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Or @oshi disagree if you like.
She is all over the place, doing what she can do to stop you moving on, keeping you in limbo.
Seeing if she came move on first!
Gingertone,
You have no clear evidence, continue down your path. She is single maybe just exploring things. Is he a friend does he know you?
Why would he look at you then try something?
Yep.
Gut tells me she has moved on and I have forced myself in limbo due to her head games.
I was going to do a post today and really suggest counselling.as with all things it gets harder Before it gets better.However I really suggest a mindfulness programme. This weekend I am doing 16 hours of it, desperate times call for desperate measures.
However after day one I have realised we are all perfectly imperfect and life is full of shit. If our partners can’t deal with that and deal with out messiness. Then sorry but they aren’t worth us at all.
I agree with nc and straight sfter a break space is what works and should happen. However further down the line go with your gut.
Sorry to jump in guys think j may need the more direct approach of solid on this one lol.
At what point do we all think,rather than listening and reading websites. Do you we just follow our gut. Some people are hair to stubborn to reach out. I fear this is happening with me ok it’s only been almost two weeks of nc again. Also to almost three months since the break up. I am just sick of do this do that make her want this. When gut says just get some answers and move on or sort shit out.
I hoe she does and good luck, as it seems your both heading down the path of induce use lives going well.
So why not try and re-kindle with the positive vibes.
I was doing fine until the hospital week. Where everything seemed really positive.
Like you say time is a great healer and teller.
I am trying to not be a buzz kill, I agree just keep it cool. As my ex did this a few weeks back now she is back to jsit after the break up behaviour.
I completely get what your saying.
I don’t want this bit to make me sound like a dick.
This week I have thought I need to see how the new me will be received so I went on a date and have a couple more lined up. Past week I also joined tinder, just for attention more than anything.
I am not struggling to get dates or attention. However I just feel totally guilty. Which is making me realise a bit, I want to be with this girl not pour her with love and affection but have food times like we used to.
Really thought this one was it, but riddles with past issues that where boxes away. My ex now helped me face them and and could see I was a good person. However I don’t think she wanted to deal with the exposure to me dealing with the issues.
Which kind of isn’t fair.
If she has someone or not, I hope she can one day let someone in. Because 10 months was enough for me to know. All the major steps where taken by her, she took me home at Christmas to meet the family and friends no BF has ever met the parents. So I don’t get her behaviour now. Thanks guys
It’s amazing how us guys get better and calls get worse most of the time.
Questions why we need all these games, if you love someone make it work if not tell them to let you go.
Let’s hope so, I am not going charging in like a bull in a chine shop. So think that’s why she accused me last week.
Today has thrown a spanner in the works, I have been offered two interviews for two jobs in Dubai.
Makes complete business sense for me to move.
I agree with what your saying, been wondering did someone help her along the way to her decision. As the night before she was up all night on her phone.
Then the old phone call to bin it off.
I have been speaking to someone since the split and increased the visits after I didn’t react so well to heartbreak.
I like I keep saying I just don’t get the major hot and then cold again recently.
I suppose I am looking for an answer no one can give. It’s just good to see other people’s views.
I wish I could help lol, but I am no position lol.
She is replying that’s the main thing, maybe takes a while for her to warm back up.
I tried to keep it really brief, so to answer some of your points. I have stopped drinking and really using this site and close friends to help rationalise a few things.
I didn’t really accuse her of seeing someone just all weird behaviour leads to that thought process.
I have seen a marked improvement in my self I am just at the stage now where I don’t get why she tells her friend she knows the me I was that week and other stuff. Then goes radio silence and accuses me of being at her house. Almost a week nc now. Just worried the longer it all goes on the more she drifts.
