone!August 6, 2014 at 1:59 pm #1670
😀 LOl no not really. imeant i didn’t know how they became friends.i told you the story and i thought they didn’t know each other’s names :)))
I wasn’t stalking him Dara:)))) i just saw him when he liked her photo a couple of times,then i ignored it but then i couldn’t stop myself and checked her profile.i know it wasn’t right and i regret it.that’s why i insist on DO NO STALK HIM/HER on each of my advices LOl
Yeah i have no idea why i acted like that when i was dating and having sex :O :)) i believe i am crazy. and dara,i created a new thread on reconciliation section and named it oldies.go and check it you will really believe that i actually am crazy:DAugust 6, 2014 at 2:18 pm #1674Robot 3Participant
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ha ha ha ha… I did not mention that you had sex to make this discrepancy digestible to others! Its okay! I am also crazy but I have full control over it, I mean most of the times! LOL
Well, lets see what you created! 😀August 6, 2014 at 2:56 pm #1690
Digestible LOL i feel really good,you made me laugh so hard with both of your posts:))))) love you old friend xxAugust 17, 2014 at 7:41 pm #3542
I have relationship rewind but my ex behaves so confusingly I can’t figure out if I’m drifting or deaths door !August 18, 2014 at 7:34 am #3576AndyKParticipant
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hey everyone, is Relationship Rewind basically just 3 separate pdf files of each step?August 18, 2014 at 8:28 am #3579
I got confused by it first I got 2 PDF the vol 2 was missing, so since I could get anyone to fix the issue I re bought the apied for a refund for first, refund came very quickly, new purchase was just one book which might be all three in one but I totally can’t tellAugust 18, 2014 at 8:30 am #3580
Oh no typo ” I applied for a refund” that service is prompt only be day , I’m really not sure if I have all the material now and I found Kevin is the only one who actually ever replies !
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