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There has been absolutely no contact (on my behalf). He broke up with me back on 4/26th (I tried to reconcile for a few days and then I just completely stopped). I didn’t wish him a hbd and he wrote about it on fb and contacted a family member about it(saying that was the final straw).
He blocked and deleted me on social media but I still can see what he post and I just saw a post where he put a man walking away and said “It was just time to let go and walk away”.
Prior to him posting that message he has called and text msg’d a family member of mine to ask about bringing my belongings, to express his feelings, etc. He even wrote a fb status about me saying he hopes i’m happy and that he’s not bitter. He also sent the same message in the form of a text to my family member (because I sometimes use their phone).
I am so confused. He hasn’t contacted me (directly on my phone or via email) however, he writes sublimiinal messages and will contact everyone but me. It’s truly driving me insane! Why is he being so stubbourn? What is he thinking?
he will give up soon .. keep your head up.. you are going well.. men acting strange sometimes, but he seems he still have feeling and suffering thats why he still posting things.. .. at least better than my ex how text and start conversation and when i start to be nice and open up and show my feelings he simply pulled back.
He’s the opposite of what he claims to be, it seems: he’s angry, but in a more passive way if you know what I mean.
I think you should let it all simmer down … let him contact you, because then you’ll know he’s calm enough.
Hi NewMe15, he is def hung up on you so stay strong. If he was cool with everything he would just walk. These sound like cheap efforts of contact which, if you respond, serve no purpose other that to assure him you are still there. Stick with NC and I am sure he will realize he needs to man up. He is acting all over the place but he needs to get past the emotion side of things. I believe he will then start to see how much he misses you.
He was inboxing his childhood girlfriend and telling her that he thinks about her often and will always remember her bday. He down played it and then became angry when I became billigerant. He broke up with me and I apologized for my behavior (but he refused to accept it).
Thank You. It is truly difficult to stay sgrounded during this time we have been through so much together.
It sounds like your ex is trying to feed you crumbs to make you get emotional again. You stay strong also, things will get better. Did you do a complete 30 days of NC?
Thank You, I understand what you’re saying. I just hate the games and the stubbourness (I feel like I am responsbile for it b/c of being so emotionally invested).
I was actually thinking of completing my 30 days and not contacting him after. What do you think of this?
Thank you so much for that. You know at times it does make me question everything like: Is he really done? Why is he acting so carefree? why is he not contacting me directly? I just really hate the mind games and the methods used to deliberately hurt me.
I am definitely going to stick with it. I guess it is a good thing he hasn’t contacted me directly wanting to reconcile at this time and that I haven’t seen him. I just hope this will be a success.
No I didn’t I initiate the breakup then the second day he break up with me i think just with the feeling its him not me lol.. then he blocked me from all communication and restricted me on facebook .. i lost it then by accident i realized he text me on Whatsup asking me if am calmer this was 3 days after the raw. I was supper happy and replied like a fool after 5 days from breakup .. and look now he is give me the cold shoulder after I open up .. I think we need to strictly apply NC no matter what .. .. I would appreciate your feedback .. thanks so much.
Please stay strong all will be good. sure your ex cares about you but he only want to comfort himself. I think its only a mental game but really sucks!! because it hurts like hell but once we figure out how to play the game and know its only a matter of time we will feel much better.
Yes I do think it is very important you stick to the full 30 days. It seems as though he is testing you to see how far he can go to get a rise out of you. It’s okay, you made a mistake (responding to him immediately) but you can fix it by sticking to 30 days (I truly believe it is the only way to restore your self confidence, independance and most importantly your respect!
I think you should purchase a step by step guide to follow up on after fulfilling the “no contact” I most definitely would like to.
yes, it is very hard but we will get through it. We will be strong together :). Today makes day 18 for me.
Thx dear :).. His birthday next wednesday 🙁 i dont know if i should text him or just ignore.. if you can go to my page please and check mt post on just break up and give me your insight i will highly appreciate it because i need advice and its complicated
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